Married first?
Hi all. Im seeking advice regarding getting married before getting pregnant or vice versa. First of all, I am dying to have a child. Can't explain completely why and I wont attempt to try now but its really important to me to start a family in the next year. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years, living together for 10 months. We plan to marry but are not yet engaged. He wants kids but he isn't sure when. He is 28 I am 22. It works because I am mature for my age and we've helped each other through some very tough times. It is becoming hard for me to take my bc because I have no clue how long its going to take for him to become "ready" and I believe he wants to get married first where I am more neutral on the subject. I was thinking if we got engaged soon we could marry in October of this year and start trying soon afterward. Is that too short of an engagement? We want an outdoor wedding in the fall and I really don't want to wait a whole extra year. Also, would it be a bad idea for me to bring up the subject with him and almost give him an ultimatum that he helps me pick a date for marriage and kids or im done or would that be horrible of me, I know he loves me too much to let me go and I feel like without any pressure it'll take him God knows how long to decide. I am a determined woman who wants a marriage and family and doesn't want to wait a lot longer. I know im young but i'll be graduating college with honors in 2 months and beginning a job that could support me and a child but I really don't want to be a single mom. Any and all help is greatly appreciated. Most of my friends and family wont understand like you girls do. Thanks! Xoxo
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I would recommend getting married first, because its always harder to come up with extra money and time for wedding planning once you have kids.
Good luck but make sure its not only you and your wants in the relationship. Use that maturity of yours to keep your head straight