I will never get pregnant again. (just need to vent-long!)

mommy2sophiamommy2sophia
edited March 2011 in Pregnancy and fathers
I thought being pregnant would be one of the best times of my life, but my bf ruined that for me. Before I got pregnant my bf adored me, we were inseparable. Now I have to BEG for attention. I sit next to him while he is watching t.v. or playing a game and if the baby is kicking I can't even get him to look over or put his hand on my sromache. I almost start crying everytime I read about someone saying the daddy talks to the belly/kisses the belly. I've asked him to EVERYDAY and he wont do it. That just seems so special to me, just because we can't see her I still think we should talk to her and show affection as much as possible. Also ever since I started to show, he wont have sex with me. I have literally begged and begged and he always thinks of an excuse. But he gets on porn all the time and "does the deed" I could understand him looking porn if we had sex regularly but instead of being with me he watches porn?? I've never felt so unappreciated, ignored, or ugly in my life. Not once since I've been pregnant has he complimented my looks or anything. I used to want 5 or more kids, but I never want to go through this again...
Sorry so long I just needed to vent.

Comments

  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    I'm so sorry! My boyfriend used to be like that, even pushed abortion...but he'll come around once your little one is born(:
  • mommy2sophiamommy2sophia
    Thank you. It just doesn't seem fair though. :(
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    It's Def not fair. Some guys just get creeped out by pregnany, its weird. Try telling him how you feel? Tell him the baby needs some daddy time!
  • mommy2sophiamommy2sophia
    I do but he starts screaming at me telling me to not tell him what to do and if he wanted to do it he would
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    ): how mean. Id say...you dont deserve that, no one does. I kinda understand what you're going through..you love him and you dont understand why he cant feel the same way....?
  • mommy2sophiamommy2sophia
    Yeah that's how I feel.. I don't understand how me being pregnant caused him to quit communicating, showing affection, or just wanting to spend time with me. I'm carrying his child I thought that would make ppl become closer but it's pushed him away
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    Yeah My bf used to HATE me. Literally. But after my miscarriage he came around. Now were actually ttc..if you're guy doesn't change after the baby then leave him, you dont need to be mistreated!
  • mommy2sophiamommy2sophia
    Hopefully he does.. I'm sorry for your loss. Thank u for sharing with me and I wish u all the luck ttc!
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    Keep in touch I'd like to know how things go(: and stay strong!
  • nikalia2626nikalia2626
    Ok please please read my post twice..

    My husband did the same thing (except the porn) he wasn't interested at all. No excitment no touching no belly kissing. I was very alone and crying all the time. I finally broke down and kinda flipped on him. Turns out he had no idea how to connect with the pregnancy. He didn't know how to start loving something he couldn't hold or play with. He was just lost on how to deal with this family addition (baby was planned). He was a little standoffish until the first time he made baby laugh (4 mos) now 2 yrs later he is the best dad and husband I could ask for. Now I'm preg again... guess what he gets all my craving food and puts up with my moodswings but that's it... once again no belly kissing... every guys deals differently with pregnancy. He wanted our kids and planned them but doesn't have any clue how to relate to pregnancy..

    Hope it helps.
    Xoxo
  • BrttnyW84BrttnyW84
    my bf did the same thing when i told him i was pregnant. he suggested abortion and that he would even pay for it when i told him i can't afford that. i didn't want abortion tho. we fought for a while about the whole thing. he was always negative to me and everything. it makes me sad to see my friend who is due 2 days after i am and her husband gives her back massages and is very understanding that she is tired. my bf told me that i shouldn't be so tired and i work a full time job, part time job and go to school! but i shouldn't be tired!?!??!!?! we had our many fights. his attitude is getting better tho as time is progressing. i am now 8 months pregnant. he didn't rub my belly in the beginning either like yours doesn't. but just wait and see and time will come :)
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