daddy doesnt want me

fluffyfluffy
edited January 2011 in Pregnancy and fathers
Hi guys
I just found out I'm pregnant on Monday. My partners never bin keen on the idea of having kids. But last yr he said he was warming 2the idea n Mayb we shud start trying in the summer. Anyway we got caught early n he's now very depressed n says its made him realise how much he doesn't want kids. He says he really wants to want it but thinks that's just to make me happy. He's very had to b around at the mo. Any advice wud b most appreciate, I want to b excited about this baby but at the moment I'm sad n scared
Thanks x

Comments

  • baby4onthewaybaby4ontheway
    Im sorry honey. If he doesn't want it and you do then I would keep it. But he needs to realize that when the baby come if he is not with you he still has to help you. This is his responsibility as well as your. How far are you?
  • fluffyfluffy
    Hi hon,
    Thanks 4the advice, i'm only 5 wks. we've bin together nearly 9yrs n He says he'd never leave me just is now panicking n says this is not wat he wants. I'm hoping he'll warm to the idea else its gonna b 8 months of worry x
  • baby4onthewaybaby4ontheway
    Sweetie this is my thought. If he didn't wannt kids he should of never suggested trying for one. I hope things get better for you guys but I was in the same situation with my first one. His dad was the same way and we ended up breaking up and I have raised my son for 4 years by myself. Im not trying to scare you but its reality sometimes. But just remember everything works out in the end it may not be with him but it will work out. How old are you if u don’t mind me asking?
  • fluffyfluffy
    Thanks 4that. I'm 33
  • baby4onthewaybaby4ontheway
    I promise everything will be ok. Do you have family that can help or support you emotionally or with the baby?
  • baby_lovebaby_love
    I'm sure he will have a change of heart when he see a picture or when he hold his baby
  • fluffyfluffy
    Yes but i'v not told them yet
  • baby4onthewaybaby4ontheway
    Im 22 but I raised my sister until she was 16 and then my son so I grew up fast. Now im married and having a baby boy in june. So it does get better
  • baby4onthewaybaby4ontheway
    @fluffy where are you from
  • fluffyfluffy
    I'm from bury
  • baby4onthewaybaby4ontheway
    Ok I don't know where that is. Lol
  • fluffyfluffy
    Ha its in lancs, where u from? Sounds like u r much more mature than me wen I was 22, thanks 4the advice, not given up on him yet tho, bin together a long time n he loves me loads he just wants to b peter pan
  • baby4onthewaybaby4ontheway
    Lol im from denver colorado
  • fluffyfluffy
    Oh ok, no wonder u don't no where I live, I'm in the UK near Manchester. Good luck with pregnancy honey x
  • baby4onthewaybaby4ontheway
    Same to you dear.
  • sj24thseptsj24thsept
    My fiancee was same asked to try for baby caught on that month then he got scared but a week later he's come round, your hubby might just take a bit more time, have you booked in for midwife yet?
  • fluffyfluffy
    Thanks flowa, I'm hoping he comes round, it tuk him ages to get used to us moving in 2gether all those yrs ago, he doesn't do change too well n gets scared of responsibility, but he's a gud person n we love each other so much. Thanks 4yr advice x
  • mamaOf2mamaOf2
    Its gonna be ok my babydaddy was the sameway as time goes by he will get use to u beening pregnant n start love it...mine saw the baby.during the sonograms n started to cry n he changed started beening very supportive n now were on baby number 2 I got pregnant very soon after I had alexa feb 2010 I got pregnant oct 2010 Im 16 wksn 2,days due july 14, 2011 lol
  • OctoberbabyOctoberbaby
    I'm kinda In the same boat as you,I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years on and off, he said he don't want a baby,and then he says we could try in a couple of more years,but I'm pregnant,and I haven't even told him yet,I think his reaction is goin to be bad...
  • MsKrystalMsKrystal
    I'm in the same position as you. At this point, I'm preparing myself to go through it without him.
  • mammanoucheemammanouchee
    Hun it will be alright. Mine was exactly the same. He planned on havng kids at certain month and a certain year but we all know plans dont alwas go your way. Sooner, im prego and he was upset. But i think a motivation helps. I told him that the most unexpected is the most memorable time in your life, and i mean the good unexpected. I told him that let this be a motivation for you and us. It happened, cant revers it. Just be happy and everything will be alright. I hope this helps hun.
  • fluffyfluffy
    Thanks so much 4all yr comments n advice. My fella came home last nite after drowning his sorrows with his mates. Rubbed my tummy n said its all going to b fine isn't it! I think we hav to let men figure things out by themselves. He's now motivated 2decorate the house n progress his business. Stil doesn't wanna tel any1 but think seeing midwife n scan will help. Best of luck 2u all
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