Need some advice...

Jenn_Jenn13Jenn_Jenn13
edited March 2011 in Pregnant
Hi im new to the app and don't really know how this works but im 21pregnant with my 2nd child my baby girl is 9mo old and I wasn't soposed to get pregnant... me and my daughters father broke up and I started dating a new guy and while well you know he took off the condom w/o my knowledge and now im 5w4d with my second and both guys are wanting to be a part of my life... Me and my daughters father have 2yr history mostly bad but he has changed while my "peanuts" father has done nothing wrong so far and is extreemly excited and wants to be a very involved father... so torn and so confused idk if I can handle another baby so soon my daughter is very highstrung and also has a health concern stage 2 kidney reflux... just need some help advice something... thx

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  • addriannaaddrianna
    Follow ur heart...god never gives anything we cant handle! Maybe new guy deserves a chance I mean ex got his chance n lost it! Good luck sweetie...
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  • jalemjalem
    In my opinion your ex is your ex for a reason but that is his daughter also so whether u like it or not he will bi in your and new babys life... where as new daddy 2 be I assume is your Bf or still in your life and will remain there because of your peanut the only thing you.need to decide is whether you want to be in a relationship with peanuts daddy if not already... good luck mama
  • Jenn_Jenn13Jenn_Jenn13
    Well the plot to my story thickens both daddys were best friends for 19 yrs... they had lots of issues in their friendship and it started alot of fights. Daddy #1 was very violent and had addiction problems but has since been in counseling and stopped his addictions as far as I can tell he was never around for my pregnancy or first 8mo of Kenzis life... Daddy #2 stepped up and was very supportive and was there when daddy #1 was drunk or high, and is very very good with Kenzi. Now daddy #1 suddenly wants to be apart and wants" his" family back... Im currently single from both daddys just have no idea whose sincere and whose just talking. It seems as if their both just in compatition or something, and they loath each other...
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  • jalemjalem
    I agree with mama_katt... but like I said either way they are going to be in your life... #1 sounds like he us trying to get better but I wouldn't take the risk of an emotional relationship eith him just yet.. let him spend some supervised time with your daughter so he is a part if her life... as much as #2 may.have played the daddy role for her he is not her daddy... #2 seems nice but there must be a reason you are no longer in a relationship... and like mama_katt said he did takethe condom.off without u knowing... let him be a part of ur pregnancy because it is his baby but keep an eye out
  • Jenn_Jenn13Jenn_Jenn13
    Its a very odd situation idk if I've seen a try side of daddy# 2 because of alot of abusive relationship history im very skepital of any guy. Daddy#1 has said lots of negative things to say about his ex bff who knows if what he says is true or if he is trying to down his old friend. Such as he was soposidly violent with his ex fiance and I know he had a history of perscription drug use but so far he's remained sober. Daddy#2 has a 8yo daughter he's very good with while daddy#1 has a 3yo old son he's not involved with so parenting histories say Daddy#2 would be more involved. One of the big issues Daddy#1 keeps bringing up is that I am bipolar with mania(very angry very quickly, very sad very quickly, mood swings) daddy#2 is also bipolar and as daddy#1 states it "two psychotic ppl cannot make it together"...
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  • Jenn_Jenn13Jenn_Jenn13
    Yeah thx alot! I wasn't expecting to be in a pregnancy this early my last was horrible migraines preterm labor from 20 weeks on hospitalized 42x with my lil Kenzi so hoping this one isn't as bad which would make everything so much harder im already about to snap and break down...
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  • bexbex
    I have to say, mama_kat has some awesome advice on this one!
  • Jenn_Jenn13Jenn_Jenn13
    Thx!
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