breastfeeding is best....but..

haydensmommyhaydensmommy
edited March 2011 in Pregnant
Please no judgements or rude comments, but...this is my 3rd. I never breastfed with my other two. Now that I'm older, I feel guilty for not wanting to do it. I know its the most natural thing in the world, but for some reason I just don't feel comfortable. I love my baby I want the best for him I can't wait to hold him close and feed him....something just feels weird about breastfeeding. FOR ME..I think its wonderful/beautiful when others do it...I just feel so guilty. What's my problem???

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  • EmmalouiseEmmalouise
    Im exactly the same. This is going to be my first, but breast feeding is something i don't feel comfortable with at all. I have no idea why. Just don't. So i know how you feel..
  • cheekyerincheekyerin
    I didn't bf my oldest it kills for the 1st few weeks don't feel bad they say bf less like to get ear troubles my coins daughter full bf poped ear drums n was a sicky bub my oldest bottle was the best never sick slept like a dream its not for every1 don't let any1 make u feel bad about Ur choice
  • bummy87bummy87
    y dont u just try n see how u go. if u think aboyt something to much it makes it complicated jusy do it, dont make it a thing sorry if I sound rude its just how I talk
  • sands3sands3
    I say give it a try. I bf my son for 3 months and it was great. You bond with them. If it doesn't work out, at least you know you tried. So many women don't bf so don't feel bad if you can't.
  • potatopotato
    I was breastfed and so was my brother. We were incredibly healthy children, so there are benefits. I plan on breastfeeding as well. Just seems like another of life's experiences to me. Off topic but I plan on trying cosleeping as well. My mom did it with my brother and me. It reduces SIDS instances and makes early morning breastfeeding a snap.
  • tashaizaqttashaizaqt
    I'm not breastfeeding and have no desire the doc tryes to talk me into and so do family members who breast fed there babies. I think its creepy and weird I was bottle fed and I've always been healthy knock on wood my friend breastfeeds her son and the poor kids been sick all winter...so I wouldn't worry too much
  • rootzmamarootzmama
    Im not comfortable with it all but I know that im gonna at least try. So many mothers feel that it is amazing and my doctors say that it is best for my child. So. I think ill be willing to put my feelings aside and try it out. I love challenges. If I could just do it for the first month, ill be happy. @haydensmommy I think I feel the same but its like, im gonna force myself to do it and if I still have a prob with it, ill quit. But this is my first baby so ill probably be trying alot of stuff. Good luck :)
  • wallieheadbaby3wallieheadbaby3
    I didn't brest feed either of my two boys and neither of them have EVER been sick. One is 12 and one is 2. We bonded beautifully! So don't let anyone bully you into anything. If it dosnt feel right for you then do it what ever way does feel right. To each is own.
  • ghettobettyghettobetty
    Wont hurt to try! I didn't with my first only lasted 6 months with my second because none of breast pumps would work and I. Wanted to go back to work. This. One I'm only breast feeding while on maternity leave not messing with pumps again. I figure a little bit is better then nothing. Not feeling bad about my choice at all.
  • JwigsJwigs
    One if the reasons I want to breast feed is so I don't have to waste money in formula! One less thing to buy.

    But I don't know if I can. Had a breast reduction at 18, and there's a possibility that some of the connections were severed.
  • PebblesMommyPebblesMommy
    I don't think there's anything wrong with you for feeling that way. This is the new millennium. Babies can be fed with formulas and still be very healthy. That's all that really matters.
  • mommyto1soontob2mommyto1soontob2
    I make to much cilostrum (sp) so I wasn't producing enough milk. Plus my daughter was eating double what my boobs could produce. I pumped and breast fed still wasn't enough. So she needed bottle. It kills me I can't breast feed. At first I felt weird doin it and since my daughter sucked so hard and fast it was creepy. But I did it cause I felt it was the right thing to do
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    There is nothing wrong with that at all! I am unable to breastfeed because I don't produce enough milk, even with the pills they gave me to produce more, I only could produce a half an ounce each breast and after 3 weeks I dried up completely. I tried and it didn't work. Just because you can't or don't want to breastfeed, doesn't make you a bad mom. My 14 month old has never been sick, never had an ear infection or any problems and she was bottle fed due to me drying up and not producing enough milk. Bottle fed babies also get a chance to bond with mommy and daddy not just mommy so I love that part! :) don't let anyone ever tell you that you're a bad mommy, because you aren't. :) congrats hun.
  • ccnum2ccnum2
    I felt weird about it during my whole pregnancy w my son..but once he was here and I did it it was wonderful....I loved it it is so natural nothing like the feeling of providing food for my son and knowing my body made it I really gained respect for my body and how amazing woman are ....also its always ready no bottle making washing etc.... give it a try its not easy to start but it gets sooo easy...oh and its free

    What feelings is everyone feeling anyway...... I guess woman always think of breats as sex objects since that's all we used them for before having kids at least I did that was what I was worried about now I understand why we have them lol
  • ccnum2ccnum2
    Oh and I am for choice I am nto one of thoes mothers who make you feel bad if you don't do it.
  • haydensmommyhaydensmommy
    Thanks guys :) my first two are very healthy also. And my youngest was lactose intolerant so I'm not sure how that would've went anyway... :)
  • Jessica1985NVJessica1985NV
    Have u ever tried to pump your milk out and feed your babies like that ? I know a lot of moms that do that ... even if its just for a few weeks
  • MrsAnderson0602MrsAnderson0602
    Don't feel bad. I felt that way with my daughter, but I tried it, and surprise surprise, I still felt that way! I just don't think breastfeeding is for me. I won't be breastfeeding my son this time around either. My daughter is 8 and has always been a healthy kid. You just have to do what u feel comfortable with, your baby will be healthy and happy either way.
  • VictoriaBVictoriaB
    I'm gonna try it (first baby) but definitely don't feel bad if you can't or just don't want to! Both of my step kids were not breastfed at all. Their mom just didn't want to.
    I'm going to give it a shot partly because as a new mom I have no idea what its like and partly because I agree that its natural and free. Plus WIC will give me extra checks for 6 months and I can rent a breast pump from them. I cant argue with free healthy food :D
  • cheekyerincheekyerin
    My 2ndc born was lactose I had to city all dairy n he had to b bottle feed as well
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