Valid excuse?

heyitsmeheyitsme
edited February 2013 in Not Pregnancy Related - NPR
My fiance says he can't buy me gifts or do nice things for me and surprise me because he doesn't have a drivers license.
Do you think that's a valid excuse?
I call bs. because really if he wanted to do something for me he could call for a ride or even walk

Comments

  • WilsomomWilsomom
    He could even order something off Amazon or somewhere & have it delivered!!
  • heyitsmeheyitsme
    ^^^exactly!!
    hes just lazy and won't admit it
  • babyinblack682babyinblack682
    Yea find a ride even if you had to pay a cab I'd be happy with a card
  • heyitsmeheyitsme
    And we have a shoppers drug Mart literally right across the street. wth man!!
  • Mrz_JacksonMrz_Jackson
    I just got my license Monday so from experience its sucks but still very possible an not hard I always ordered everythang online or he culd have flowers or things like that delivered
  • julesjules
    I think it's an excuse and if he really really wanted he would think outside the box in order to do something nice for you. That would upset me if my husband ever said that he knows better lol. Even if there's no money it's always nice to just have helping hand around the house and maybe do some cleaning for me or be the one to make dinner. It's still very sweet. It's the thought that counts!
  • MáthairMáthair
    edited February 2013
    He could order from almost every store online, get a gift card. Make a freaking card on the computer, or just a piece of paper and a pen. Or even just make you a special dinner.

    Last year mine cleaned the bathroom for me and I was content with that.
  • perlyperly
    Just tell him that online stores have better deals now a days than the actual store, so he has no excuse lol.
    Honestly, he is just making excuses. Some men think that if they get you something one year they have to top it off the next year and so on, and that's why they don't try. That might be the case with him.
  • captivatedcaptivated
    Some men just don't do things like that. Mine doesn't and it doesnt bother me a bit :) I'd rather that than him being "forced" or guilted into something that isn't from his own doing.
  • MorgDeeBeeMorgDeeBee
    My husband doesn't ever do anything I've learned to accept it.
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    I tell my husband to give me money. I would rather spend 50 bucks on something I want than to waste it on flowers or something I don't need.
  • Mackenzies_mama2010Mackenzies_mama2010
    My fiancé is like that too but it doesn't bug me thats who he is he isn't really romantic or nothing and im not gonna force him or get mad over something he isn't
  • starrxoxo9starrxoxo9
    @char me too!! Lol
  • RoxyRoxy
    its a excuse all men r different and he's just different
  • MyLove2MyLove2
    I agree with @captivated
  • julesjules
    I do not think if this is everything that does bother you that you should just learn to deal with it. My husband used to be very romantic then when he lost his job it got harder for him but since I like thing like that I had to just be honest and say that you would appreciate even something simple like cooked dinner. That's not forcing but rather being honest with your partner if this is the person you want to share the rest of your life with then you have to be honest with each other and learn things about each other and be able to communicate and meet half way. There are lots guys who are not romantic thinkers but if the women likes doing special things people should meet half way. Otherwise at some point you will be upset with him for it and that's not best in the long run. Don't give up just simply talk to him.
  • perlyperly
    I think sometimes its not about the actual gift, its about being acknowledged you know? I don't ask my husband for gifts and stuff like that because Im not used to that. Im not into expensive, name brand stuff... if i like it i take it whether its name brand or not. But, i do like it when he comes home with something for me, even the most simple thing. It makes me feel like he does think about me, like Im appreciated. Then again that's just me.
    By the way, Im not getting anything this Valentines so you're not alone :)
  • WilsomomWilsomom
    I think ppl also have different ways of expressing love too...some might give gifts, some spend quality time, some express with words & some ppl are physical (affection, not just sex), etc.

    Keep in mind that whatever expression someone uses, that's usually the one they crave. For example, my oldest son is a gift giver....so if I want to show him I love him I'll get him a gift.

    And most ppl don't know this so they might be showing you love but you don't see it because it's not the way you express it.

    Ok that was a little off topic, sorry, but maybe it will help someone. :)
  • perlyperly
    @wilsomom exactly! Sometimes its not about the gifts but about feeling loved. My personal opinion, i rather have my husband show me he loves me by washing dishes after i cook lol than getting me a gift. But like i said, that's just me.
  • natashalynnnatashalynn
    @wilsomom exactly right. There's a book that is something like, the seven ways to love, don't remember the exact title, but it describes how there are seven ways that people show love and want love, gifts, physical, words, doing things etc. Can be very helpful in relationships. I for one, do things to show people I love them. For example, I like making my man his lunch for work. Or folding his clothes. Simple stuff I know he hates doing. Its how I show that I love him.
  • AngelmonkeymelodyAngelmonkeymelody
    I don't have my license and i had a photo shoot done on saturday (because hubby works all day Thursday) and i still plan on making him dinner.
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