Wat to do wen ur in this situation

luv_my_lil_manluv_my_lil_man
edited March 2011 in Pregnant
So my frend calls me and tells me that she happened to go thru her hubbys fone & She went on his internet history (idk y)...BUT THAT SHE FOUND PO*N sites on his.phone...She's askin me wat to do but...omg idk.wat to tell her...help ladies :)

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  • luv_my_lil_manluv_my_lil_man
    Help ladies...wat do I tell her shes really upset..
  • Nov_baby_fitstNov_baby_fitst
    I don't mind that my husband looks at porn... ik thats weird but I can't always please him when he wants to be pleased... Im moody and pregnant
  • luv_my_lil_manluv_my_lil_man
    U dnt hve a prob with it???
  • Laurenmarie729ILaurenmarie729I
    She just found porn? I wouldnt be upset its natural for men to watch porn.. Lol I would be glad it was porn and not another woman! My hubby doesnt try to hide it. I used to get mad when he was sneaky about it but ive come to realize its just what he needs to be able to uhm...pleasure himself...i doubt he is having feelings for these pornstars...just turns him on. Have her try talking to him about it. You can learn alot about what he liked by what he watches and it can bring thrm closer especially in bed! Lol goodluck
  • clope18clope18
    No. It's just porn. Tell her to watch it with him..he might b bored of their sex life. It could spice it up if they watch it together. Pretty much every guy watches it.
  • bribribribri
    Me either I haven't been n a very sexual mood this pregnancy n I would rather have him please his self that way then going else where. Even when I'm not pregnant I don't feel like being intimate everyday so its a good resolution to solve his problems.
  • Laurenmarie729ILaurenmarie729I
    The only time it would bother me is if he would rather watch porn than have sex with me if I was asking for it. Hell it takes some of the preasure off me! Lol
  • luv_my_lil_manluv_my_lil_man
    Il let her kno...but she says she doesnt lke it...that it makes her think that wen their intimate he's thinking of those girls...
  • clope18clope18
    She shouldn't be jealous of those girls. They're JUST porn stars. It's not like he's ever gonna be with them. Every guy has a fantasy. At least he's not out sleeping around with other girls
  • Laurenmarie729ILaurenmarie729I
    I would honestly tell her too look at what hes watching...the women are nothing he would fantasize about! Theyre usually pretty bogus and mostly.show body parts I think if she watched some.she would see its nothing to worry about!! Theyre dirty and trust me not something he would actually want to have sex with. My hubby laughs and makes fun of them all the time how big of whores they are, watching any sex will turn him on but he still thinks theyre gross and dont compare to the real thing
  • luv_my_lil_manluv_my_lil_man
    The thibg is that ge's always said he wasnt into stuff lke that...
  • Laurenmarie729ILaurenmarie729I
    Lol I think some guys wil deny watching porn at the beginning of a relationship, it took my hubby like 3 years before he admited to it and it just got more open as the years went by. He was probably embarrassed or didnt want to be judged. Im telling you every boy watches porn no matter what they say! Lol its just natural. I got upset when I first found out because I felt like he was sneaky and liked these girls like he was cheating on me, but when I started to watch it and talk to him about it I realized how ridiculous it is and comical some of the scenes were! It just makes me laugh now when I catch.him in the act haha
  • luv_my_lil_manluv_my_lil_man
    My frend says it bothers her...she doesn't like the fact that her hubby is lookin at boobs & va.j.j's that it mkes her uncomfortable
  • may1mommatobemay1mommatobe
    I am a porn watcher myself so it doesnt bother me at all. If my bf wants to watch porn I say go for it he also jokes and calls me freak nasty cause most women dont admit to watching porn lol :-D
  • VictoriaBVictoriaB
    When my hubby and I first got together he admitted without guilt that he watched porn. He was single for years before he met me and has a high sex drive, so he'd watch porn. We had a conversation about porn vs. sex recently and he said, "you don't have to care about a porn star. You get off and then exit from the website. You probably wont ever see her again." I'm sure your friends hubby cares for her, but sometimes you need to get off and your sexy wife isn't around to do it for you.
  • luv_my_lil_manluv_my_lil_man
    My frend says it bothers her...she doesn't like the fact that her hubby is lookin at boobs & va.j.j's that it mkes her uncomfortable
  • preggointxpreggointx
    Well if I knew about it I would b cool with it but seriously that's not cool and is a sign of sexual addiction if he is doing it all the time and in secret....I'm not a porn watcher but my bd is and I'm fine with it
  • luv_my_lil_manluv_my_lil_man
    But she's mre put dwn then mad...mad jst cuz he kept it frm her..especially cu in evry lil thing he thinks is bad in his eyes he'll cal her out on it...and she says she not a prn wtcher herslf.. The whole thing mkes her gagg...
  • Laurenmarie729ILaurenmarie729I
    Hmm thats a rough situation. Cause the only thing hes doing thats actually wrong is lieing or sneaking. My hubby said he cant masterbate unless hes watching porn or me or.something, he cant just grab.a toy like us haha... And I dont think you could really tell someone not to masterbate that would just be.cruel! I think she really needs to talk to him about it and see what hes watching so he can reassure her. Shes gota understand the girls are actors...slutty actors...lo its like a ritual for guys...my hubby and his friends will laugh about the different girls and pull up scenes on their phones and make jokes..but at the end of the day I know he would rather me than them and he would never see them anyways! Lol
  • momof22bemomof22be
    Me and my husband watch together but I would not be upset if he watched it on his own during my pregnancy cuz I am really not in the mood all the time and he is so if he looks at porn I don't care but if he starts something with someone I would leave u better believe it but if he's not telling her I say hell yea look at his phone cuz he's sneaking on his computer he might be sneaking outside of that world too and if he's not she needs to talk to him about her beliefs and they need to have an open conversation. Tell her good luck. :)
  • mammanoucheemammanouchee
    Oh sweetie, its fine. I understand how she feels. When first time i was so uneasy but you come to realize that "hey, he only watches them but crawls into bed with you" they are nothing but things to watch to waste time or to entertain oneself. I for one, watch porn and i look at the men only. Hahah but its good hun. porn is porn. Tell your friend if she dont like it then she could talk him, i do that sometimes but its ok.
  • BellamommaBellamomma
    Me and my husband both agree that pornography is adultery, if he is getting off to other people then he is not loving me, therefore he is cheating. We are both Christians and agreed on it before we married. My husband is a recovering sex addict, he was addicted to porn and masterbation. He no longer does and hasn't in 8 months. It is not a requirement for men to masterbate, even if they think they need too. Men who say they need to are weak. If she feels strongly enough that she feels its adultery then she needs to insist on meetings. We agreed it was wrong when we married and a bit into our marriage he started again. I made him go to meetings and he didn't stop. I gave him and ultimatum and he stopped again. Now he doesn't know why he even started that time. I believe women deserve better than men who don't appreciate them.
  • cetheridgecetheridge
    Whoa. So because my husband watches porn he doesnt appreciate me? I beg to differ. We watch porn both separately and together of anything its gave us ideas. I'm sorry I don't want missionary every time. Theres nothing unhealthy or abnormal about masturbation. Since my son even knew what his private parts were we taught him those are for him and for private time. Nothing to make him feel dirty or ashamed about. That's what messes kids up and gives them disorders
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