extremely complicated!!
Extremely long story. Ill try to sum it up as best I can... first of all. I will ask you all not to be judgemental. Thanks.
First, I'm 19, My boyfriend is almost 25. Second, he happens to be my first cousin. We love each other very much but were not ttc. He lives almost 3 hours away and we currently see each other every two weeks. We have been making plans to get an apartment in his area with a friend of his. The past week and a half I have been experiencing some pregnancy symptoms and informed my boyfriend. He wasn't thrilled to say the least. He isn't ready for kids due to the fact that he is going to school to be a pilot and is extremely busy with that and work. He was just visiting last week and we discussed the possibility of being pregnant and what would happen. I asked him if he wanted to know the results when I took the test (which I was taking the day after he left). He told me no. He wanted to know in person because he was afraid he would react the wrong way and end up not talking to me if it was positive. I took my test, 2 actually, both positive. Now I am stuck with this news for two weeks and I can't tell him. Its extremely hard to avoid on the phone. I've told my mom. And 2 of my cousins. I wasn't suppose to tell anyone except my mom. But I needed support from people I trusted other than my mom. Besides the fact that my mom works all the time and I have yet to actually discuss the results with her. I told her on the phone that it was a positive, but I want to sit down and talk to her and find out what the next step is... but she's always too busy, or else we are avoiding my stepdad since he can't find out or else I would be kicked out of the house. I'm extremely scared. And I honestly don't know where to begin with all this. I would appreciate all the help I can get! I am currently 4 weeks and 4 days. And I am due november 8th. thank you.
First, I'm 19, My boyfriend is almost 25. Second, he happens to be my first cousin. We love each other very much but were not ttc. He lives almost 3 hours away and we currently see each other every two weeks. We have been making plans to get an apartment in his area with a friend of his. The past week and a half I have been experiencing some pregnancy symptoms and informed my boyfriend. He wasn't thrilled to say the least. He isn't ready for kids due to the fact that he is going to school to be a pilot and is extremely busy with that and work. He was just visiting last week and we discussed the possibility of being pregnant and what would happen. I asked him if he wanted to know the results when I took the test (which I was taking the day after he left). He told me no. He wanted to know in person because he was afraid he would react the wrong way and end up not talking to me if it was positive. I took my test, 2 actually, both positive. Now I am stuck with this news for two weeks and I can't tell him. Its extremely hard to avoid on the phone. I've told my mom. And 2 of my cousins. I wasn't suppose to tell anyone except my mom. But I needed support from people I trusted other than my mom. Besides the fact that my mom works all the time and I have yet to actually discuss the results with her. I told her on the phone that it was a positive, but I want to sit down and talk to her and find out what the next step is... but she's always too busy, or else we are avoiding my stepdad since he can't find out or else I would be kicked out of the house. I'm extremely scared. And I honestly don't know where to begin with all this. I would appreciate all the help I can get! I am currently 4 weeks and 4 days. And I am due november 8th. thank you.
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@ProudMommie627 my mom is somewhat supportive. But like I said she's busy a lot and we haven't even had the chance to talk since I took my test. and my cousins def are. They don't exactly approve of the situation but they are here for me 100% and he's probably the main reason I'm even stressing at all. He's just worried that he won't be able to provide a very good life for our baby. Which I know we can. He just worries too much.
@kara_lamek he def is one of those guys. Lol. He worries about everything and stresses about stuff that is years down the road.
@Steeny I'm not going to say I'm completely ready but I'm not giving up my baby and ill do whatever it takes to make this work out.
@PreggoGiggles I am completely respecting his choice. And I refuse to tell him about it. He just makes it hard when he brings up topics that relate to the situation. I want to tell him sooo bad and when he brings things up its really hard to bite my tongue and avoid the subject. I'm sure he is gunna figure it out for himself... just because of all the subjects I avoid and change... but it def helps having a few people I can talk to.