Both, I was when I was 15, I got put into a mental facility for minors for a week and got put on depression meds. They defiantly need to see at least a doctor. It's a very scary thing to think, have they told you how they would do it? If so then they've thought about it a lot
Definitely get them help, they need to start antidepressants and probably see a psychologist. You have a long road ahead, don't give up on them (not that I'm saying you will)
I wouldn't put them on drugs right away they just need to talk to physiologist sometimes can mean they feel like everything is big mess and they feel like they hate life don't want to be around anymore. I hope everything is ok.
Suicidal could mean anything from suicide thoughts/planning, depressed and feeling desperate, or self harm. Any way you spin it, its not good. And they need help.
I was suicidal from 13-17. And It was awful. Such a dark period of my life. Please seek help for whoever it is. I wish someone had for me.
My brother was a couple years ago. He was in a mental faculty for about a week. It was in the hospital. He came to me saying how he was depressed and couldn't take it anymore and talked about hurting himself and even killing himself. I didn't mess around, I told my dad. I didn't care if my brother was going to be mad at me, I wouldn't have been able to live with myself knowing something happened to him and I didn't do anything. He is doing a ton better now, I don't even think he's on meds anymore. He didn't really take them to begin with...he was suppose to but didn't.
Hoping for the best. I dealt with it, as did my sister who was in and out of psyc wards in hospitals for a few years. I'm pretty knowledgeable about it unfortunately, and its something I'm passionate about so feel free to message me here or on fb if you wanna talk.
@natashalynn Thank you, I appreciate that! I'll let you know what the dr says. It's my 17yo son. (not the one in house arrest) I swear I feel like such a bad parent lately. I can't even imagine how hard it is to be a teenager these days. I'm so glad I'm home schooling my younger ones.
Don't feel like a bad parent. Looking back on everything, I know it wasn't my parents fault. They were/are amazing people. I just struggled with people in high school. I hung out with a bad crowd, but stayed there cause I felt accepted and cool, they abused alcohol and drugs, and thus so did I. Once I graduated I cut off ties and was a lot better. Now I'm not saying they were my full problem, I had demons long before them but they definitely aggravated everything and made high school a very bad period of my life. At the end of the day though, it made me a stronger and much more compassionate person. Get him help, and make it clear that you're always willing to listen to him or just hang out. He may not take you up on it, but I know it'll be appreciated and help make him feel a lot less alone.
@natashalynn That sounds like almost exactly what's going on with him. He has some past issues with his dad leaving, our blended family, me being young, etc. And now he hangs out with some of the wrong people. Thanks for sharing, it helps me to see his point of view. I've been taking him out to lunch once a week alone just hanging out, no serious talk, & I think that's why he opened up & told me, which I'm so thankful for that.
Well hope he can feel better and I hope since he started opening up that u asked him if his ok with the idea BC sometimes they feel like here I am being honest and myparents think I have issues but other appreciate the help or will after they get chance sit down and talk with the doc and realize no one is judging just trying help! I think it will be ok he might just be overwhelmed with everything and might think it's his fault and that's the reason for not wanting to be around he thinks it will solve the problem. IM sorry I'm sure your worried lots prayers for him
Ya I had a few family problems, and looking back. Yeah they were problems but my whole family worked really hard for each other. And now. I have the best family. I know I can tell them anything and if I needed anything, they'd be there no questions asked. I'm really really REALLY glad he opened up and you're spending time with him. Make it clear that you love him unconditionally, and you always will. Sounds like you're on the right Track!!
Dont feel like a bad parent hun your doing something right if he opened up to you about it and wants to get help most teens dont say anything just bottle it up and make it worse
I had really bad depression at that age also and it had to do with issues with my family life hanging with the wrong ppl n such i use to cut myself every nite and had suicidal thoughts but never gelt comfortable to say anything to anyone
Glad that he's opened to getting help my brother was in and out of the mental hospital. He was dignosed bipolar and manic depressive he story didn't end well. He didn't cry out for help.he was way far into the depression. I'm glad that he is getting the help he needs.
That's soo great! I think he will be much better soon and this will create very special bond between you guys and I also think it will be good for the other one to see that mom is great caring person and you can count on her!
He's doing a partial hospitalization program, which means he goes there during the day then comes home in the afternoon. It's been 2 days & he really likes it. There's a lot of group sessions & he saw a psychiatrist which prescribed him some antidepressants. It's a 4-6 week program, so I think it's really gonna help a lot. Thanks for all the thoughts & prayers!
IM glad he likes it! Hope it continues going well. How do u feel about the medication thought? IM only asking cause it happened to my ex aunt she was put on them and totally changed her caused a lot of damage that's why my uncle is no longer married to her they made her soo crazy she filed for divorce it's been hard his first person in the family to go through divorce too which is harder since no one was able to speak from personal experience with him but it's been few years now so his much better. She on the other hand still very effected by the medicine.
@jules I'm a little leary, but I'm gonna keep a close eye on it & since he's there for so long they will too. He'll see the psychiatrist weekly which is a lot. I know I tried some anti anxiety meds a long time ago & I had to stop bc they made me nuts! Lol So I know what you mean.
@stella I haven't gotten an official diagnosis yet, but I'm gonna ask them the next time I'm there. The meds are for his depression, ocd, adhd, insomnia & nightmares. (it's only 2 meds, but they cover all that) So I'm hoping it works. I'm not a medicine type person so I'm letting him decide since he's older. (17)
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Any way you spin it, its not good. And they need help.
I was suicidal from 13-17. And It was awful. Such a dark period of my life. Please seek help for whoever it is. I wish someone had for me.
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@natashalynn I'm so thankful he's started opening up too, it's a great start. He's always been a very closed, private person with everyone.
His dr sent us to a youth center for an evaluation & he's open to it, so here we are in the waiting room.
I had really bad depression at that age also and it had to do with issues with my family life hanging with the wrong ppl n such i use to cut myself every nite and had suicidal thoughts but never gelt comfortable to say anything to anyone
He's doing a partial hospitalization program, which means he goes there during the day then comes home in the afternoon. It's been 2 days & he really likes it. There's a lot of group sessions & he saw a psychiatrist which prescribed him some antidepressants. It's a 4-6 week program, so I think it's really gonna help a lot. Thanks for all the thoughts & prayers!
@jules I'm a little leary, but I'm gonna keep a close eye on it & since he's there for so long they will too. He'll see the psychiatrist weekly which is a lot. I know I tried some anti anxiety meds a long time ago & I had to stop bc they made me nuts! Lol So I know what you mean.