husband left me
I've been married for 8yrs, my husband and I planned to have this baby and even had to go to infertility doctors to help us get pregnant. Now I'm 5 &1/2 months pregnant and I just caught him cheating. He says he no longer loves me and wants a divorce. To top it off he just bought me a new 1 & 1/2 ct diamond wedding ring and we have been house hunting for our first home. If I never would of questioned a phone call on feb 22 I would of already moved into our new home and still living this wonderful life I thought I had. Everyday I'm still in shock of how my life has flipped upside down. I can't wrap my brain around how the man I love could walk away after 8yrs and our baby is on the way. I'm completly lost now.
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P.S. married_with3 this was my first post.
I can do all things through CHRIST who strengthen ME.
I think everyone has been thru a serious break up n we r still here live n kicking. U will do the same. Time heals all & just keep praying
Back on the topic of not having contact with him. Last night was the first night in a month to the day this has all started, last night I actually got to sleep til 330am reach in itself is a blessing. I woke up from the best dream, God showed me my son. He was healthy, beautiful, and looked just like his father. I felt so blessed to know that my baby was healthy and ok. I also felt this was a sign, that I was ok to call him. At first I thought oh no what if a girl answers, then I thought well then I guess that's my answer and so I shouldn't be afraid of that. So I called him at 330am he answered and asked if everything was ok I said yes. I told him god has blessed me with this dream and he has shown me that our child is healthy and beautiful. I told him about the dream and he said that is a good dream. He then said I hope you have a good day at work tomorrow. I said oh I will. He said good I wil call you later to get somethings from you. I said no I don't think so. He said well I need my student loan information. I said I'm sorry but I can't help you with that. He got mad and yelled at me your not going to give me my loan information. I told him I can't help you I have my own things to work on and this is now your problem you have the name of the company you can locate what you need to take care of this. He hung up on me. I was and am fine with this phone call. It did not anger me, hurt me, make me sad, or anything negative. I felt good, relaxed, and somewhat happy. I thought ha I called to give him good news and he is who is mad he probably can't get back to sleep now and is the one laying there pissed off because I'm not there to take care of all his needs anymore. He has to grow up and be a man now. I went back to sleep.
At 730am today he called me I did not answer. He txt me at 11am today to say he did find out his loan information and made his payment on time. Also he paid his car insurance and started his own policy reach I have been waiting for him to do that for two weeks now. Plus he just called again but I did not answer nor plan to anytime soon.
At the begining of April when I have received the last of the bills he will owe me for I plan to send him an email requesting payment. So far he still agrees to pay his half to me but I doubt he will hold true to that. Although I do stil have his motorcycle as leverge. So maybe I will get that money after all. Time will tell. Time will heal.
Cinnabon thanks for the email I will be in touch.
Now I'm not sure what I can handle, part of me still wants him back. I still want this life he has robbed from me and our child. When I go to the doc appt. I want him there as my husband to hold my hand to love me and comfort me. I'm still so confused but the bottom line is I don't know if I can handle him there. Everyone tells me I shouldn't allow him there he walked away so he shouldn't be able to be apart of it. The next doctors appt. is April 14th reach I am going to allow him to be there. One reason is every appt. We have to pay 100.00 on the bill of which he says he is going to pay. I need him to at least pay that and I'm afraid if I don't allow him to go he won't pay. Since I'm not sure yet if what I want I'm going to let him go. The 3d sonogram he has pd half of the deposit and that I have decided I'm not going to let him go to because we were going to invite family to it but now his dad has been horrible to me and telling all these lies so I don't want him there. I don't feel its fair for my family to go and not his so I'm taking the money he has paid me for half of the dep. off of the bills he owes me for this month and just telling him I can't handle him there. What is the right thing to do when it comes to these things. I feel wrong keeping him from most of all the birth of his son but stil am not sure I can handle him being there. I don't want to make any decisions I will regret later. What if someday we should get back together, will I be able to forgive myself if I keep him from this important moment in his life. Still everyone tells me I am to nice to him after all he has done.