settling for less

rodaroda
edited January 2011 in Pregnant
I feel like I'm on a never ending circle I keep giving people to many chances and in the end I'm the one that gets hurt. I have been trying to work things out with father of unborn child keep getting excuses y he can't b here cause I have Guy friend which we've been friends since childhood but BF thinks since we have child together I shouldn't talk to him anymore now my childhood friend is moving out of state waiting to here next excuse somebody help should I deal or should I go?

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  • tammy112600tammy112600
    If he is gonna give you problems before the baby is born then just leave him....If he isnt happy he wont be Happy and you dont need the stress during this very important time in your life......I raised 2 boys all by myself.....I am sure you can do it as well....If he loves you he will return and be sorry for what he has done but dont stress over it cause it isnt worth the stress.... he is gonna be the way he is until he wants to change so I would say walk away and if heloves you and the baby he will return on his own but dont put your life on hold for him.....if you meet someone else and they treat you well then forget him all together ......Hope things work out for you.....I am sure they will...
  • rodaroda
    Thanks. I have had experience in raising a child by myself my first and now this one seems like I'm going to be doing same thing just tired of repeat patterns
  • ashesashes
    If the bf really loves you, he will understand that a friend is just that—a friend. My ex had massive trust issues and I ended up leaving him, you don't need to be with someone like that.

    Especially if you're trying to see a childhood friend... my ex forbade me to see or talk to one of my best friends just because it was a guy. its definitely not the stress you need right now. Do what you want, the bf will either come around because he loves you or you don't need him.
  • tammy112600tammy112600
    Repeat Patterns happened to me as well......I finally then put my guard down ....I was talking to my current bf for 2 years on the net and because he wasnt the body type that i usually was seeing i didnt give him a chance.....until I got my heart broke....when i got my heart broke he was there for me.....When I needed someone he was there for me...Now we have been seeing one another for 5 years and to think I wasnt gonna give him a chance....Now i could not imagine my life with out him in it......you will know when you got a good guy.....cause he will place you before himself on anything needs or wants.....He has been so great and he is now going to be a first time father to our child.....I get calls from the guy who broke my heart and he ask me if I am single....LOL its crazy how upset i was then and How happy I am now..... I am certainly happy that I raised my boys on my own with out the help of the father....I am Happy to say tha why they dont know their father they have a man that is like a father......This will be his first biological child.....I am 31yrs and he will be 40 On Monday/..... Everything happens for a reason.....And though it seems like things repeat themselves......eventually the repeat will get switched to pause and things will go straight forward from there.....Keep your head up and dont let nothing get you down.....you can do this and I am sure someday you will find the perfect man for you and your kids.
  • rodaroda
    @ashes this is the first and hopefully the last I will encounter someone with this much trust issues I haven't done anything for him to think otherwise he can't trust me but he has he cheated and I guess he assumes I will but it's not n my character to do that I'm just assuming to say good riddance kick rocks
  • rodaroda
    @Tammy thanks its good to hear positive right about now I'm happy you found Mr right that u gave him a chance. Right now on edge if I want him to come. Around or not its been almost three weeks since he been home claims he's been @ friends and grandma house I just don't know what to believe from him anymore
  • rodaroda
    @Tammy he 27 and its his first I'm 31 and itsvmy third one son and one in heaven
  • tammy112600tammy112600
    Wow trust is something he will never change.....You will find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated......And I dont think he is a friends house maybe a new girlfriends house......I wouldnt tak him back ......Sorry thats me......once a cheater always a cheater........ he cant trust you because he knows he is doing wrong so...yep be gone dude and you will find the perfect guy......your day will come......Promise...then you can through it in his face when he wants you back and you are happy with someone else.....LOL good luck girl I know the pain I been there I been in that situation before......It hurts but makes you stronger too.
  • rodaroda
    @Tammy. Don't I know thank you so much prayfully I will find someone to br there for me actual love
  • ashesashes
    @roda ... yep that's exactly what my ex was like. I never gave him a single reason to suspect any cheating behavior from me...he had admitted that he cheated on his last gf. For 4 years I put trust in him not to cheat, yet he never trusted me.
    then my "best" friend got treated for a bacterial sti. Less than a month later, I wound up with the exact same sti...hmmm wonder how that happened?

    Men suck. The diamond in the rough is hard to find. Even so, just like a real diamond, they are never perfect. Sometimes you just have to keep looking for the one that shines the best to you...
  • rodaroda
    @ashes thank you right now I'm tired of looking my focus is now on this baby and my son my feelings about everything will just be on back burner
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