motherly advice

ajs_mommii · March 2011

I really need some help.... i'm 21 and i'm 15 weeks pregnant. I still stay at home and under a lot of stress when it comes to my pregnancy. And i'm startin to weigh my options when it comes to having this baby. I wanna keep it but i also wanna go back to school (i'm not sayin a baby will stop you) and i wanna be able to give my child whatever they need. And i feel like i'm not in the right place to bring a child in this world. I'm a supporter of women making a decision in abortions but now i don't know what to do myself.... my bf don't know bout me thinkin about abortion and i don't know how to tell him but he just seem so happy about it. I just don't know what to do.... ladies i would really love some advice. Thanks

Rissalee7 · March 2011

have you considered adoption? my bfs mom gave him up for adoption when she had him at 18 and it was the best thing she ever did for him. unfortunately she died in a car crash when he was little so he never got the chance to reconnect with her but he has been in touch and spent time with his biological paternal family.

cheryl74 · March 2011

Sweatheart you can still do everything with a baby. If you decide to have an abortion then of course that is your decision . I'm also a big believer in woman having choices, but you have to think very seriously about how this will affect you in later life. Having a baby.changes everything but not always for the worse lol. It isn't easy but having a child when I was 21 it made me more determined to make a life for me and my baby girl. She is 14 now and my best friend. Just take time to think seriously about all options. Good luck x x

ajs_mommii · March 2011

@Rissalee7 i have but he wouldn't support it and i know i would get attached to the baby and it would be hard but i would love to bless someone with a child.
@cherly74 yeah i know i can still do whatever i put my mind to with a child but i feel like i'm not in the right place in my life for a child. But i will keep in mind what you said i just need some help cause my mother want even talk about my pregnancy to me

Rissalee7 · March 2011

@ajs_mommii well it may sound harsh but tell him if he wont agree to adoption the he needs to take full custody if you feel that this isnt the right time emotionally finacially or stability wise to be having a child. he has to realize that what he wants may not be what is right for the little one. and that is what really matters. i give you so much props and respect for having the courage to look at all the options and think ur decision through. and with the attachment to the baby i cant help there cuz i would b the same way. and u r right if you gave someone ur little one it would be a blessing to them. also alot of couples would be willing to do an open adoption. keep ur head up hun

ajs_mommii · March 2011

Thanks i really need'd that!!!!

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