Sad, depress and threaten pregnancy. *Update*

edited February 2011 in Health
I had my last period on Dec 8, 2010, on January 16, 2011 after a week of missing my period we tested positive on 4 different pregnancy test. It was fine until 3 days ago when I started spotting pink, then it esculated to spotting red blood and bad cramps last night. I had enough and my husband and I went to the ER. The docs checked my vitals, drew blood, cervix and pelvic exam, ultrasound and a transvaginal ultrasound.

I don't know if its because we were in a military ER, but the docs didnt know why i was bleeding or cramping, the doc said I was definately pregnant and had a gestational sac but they couldn't see what, or if anything was inside the sac. He said there were 3 possibilities, 1 its too early, 2 failed pregnancy or 3 ectopic pregnancy. I have a follow up on Tue to get probe some more and check my hcg level against todays numbers.

This is our first pregnancy, I'm scared, worried, stressed and numb. I'm afraid of the last two possibilities but hopeful for the first and for clearer answers on Tue. I just felt like I needed to talk to someone and let it out.

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  • I'm so sorry. With my first baby I was so scared of everything. I will be praying for you and your baby.
  • U and ur hubby deserve major thanks first off for being in the military. Try and relax, think positive and pray. Best of luck. God bless
  • Thank you gabmommy and dobiemomma. I appreicate your kind words and support. We are hopeful and tomorrow can not come any sooner. I will keep you guys updated.
  • Wot was.ur hcg
  • Keylo050, the doctors didnt tell me when we were in the ER but said the OB doctor should have access and will be able to tell me when I see him tomorrow.
  • What is hcg levels? What does that mean?
  • HCG is a hormone that is produce when you become pregnant. You can probably find a better explaination of it online. Its suppose to double every 48-72 hours if you are having a normal pregnancy. Doctors use to tell if you are having a normal pregnancy or possible miscarriage depending on if its going up or down.
  • i had sonogram at 4
    weeks...didnt see nothing..they did hcg level it was 375 so im def pregnant..i have to go back at 7 weeks....i pray everything is ok...i wish us the best of luck..
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  • KatNeal, I hope all is well with you too. Let me know how it goes.
  • Just an update for those who were following. My husband will probably not approve of me writing on this forum but I know it'll help me.

    Last night, I started bleeding really bad and cramping. I went to the the bathroom to pee and noticed there was two large blood clots. I instantly knew something was wrong and I cried all night until I fell asleep. In the morning, I woke up to pee and same thing... blood clots and cramping. I cried all morning until I went back to sleep and then headed to to my doctor's appointment that afternoon.

    At the appointment, the doc performed a transvaginal ultrasound and showed me my uterus which at this point had nothing in it anymore. She explained that chances are I had pass the gestrational sac along with the blood and cramping so pretty much I had a miscarriage. My husband and I pretty much knew the night before that it wasn't a good sign so we had prepared for the worst but hoped for the best.

    I know this is common but it just hurts so much and I just can't stop crying. I try not to think about it but I feel like I've just lost a peice of me or a piece of me has died. I have learned a lot and know that things happen for a reason and I am hopeful about the furture especially when it comes to us trying for kids.

    Thanks to all for your support and encourgement.
  • Aww sweetheart I am so sorry. This happened to my husband and I last year. However, we went in for an ultrasound and there was no heartbeat. I ended up having a d and c. It is really hard, but your right things happen for a reason and we may not always know the reason. The good news is it happened, you know you can get pregnant :) it will happen again for you! It took us another 6 months but I am now 26 weeks now, and we are expecting a baby girl in May. I wish you the best of luck. And I think talking about the miscarriage helped me. I am hear to listen
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  • @zoua thank u for the explanation. Im so sorry u went thru this. I wish u the best in trying to have another baby.
  • I'm sorry for your loss this happened to me a few months ago and I was very depressed over it but looked forward to heeling so I could try again. I'm pregnant now at 6weeks and everything is good so far. So try again once your body heels and have hope that it won't keep happening just keep your head up.
  • I am SO sorry for your loss! I suffered my first miscarriage at 7 weeks in October 2008 (had to get a DNC), & my second came in April 2009 (natural, like yours). Both were devastating. The pain is very hard to describe to someone who has never experienced it. But I am currently 20 weeks pregnant with a baby girl, plus I was told I would never be able to even have kids when I was just 14 years old. So do NOT give up hope!! When your body & heart have healed enough, you'll know if it's right to try again. In the meantime, talk to other women who have been through it, even if that means seeking out support groups. Don't keep all the hurt inside...it helps SO much to reach out. We're hear for you, & I'm sending you my love. Xoxo!
  • So sorry for your loss *hugs*
  • Thank you everyone for your kind words and inspiring stories. It is definitely appreciated during this hard time.
  • I had a scan a week ago was told the sac was empty and the the pregnancy is not going very well :-( but I went back on monday and they found the heart beat :-D just hold on in there coz yo really never know good luck :-)
  • I've had a miscarriage and lost a baby. The pain is soo deep and so sharp. Time will soothe ur pain. And hope.. there is hope of a brighter tomo. When I miscarried two months later I found myself preg. God has a perfect plan. You and ur husband will pull through. With advice and understanding that you can share with other hurting moms in the future. Cry out every tear..it some how really helps.
  • Zoua im so sorry I had 3 miscarriages one being one being my daughters fraternal twin and this last oct I went to my ob appt I was 32 weeks and couldnt finds a heartbeat he passed away to a clot in his cord I was devistated but now im 6 weeks pregnant it will syaet hurting less but u wont forget I pray 4 u
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