i need help! :(

gabbysmommy

So i just took a pregnancy test today and it came back positive so i told my bf...now he's talking about an abortion and stuff like that...he already has 2 kids and he's good friends with their mother and he doesn't want to mess that up...what do i do? Im not having an abortion but i can't do this on my own and Im really not sure how to tell my parents..

valentinasmommy

You don't need a man.you can do it on your own. I would move on away from him.that's not right,what he said. Why can't you tell them? Just tell them.I told my mom that's she's gonna be a grandma.that was it.

Moroccanmexicanbaby

The father of the fetus told me the same thing. I still wouldn't do abortion for the reason that condoms and contraceptives exist and Are cheap than a baby. If he didn't want more babies then men like mine and yours should be snapped. It is that simple. You will regret killing a child if you proceed.

gabbysmommy

My bf wanted a boy because he has 2 girls but now all of a sudden that changed...I told him last wk I wasn't feeling good and since then he's been kind of distant and its scaring me and as for my parents theyr not the easiest people to talk to and I'm really not sure how to bring it up

[Deleted User]

Let me just say this. There are NO guarantees this cat is going to stick around... BUT that will ALWAYS be your baby. If he's not willing to step up and support his child, well that's not someone you want to influence your child anyway. Not to mention, he's not man enough to be YOUR man. This baby is a part of YOU. DON'T throw it away for a douchbag!

valentinasmommy

I would flat out tell them.what can they do?

Moroccanmexicanbaby

Besides, having that child, can bring you a whole new meaning. Trust me, the child will love you as you love God yourself. Think of it that way.

gabbysmommy

I'm not planning on having an abortion I just don't think I can do this myself

gabbysmommy

Thanks guys I really appreciate this

momtobe19

You shouldn't put your boyfriends friendship ahead of your own feelings. For him to ask that of you is very selfish of him.

You definitely can do this on your own. There are many women on here and all over that do it all on their own, you just have to do what you have to do and if you need support, ask for it.

[Deleted User]

And your parents may be madas hell, but they WILL get over it... I had to tell my 6'9" 350lb sicilian daddy that I was preggy at 16... wasn't easy, but HE LOVES ME AND GOT OVER IT! Its really not as bad as you think it is!

Moroccanmexicanbaby

Your parents will freak out as most do. I feel you!! But try having a close relative to help you with support and in the long run, your parents will love your baby!!! Just give time to time.

one5one

Id sit with mom & dad & tell them. Yea they might be mad but its their grandbaby. They'll get over the initial shock & fully support you in your decision to have your baby. As for your bf, id dump him. He would rather you abort your baby so his relationship with his babymom stays good?? Um normal people don't think like that. So obviously she means more to him than you & your child. What a douche!! Just talk with your parents. You may be surprised how they react & how supportive they can be. Like @praying4our3rd said. Nobody regrets their child, but way too many regret abortion.

Proudmommy8789

just tell your mom that you toke a test and want her to go with you to go do the blood test for support. get her involved she will get over it and love that you are including her or your dad which ever you feel move at ease with

[Deleted User]

@praying4our3rd and @one5one... WORD!

[Deleted User]

Lol well I prefer the phrase "word to shirley" because that is MY mother, so I would like all "words" to be directed to her ... but it means "preach".. to the mother part, not quite sure... I shall research and get back to you.. @praying4our3rd

happiimommy89

You can always talk to your midwife and explain to her....she can help you tell your parents if you don't want to say ....my sister told my father that way she was 16 at that time 6 yrs ago ..she took my father saying she needed him in the hospital for some parental permission they had a group meeting and he found out he was so dissapointed and shit talking but after lil angel came that's his baby now lol my mother was happy and scared cus dad didn't know so she was glad that my sister took him to the hospital to tell him not that my dad would of hit her he wouldnt be that stupid but she was just scared dad always been strict ...her bd is a jerk to she got her shit straight she's a single mom to...I hope everything turns out for the best for you baby girl really I feel for you I've witness this first hand and it isn't pretty...

[Deleted User]

@praying4our3rd.. after careful deliberation I have come to the conclusion that word to your mother means "respect to the motherland".

clope18

My BD was the same way for like 3weeks after I told him I was pregnant, he was all for abortion & said having a baby would be a mistake & ruin his life. I would never kill my child. But now I'm 26weeks4days with a little boy & he is very excited. He wants to name the baby after him...but with the way he acted in the beginning I would never consider naming my child after someone who called him a mistake..does that make me a bitch? I hope not ;/

Bebita86

if he would ask u to have an abortion then he never really loved u.. tell ur parents and leave him

Bebita86

@clope18 name him wutever U want

2lilblessings

F him that lil bean is ur blessing what a selfish ahole I can't stand men like that if he doesn't want to be part of it let him ur baby will always be there for u

one5one

I was 19 with my first & hub was arguing with me & blurted to my parents. But mom was happy!! As for my cousin. She had her kid 4 yrs ago at 25 yrs old. Cousin lived at home & still does. The bd was living with his fiance & 5 kids. My aunt was pissed!! Didn't attend her shower. Now my cousin doesn't want my aunt to attend mine. Cousin now has no job & is a pathetic POS. But her mom love that boy & does everything for him. Basically you never know how parents are gonna act. Plus most change for the better after babys born.

Mybabe

Is he still involved with his kids mother??? Because what does her approval matter???

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@praying4our3rd... it has other meanings, but it originated from folks of the african descent giving kudos to other members of the same... I like the interpretation of giving props to the mother of an awsome one ( that is me) for creating such a beautiful ball of wonderful (again that is me)... lol

[Deleted User]

Sooo... word to shirley....

[Deleted User]

Vanilla ice is a joke who did NOT read the urban dictionary before adding the quote to his lyrics... lol... @praying4our3rd

[Deleted User]

@praying4our3rd... are you fishing for trolls?? Lol

[Deleted User]

@praying4our3rd... my ADD is on full blast this morning, so there is NO way I can follow that, sooo... when you figure out WTH is going on, you let me know, k? And word to shirley, frosty cock. Over and out..

2lilblessings

I forgot to mention but resrch in ur area there is churches, organization etc... who r willing to help and support pregnant single moms

Proudmommy8789

@babynumbersix LMAO!!!!... are you really on number six!! wow!! i want 4 and i still think thats alot!!