Well I had a m.c two days ago I was due on the 11/11/11 I was almost 7 weeks. I'm only 17 but I was starting to get excited and so was my boyfriend. Is it bad if I wanna plan to get pregnant again at my age?
No of course not as long as your both feeling ready sorry to hear about your lose it cant be easy hunny you take care and wish you the best for future bambino xx
Well if you do make sure you both are ready to take on the crazy responsiblity as parents both mentally and financially. Don't drop out of school either. I planned my daughter at 16. I feel bad cause I still wanted to be a teen and have fun. I feel so guilty but if you are willing to skip partying and stuff then go for it
I personally wouldn't recommend it. I'm not saying that you aren't mature enough or that you can't handle it or anything like that. It's just incredibly difficult at such a young age. I was 16 when my twins were born, and trust me it wasn't easy. It's better to be at least a little bit older, and get out of high school (if you aren't already) and have a good, stable job with benefits. Just my opinion. At least give yourself some time to think about it, two days after a mc is not really the best time to be making a decision like this.
I agree with kris...I had my son at 17 and I worked my ass off to graduate high school early and immediately started working (past my due date) and saving so I didn't have to work right away after birth. I did it all without the 'sperm donor' as I like to call him. Let's face it guys don't mature as fast as women. I had a sister that was a stay at home mom that wad able to watch my son when i started going to college when he was a month old. I lost all but two of my friends bc I couldn't go out and hang with them. It can be done as long as u have a strong support network. But life is a lot harder and you miss a lot of the young and dumb things u get to do when you're young. This is just my story but I hope it helps or at least gives you some things to think about.
@Kriss82001 I have a job make 11.17 an hour my boyfriend make 16 weekdays double on weekend we can do it for that part I know I'm young but I was gunna be a mom!! I have never been so excited in my life! I graduate in December. Earlier if I choose.
@Proudmomma I would be okay with out the partys Haha
I'll preface this by saying every person is different and we all have our own path.
I am 31, pregnant with my first, and I am so grateful that I waited this long. I have travelled, I have partied, I have experimented here and there. My husband and I have been married 4.5 years and know we can weather anything; we've been together for 9.5 years. Our house is paid for completely, along with our two cars. I feel ready.
Consider all of your options and wait longer before you make this decision because it really is too soon to make such a life-changing decision after such a loss.
@lildancermomma I really wasn't trying to offend you hun, honestly I wasn't and I'm sorry if I did. It's not just the amount of money. It's being able to have a job you won't lose easily, with benefits for everyone. But the biggest thing is making sure that you will have family time, instead of having to work all the time. And I didn't mind missing out on the parties either, I'm a book worm by nature. And I had an incredible support system to help me, but it's still a lot. Do you have somewhere to live with your bf? Do you have child care set up? It was going to cost me close to $1200 a month in daycare alone if my Mom didn't help me. But it's not really the amount of money, it's the stressing over money and not putting in a million hours at work to pay for everything. I'm not saying definitely don't do it, I'm just saying take the time to really think about what you want out of life and to have no regrets. There is always time for a baby, trust me.
Wisdom from my momma : if god thinks that u r ready to be a mommy he will let it happen. If he takes the child back he feels you need more time or ur not ready yet. not everyone thinks that way im sure but it helped ease my mind cause everytime I turned around I was so scared of miscarrage.
your not giving yourself enough time to grieve your loss go to college get a degree to back you up you have to think of all the what if's in life Sweetheart I was 17 when me and my husband had our son if it wasn't for parents support we would have been out on the street were just barely getting through now paying for everything on our own and a couple of years ago he got laid off so what if's are very important he got his job back and a promotion so thank God for that but what if he had not just think a while and I'm so sorry for your loss hang in there
Girl im not saying you can't do it...I'm 20...on my second...i finished school...and me and the hubby both have jobs...but honestly...its a struggle. Its so overwhelming...we are barely getting by. I know no matter what anyone says your going to do what you want...and that's perfectly ok...I'm sure you will make a fantastic mother one day. But it will be a lot easier if you and him are both at stable jobs making decent money. Just so you know you can provide the best environment and life style for your baby.
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@Proudmomma I would be okay with out the partys Haha
I am 31, pregnant with my first, and I am so grateful that I waited this long. I have travelled, I have partied, I have experimented here and there. My husband and I have been married 4.5 years and know we can weather anything; we've been together for 9.5 years. Our house is paid for completely, along with our two cars. I feel ready.
Consider all of your options and wait longer before you make this decision because it really is too soon to make such a life-changing decision after such a loss.
not everyone thinks that way im sure but it helped ease my mind cause everytime I turned around I was so scared of miscarrage.