when to tell siblings?

redhead25redhead25
edited March 2011 in First Trimester
I was wondering how long to wait to tell my son that I'm pregnant. I will be 5 weeks tomorrow and I think its too early to tell him. He's 7 years old. Another thing is he's in the bedroom right across the hall from my bedroom which is where I would like to put the baby and move my son to the bedroom upstairs but I just can't kick him out of his room. I feel horrible about moving him out of his room..don't know what to do :o(
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  • SamiUKSamiUK
    edited March 2011
    Just explain he getting a big boy now so. Gets a better bedroom? maybe do it now before you tell him your pregnant then he wont feel pushed out, also try to keep him involved is has much as possible im sure he'll b excited once you tell him and just make sure he gets alot of attention to from family to like when they fetch baby presents ask if they could fetch him something to even if its a lil choccie bar :) congratz and good luck x
  • redhead25redhead25
    Thanks for the advice!
  • camommycamommy
    edited March 2011
    I was a about 4 weeks we put nuks pacis in their stockings they are 9 and 10
  • redhead25redhead25
    @camommy that's a cute idea. Maybe the Easter bunny can bring him a shirt that says big brother @samiuk were gonna make a special thing out of it and paint it and decorate. its actually two rooms so he can have a bedroom and a play room upstairs were gonna get a baby monitor and put it up there so I can hear him during the night.
  • camommycamommy
    That's a great idea. My daughter is 9 she's so excited and is counting down til we know if its a boy or girl we find out tues
  • redhead25redhead25
    @camommy Oooh how exciting! You have to let me know what you're having. R u or the kids hoping for a specific sex?
  • camommycamommy
    Both want a girl my son wants to be the only boy though once in awhilw he wants a boy or an alien
  • MommyAgainMommyAgain
    I told my kids the day I got confirmation from the dr.... I just came out and told em...they thought I was joking since wr all thought I could never conceive again...had to show them dr proof....they are 11 & 14 and have soooooo many questions about the developing baby....gonna watch national geographics in the womb with them friday night....
  • redhead25redhead25
    Well we haven't even announced it to everyone. Just a couple family members and our best friends. I was gonna wait to announce it till after the first ultrasound which is the 31st which will make me a couple days shy of 8 weeks. I think aa cute way to announce it to everyone is have my son wear the I'm gonna be a big brother shirt...it makes him part of the process and I want to involve him
  • Maranda3Maranda3
    I'd switch his room before you tell him. Also, he is a member of the male species, so I'd reccomend making him think the move upstairs is his idea. Lol
  • lae3lae3
    i told my eight year old with a card.. hhe didnt believe it.. but depending on how mature and independent he is.. my first is both.. you can tell him before or after.. you could tell him hes going to be the big boy now.. and the babie has to be closer to your room so you can hear it cry... and also mabey get him some new stuff for his new big boy room.. he might be exciting about ita.. but you know your child and there personality... and what would be best for them.. i alwaysm foun wwith my child its better to be honest.. hes way too smart for his briches.. lol ... good luck either way... you might be surprised and proud ofbhow he handles it.. my son has really impressed mee and made me proud.. hes a pretty big bro.. and he wanted his lil bro since he was 3 years old though
  • redhead25redhead25
    Yeah were getting a new tv for the living room so he gets the 61 inch we have now...that's gonna be the big "bribe"...which was what we were gonna do anyway but now we can throw it in to sweeten the deal lol. I know he'll be ecstatic when he finds out. And he's always been around his younger cousins so knows what its all about and is always really good with them.
  • laura536laura536
    I was wondering the same thing, I have a 5 yo and I just can't decide when to tell her. I'm 8 weeks now, I was thinking i'd wait til 12. I def want to get her an "I'm a big sister" shirt!
  • redhead25redhead25
    @laura536 I was just looking at them tonight. I found some pretty cute ones
  • 3girls_0boys3girls_0boys
    My husband and i were decussing? Me going to the doctor to confirm and my 2 older daugthers 6 and 4 overheard us talking about and started asking? So i really didn't have to worry about when to tell them, had to worry about them telling the grandparents b4 we did, bc they went to stay w for the wkend b4 we confirmed w the doctor but they didn't. All 3 of my girls r excited though
  • 1girland2boys1girland2boys
    @redhead25 and @laura536 I made my kids big brother, big sister shirts. I went to target and got plain solid tees for 4.99 then went to hobby lobby and got iron on letters. They have a lot to choose from. They turned out sooooo cute and my 5 year old is so excited to wear hers on the big day!
  • redhead25redhead25
    @girls_0boys Yeah my problem is that we told a couple family members a friends but told them not to tell bc we aren't announcing it yet but between my mom and his dad were not going to have anyone to announce it to which is missing me off and now I feel rushed into telling my son bc I don't want him finding out from someone else.
  • redhead25redhead25
    *pissing
  • redhead25redhead25
    @1girland2boys that's a good idea...ill have to look into that
  • namelessnameless
    I wanna make a shirt for my son!
    Last summer i was pregnant i told him, then I had a mc and to tell him I lost the baby :(
    Pregnant again and waited a little longer :)
  • lae3lae3
    i love tha idea 1girl
  • redhead25redhead25
    @1girland2boys I went to hobby lobby last night and made my sons tshirt. It came out perfect! It said I've been promoted to big brother. He read it and had to explain it to him and then he got it and was excited and jumping around and such. He days he wants a baby brother.
  • redhead25redhead25
    says
  • cupcakecupcake
    My stepson is 14 and doesn't live with us but visits often. He didn't want for us to have a child and we hadn't planed on getting pregnant. How can we tell him and his mother without upsetting them?
  • redhead25redhead25
    @cupcake that's a tough one when they've already said they don't want one. I would just get it over and done with fast like a bandaid. You're already preggo so there is no changing it they just need to accept it.
  • Rissalee7Rissalee7
    I didn't tell ours till after first trimester just to be safe
  • cupcakecupcake
    @redhead25 we are waiting to tell them until after he gets back from his field exercise (he's army) right now his ex and I are on good terms and she is my only local contact so figure safer to wait because she will probably be angry (seeing as the divorce still isn't quite final though they are seperated). But I'm scared my stepson won't like me anymore after he finds out. And I really don't want him mad at his father either.
  • redhead25redhead25
    @cupcake maybe have dad have a man to man talk with him. Make sure he knows he will be a part of everything. Yeah I would Def wait to tell them until he gets home. I would probably not tell anyone until the divorce is final. Is it final soon?
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  • redhead25redhead25
    That's adorable! Today was the first day my son talked to the baby. I talked to him today about how cool it is to be a big brother. That he gets to teach it how to swim and ride its bike and then added and I get to teach it how to make fart noises...lol such a boy!
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