pregnant with no help

tceddytceddy
edited March 2011 in Pregnant
I am a young teen mommie to be. Pregnant with twins who are due in April. Im am beyond excited to meet my little men. But it makes me mad that I get no help from my babies dad with is now my ex, I got pregnant in July and every since then its just been me and my mom who has attended every doctors appointment and help buy things for them. im so grateful for Her because without her my pregnancy would be the worst. But my ex has done nothing for our kids but he makes himself look like farther of the year to his friends when he has done nothing. He is a mommas boy and she says that they are not his which makes me even more mad because I don't believe she was there when my kids was made. He has never doubted them but he doesn't do anything for them. He sports they due date around on Facebook nd how much he love them cant wait for them to be here and etc but hasn't even gotten a box of diapers or a bottle. So with all that being said would I be wrong to let my kids call him by his name instead of dad.

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  • coolbabybeanscoolbabybeans
    It's a ways away to worry too much about them calling him anything right now hun. Maybe he doesn't realize that being a dad starts before the babys are born....most men don't even feel like dads until they hold their children in their arms, but it doesn't make it right. Sounds like he needs a wake up call and maybe an ultimatum. Are u guys together?
  • sammiesammie
    Atleast u have your mom to go to drs appts with u lol i always go by myself. I would wait until the babys are born and see if he steps up to his responsibilities.
  • Jersey_Mama16Jersey_Mama16
    Don't feel bad. I'm 16. Going through the same thing. Ha. Thank god for mothers. I'm here if you wanna talk?
  • Jersey_Mama16Jersey_Mama16
    Oh, and my babys father did the same thing. But he woke up and is finally helping.
  • briffyg89briffyg89
    I'm 21 and pregnant with my first baby and me and my daddy not together either..I'm due June 24 . I go to every doc appointment by myself and actually think he dnt care trying to say I cheated on him when we was together then when I told his mom she gne say she want fucking paternity test like I dnt know who is the father of my babygurl. Ain't nobody bought nun. But I got sum fa all of dem WHEN my girl arrives cuz dey all gne be running to the hospital. Dnt feel bad girl cuz I promise u not the only one going through dis... I hope he wakes up cuz twins are a beautiful thing. I also hope my bday wakes up...wish u da best
  • tceddytceddy
    @coolbabybeans -no we not together nd hasn't been since I got pregnant .
  • tceddytceddy
    And hopefully he would step up, but im taking him to court nd for some odd reason he doesn't think he gone pay anything. And he always saying he's trying but I see nothing. Note im only 19nd he is 22 nd I act more mature then he is
  • drea8drea8
    I'm 17 weeks and this is my first pregnancy and know how it feels to not have the baby's father there. I think its a horrible thing to go thru because you need help in so many ways especially emotionaly. If it weren't for friends and family I would be lost. Its not your fault you got stuck with a dead beat. Its not fair that you have to go thru this with out support from him. Hopefully he will change. My Guy asked me for this Child and the second I became pregnant he leaves for the bars...and has been gone ever since. Except for the hateful texts he sends just because he's a prick. I've learned to forget him and just focus on the wonderful life you have growing inside of you. He's missing out on a great connection he could be making with his kids.
  • tceddytceddy
    Yeah I so agree. Because he says he got me pregnant on purposes, if that's the case why not take care of them. Smh idk what to think anymore.
  • drea8drea8
    Because they are doing it for the wrong reasons. Probably because he didn't want you to go anywhere or be with anyone else or maybe he is just an idiot. Most are Haha
  • drea8drea8
    And from my experience. They do not change. Its all a lot of talk
  • tceddytceddy
    That's what I think its all talk because I've heard he was gone do this and do that and does nothing. 400 dollar baby bed that I got on ma own nd all he was saying was im gone bring you money but he NEVER showed up.
  • drea8drea8
    Well when it comes time to him wanting to take the baby over night( if he even wants to) don't let him use a damn thing. If he wants to have the child over night he should buy and do everything you had to. He Probably doesn't care because his life hasn't changed and yours has. He doesn't have to go thru the ups and Downs. And the doctors or expenses. He's in for a rude awakening. And I hope everything works out for you! He will regret this in the long run and eventually it will catch up to him!
  • tceddytceddy
    He's ask how offened would I let him see them but I didn't have a answer because I don't know but they EVER spend the night with him
  • tceddytceddy
    Wont*
  • drea8drea8
    Well when the time comes make the schedule convenient for you and the baby. It should be set time ya know? He shouldn't be able to come and go as he pleases. He's not there so therefore its your body and your baby. You set the rules. Don't let him talk his way out.
  • tceddytceddy
    I like that. So it will be a schedule. He thinks that he doesn't have to do for them put play daddy to them. I've said things to him during arguments like they gone know somebody else as daddy or they gone call him by his name and not daddy and it kills him everytime.
  • drea8drea8
    Haha oh I do the same thing out of anger. If he doesn't want to be daddy There are lots of men that would be.. good men to. They aren't all losers. And don't let him tell you know one is going to want you. Cause that is so not true. Just don't go for the first one that offers. ... you don't want just any Guy around your babies.
  • tceddytceddy
    Yeah I know that for a fact. No one is around now I really don't think I need no one to make me happy
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