what do i do when it comes to the "us" situations??? MEN PLEASE READ TOO!!!!
Idk how to handle all this chaos! I need him around. But he says he is getting tired of being around me. Its making me hate being pregnant. We have been together since before my freshmen year. And I will be graduating this year. I love him so much and we have been through a lot of hard times. I'm around him more than I am my family at home. There's not really any communication between us. Idk how he feels, he told me he loves me and wants the baby. But that's all I get out of him. To me he feels distant from me, since we found out. Is it bc I don't wanna have sex as offten, is it bc I'm gonna be fat soon, maybe Is it bc i like to go to bed early now. idk! Id rather keep him than let my belly&baby get in the freakin way. I need some men advice on this one. How do I keep him? And why is he being so distant from me? I don't mean to bitch so much I didn't even kno it was all my fault. What do I do for "us"??????
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When we found out I was preggo we were broken up and he tried to play me saying if wasn't his etc big as the months went by we got back together and things were looking up he was sweet and everything I basically lived with him while preggo he started around two months after the baby then we started having issues broke up retired to wish out of didn't work notes I'm preggo again and where is he not here and now he has another girl preggo
Basically right now he probably scared hopefully he comes around and stays around
Right now, you need to focus on your health, your changing body, & your future. If the father sticks around, awesome! But if he doesn't, you're still going to be a mom & your little one is going to need you & love you SO much. S/he will absolutely change your life; how you think, how you make decisions, how you look towards the future.
I hope your man sticks with you & steps up to his responsibility. It took the two of you to create this life, & your baby deserves to know both parents & be close to you both. But if he bails on you, don't lose hope! He may still come around, even after his child is born. If not, he wasn't worth your time or energy, & the future will bring a good man into your life.
Best of luck, sweetie!!
ive given him alot of time and energy... were still not merried.. my choice.. good luck.. oh and having mixed feelings about your preg isnt something you should feel guilty... just go through your feelings
I have 2 daughters. My oldest father left me 2 months pregnant because I refused an abortion, guess who's jealous of my life now.
My husband, who is not the same man as my older daughters dad, and I have a daughter with twins on the way he's an amazing daddy to both of our girls and will be to the twins we are expecting in June/July.
You can and will find someone if this guy doesn't step up to bat. Guys get scared and need help apologizing, so give him space and take care of you and your baby.
So don't stress for anything give him time and space don't be all up on him trying to find answers to his behavior towards you right now!! You guyz are young and he might need time to think about what's gonna happened!! Relax and everything will be ok!! If you need to talk I'm here
Good luck and relax and try to be stress free!!
@honestlyhopeful I'm sorry for yur bad nite w him. I do hope the best for yu and yur baby. And yes I do need to be independent and I am of coarse trying my best. All of y'alls advice has really helped me. I check my pregly at least 6x a day to get more advice. And @lae3 I try to talk to my mom but as I mentioned before my family isn't the best to rely on. That's a bit of a confusing situation. Although today I called my dad crying, and just to say, my dad and I don't usualy talk that much bc we bump heads to much. But today we had a good talk. So I do hope our relationship changes through all of this. Even though he is the one to say " I told yu so, all yu had to do was listen to me and yu wouldn't of got yur self stuck". I really feel that I need to start listening to my dad way more, if I would of stayed living w him I would of been better off today and if I got pregnant like now I don't think I would of been so scared. I would of deff had a lil money saved up, a car, and a good job. My moto now is " the smallest things and decisions can effect yur whole life".. all I have to say to myself now is I SHOULD HAVE LISTENED TO DADDY!!!!!