baby shower sister in law drama

mad

I and my sister in law are pregnant this is my first pregnancy and her second pregnancy. she is already planning a man shower and her baby shower. she is acting pretty competitive with the shower stuff. we are do at the same time and I don't want to overwhelm and people with all the shower stuff. we are not due until november 30th. how do I go about not getting jealous when this will be her second shower and she rt is planning all the stuff 4 her own shower already. and I am worried about all the other people feeling overwhelmed with 2 showers so closes. and I have a feeling my mother in law will try to combine them but I don't really want to because this is my first pregnancy and her second pregnancy

momof22be

U should just do it a month before or after hers it will be OK try before just tell one of ur friends to plan it and there's nothing no one can do about it.

aidensmommy6911

try to have yours first, the family will have to understand that there will be two babies added to the family, dont think about competitiveness, think about how special yours will be and another good thing is buy a journal, and have everyone who comes write their thoughts and good advice in it so you have something to save and you know all those people care about you.

MrsStanley_x2

Wow I swear you just wrote from my life. I have the exact same problem! Its taking everything I have not to kick her rear and tell her to stop being selfish and competitive. Good luck girl!

caitiecakes

I feel your pain..not pregnant at the same time but when my sil was pregnant she acted like everyone needed to bow and kiss her feet...dramatic.

Like another poster suggested have one of your friends plan it and then there's nothing she can say about it..plus this is your first..should pay more attention to you...even she should. Just my opinion.

jmask

Same is going on with me lol but this is both of our first pregnancies and she's only due a week before me...I feel bad because I would rather the family buy for them instead of us...me and my boyfriend can provide for ourselves...we both work 40 plus hours a week and do for ourselves and neither of them have jobs so they need everybodys help more than we do...

mad

yeah and she is being very dramatic. I know every pregnancy is different but she is being very dramatic making everyone bend over backwards for her