@salasmommy Bringing friends or family here to drink once in a while is ok, IF they respected this house as a family home, but that option went out the window when he decided to bring ALL his drunken cousins home after a party one night and they were yelling and making soooo much noise while my son and I Slept. So that was the end of that.
Not enough. I wish he'd get out of my hair/off my a** a little more often... maybe I need to go out more!!!
On a serious note, if he did go out every weekend, I'd be pissed! When his friend lived with us a few months ago, they would sit on our back deck and smoke cigarettes and drink beer for hours. Fine for his single-childless friend; not fine for daddy. Between nap, school, and work schedules, we have a limited amount of family-time. Bds need to value that time as much as we mommies do!!!
@scarlettsmama can your hubby have a chat with my bf about finances? I'm jealous because I'm sick of saying "no" to bf's ludicrous spending. I want to retire in 10-12 years...he HAS to have the newest TV, phone, computer or other gadget...and I'm sick of feeling like the only adult in the house. I want to be reckless with money; I want to be told "no"!
He doesn't go out without me if he did I would think that's weird. If we get chance to go out we go out together. Maybe u can talk to him about it if u haven't yet.
My boyfriend goes out or has a buddy or two over for guy time 2-4x a month. (Not including one of his best friends who comes over for dinner once a week, which I don't mind, I love the guy) We also go out together, but I recognize that he has a lot of close guy friends and he needs time with just them. I don't mind because I know his friends, and I knowmost of them are great guys. (It helps that I've known his closest friends since elementary or junior high). I know I can trust him not to do anything stupid, like get completely wasted or spend a shit ton of money... Plus, I sometimes enjoy having the night to myself after our daughter is asleep. Lol. At the end of the day, I think its good for us both to go out and have some time by ourselves with other people. I know he wouldnt cheat, he knows I wouldn't, so its not really an issue for us.
@natashalynn I know he won't cheat, that's not the issue. The issue is that its nit fair to me that he doesn't want to change his life much now that he is a father.
Ah fair enough. My bf did change his life, he's a hard worker, and spends a lot of time with us, but if he wants a night off and to go see friends, I don't mind. He let's me go out as I please, so it's pretty even on that front. If he were going out all the time and getting hammered and spending a ton of money on partying..well that'd be a different scenario.
I don't see how going out two weekends in a row is a problem. There are some who go out 3 nights a week every week or go out every weekend or ones who up and leave once the baby comes.
Never, actually. And not because I don't want him to.... He just doesn't find reason to. Or whatever he wants to go do he wants to do with me makes me feel special lol...
@Math_mommy I'm actually the bad one he's constantly lecturing me about money...he's like really cheap...and I love shoes....and bags.......and baby clothes lol
@mrs4c my comment didn't come out the right way lol...not saying if u go out alot u are a bad parent but its just not something I would do, or want my SO to do.
My husband rarely goes out. If he does and we don't go together, he waits til the kids are asleep. Ever since having kids I can't stay out late anyway. We usually just have friends over for dinner and drinks.
He rarely goes out without me, he's gone over to friends houses to watch football games and I would go too but lo has bedtime, so he goes and I stay home. So I guess that's not really going out lol.
@scarlettsmama No fair. I'm sick of paying bills, making spreadsheets, reading financial statements and other reports, and analyzing our finances six ways from Sunday. I want to shop frivolously (actually I wish cute clothes would just appear in my closet...I kinda hate the act of shopping...so, I guess I wish I could just bring myself to hire a personal shopper while the kids and I were at the park!)
Tell him he is limited to twice a month and the same for you. There is no need to become a hermitt bc u have a child. Everyone needs a break I know I lose IQ points everyday. Lol
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On a serious note, if he did go out every weekend, I'd be pissed! When his friend lived with us a few months ago, they would sit on our back deck and smoke cigarettes and drink beer for hours. Fine for his single-childless friend; not fine for daddy. Between nap, school, and work schedules, we have a limited amount of family-time. Bds need to value that time as much as we mommies do!!!