Baby daddy dissapointed after finding out is a girl..

BrokenWingsBrokenWings
edited March 2011 in Pregnancy and fathers
When i was 4mos pregnant we went 2 the er and they performed an ultrasound they told us boy! My bd was so happy got teary eyed textd every1 and was so attentive and supportive and excited... Then we had our standard ultrasound at about 51/2 mos and they said girl! It is a girl theres no penis! My bd was crushed didnt tell any1.. And he said well ure happy but ive failed.. I didnt think much of it.. Then i saw a change in him he was meaner more distant we argued more and more.. About 3 weeks ago hes pretty much left me hes staying at his friends doesnt come home hardly calls and texts.. He goes out and i barely have seen him.. Is this normal? I kno it is because is a girl i immediately noticed the switch! Idk what 2 do.. Did he just leave us? Has this happend 2 any1 else??? Im so crushed..

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  • MayBabyGirlMayBabyGirl
    Awww I am sorry you have to deal with that. My hubby was convinced it was a boy and when we found out it was a girl, I asked if he was disappointed? He said no as long as it was healthy, I could see he was a little upset, but he is excited now. I hope things get better soon :)
  • kayleigh27kayleigh27
    I'm sorry hun. My husband really wanted a boy too but he came around after we saw it was a girl. Im sure he'll come around as time gets closer
  • mrs_rodneymrs_rodney
    I'm sorry I don't know what your going through but I will pray that he gets himself together before its to late. I will pray for oh as well to give you strength to get through it. God Bless and I m so sorry to hear that.
  • 2blessed2bestress2blessed2bestress
    edited March 2011
    Dnt worry bout it... he will be missing out on something that did not ask be here... and that love him and can't wait to meet you both ... you never know girls take to there daddy more ... it can change they can be very close... this is his flesh and thing really dnt hit them till the baby here... just prey ill be preying For u and the baby...
  • laura536laura536
    He sounds like he was really attached to the idea of his son, and finding out he has a daughter instead can be a lot to deal with...it's almost like his son "died". He's probably grieving a little and he might be being distant with you because you aren't as upset as him...grief is a weird thing. The best thing you can do right now is give him time to get used to it and be supportive of his sadness. He'll probably come around when he sees the baby.

    It does suck that he's basically moved out though, that's a little much. He probably needs some counseling or therapy.
  • BrokenWingsBrokenWings
    I honestly dunno what this guy deal is.. Idk if i can ever forgive him 4 this.. Not only did he basically walk out on me when i need him the most.. Hes denying my daughter like this? Idk if i would want him in our life.. Hes changed so much.. 2 me it shows his comitment 2 me and my daughter.. We deserve better.. Just gotta b strong and pray.. It hurts im hurt i cry everyday..
  • Mom_2BeAt19Mom_2BeAt19
    @brokenwings omg mi bd was the same way we was wishin for a boy of course he was. wen i was about 4months they said it was a gurl. he was so upset about it me l was okay long as its healthy. now im 6months almost seven n they are gonna do another ultrasound. he thinkin the sex may change or sum thing. ughhhh!!!
    babydaddy there so lost ;)
  • FirstTimeDaddyFirstTimeDaddy
    some guys r weird. just cuz its a girl isnt reason enuff to leave u. at least i think. I wanted a lil girl n im so glad its what we r getting. I would have been happy w a lil boy too
  • jalemjalem
    My Bf git really upset when Dr told us girl too... however he thought about it and now he's good... well atleast until she.becomes a teen... lolz... that was the big problem really andthat he really wanted a lil boy...
  • BrokenWingsBrokenWings
    My baby daddy is an idiot enuff said lol
  • FirstTimeDaddyFirstTimeDaddy
    @jalem. dont say the word teen to me yet let me enjoy my lil girl b4 I have to deal w boys n their evil penis' im gonna have to put ger in tae kwan do classes
  • jalemjalem
    @firsttimedaddy from the day i found out i was pregnant i knew it was a girl and really hoped i was wrong... i know how bad girls are... and i will be lucky if she is anywhere close to how good i was... but as soon as my bf found out girl he was like ... oh no... teen years...
  • FirstTimeDaddyFirstTimeDaddy
    edited March 2011
    @jalem well my gf has 3 lil boys. so she will have 3 older brothers. plus daddy watching over his lil girl. can u say over protected. 2 things can happen. she will b a nice girl seeing as how she will have eyes on her watching out. or she will rebel hard n we we'l b in for it ):
  • jalemjalem
    @firsttimedaddy im gonna tell you now look forward to a primadonna as a toddler up till preteen then once boys come into play good luck...
  • FirstTimeDaddyFirstTimeDaddy
    @jalem ): ): /:
  • blessed1508blessed1508
    hopefully he comes around. how old is he, if you don't mind me asking. My boyfriends wants a girl. he already has two boys . this its our second together I want a boy don't want no girl
  • jalemjalem
    @firsttimedaddy well at least you have 10-12 years of daddy's little girl then after 10-12 years of leave me alone/ get out of my room/ i know everything she will go back to daddy's little girl when she's all inlove and wanting to get married... and then she will love you forever again
  • FirstTimeDaddyFirstTimeDaddy
    @jalem lol ok. so I have some hope.
  • jalemjalem
    @firsttimedaddy yeah you have hope you just need to put up with an emotional hormonal teen who thinks they know everything for 10 years or so... then you get her back... but innocence will have been lost by then...
  • FirstTimeDaddyFirstTimeDaddy
    @jalem aww innocence lost. another thing I dont want to think about. my gf tells me that all the "things" iv done to her some one is gonna do to our lil girl. I dont need to know that ):
  • jalemjalem
    @firsttimedaddy well it wasn't that innocence that i was talking about.. what i meant is up until about age 7 her laugh will be the ringing of pure innocence and the most musical sound in the world then she will learn that not everything is all butterflys and rainbows when she hits puberty she will give up on a lot of other things and no longer believe that you are her savior and that you can beat any thing and when she does become your little girl again she will be wanting to start a family of her own and things arent the same... so enjoy your first few years and when she becomes a teen just remember all that you can do is understand... and if she needs you be there... dont judge because you've done it too... but help her without smothering... remember that when she is looking for a husband she is gonna be looking for you in every man she passes...
  • FirstTimeDaddyFirstTimeDaddy
    @jalem thanx. great advice. I wil try. I know its gonna b hard cuz she will b my lil girl
  • jalemjalem
    @firsttimedaddy it will be hard... but good luck... i just hope i will be able to follow my own advise
  • Leggs2011Leggs2011
    @firsttimedaddy I am the youngest of four kids. I have 3 big brothers. I was a tomboy that wore dresses.. I believe how you raise your daughter and treat her is what determines how she will act. My brothers would wrestle with me and wed go camping and fishing and I love it. So really its just how you raise her. I think you'll be just fine.. I'm 21 and my dad still calls me princess. Haha she'll have you wrapped around her finger.

    @brokenwings I am so worried about how my husband will act if we have a girl! I'm really hoping for a boy just so he doesn't hate the baby.. I know it sounds aweful but since his girl cousins don't like to play rough my hubby thinks all girls are prissy and cry babies.

    I hope he comes around for you when you need it the most. Keep us updated
  • proudcastromamaproudcastromama
    Aww I take it this is his first kid and he wants a boy I am on my Second pregnancy an want a girl so bad but my husban wants only a boy because he fears a girl will change him too much and fear what lies ahead bf and af and girl stuff but once he sees his daughter hell fall in love and he will change his attitude good luck.
  • FirstTimeDaddyFirstTimeDaddy
    edited March 2011
    @jalem good luck to u too then. lol @Leggs2011 k thanx. ima do my best (: @BrokenWings n @proudcastro mama ur men should b happy about a girl. sure teen years im dreading but what guy doesn't want daddys lil girl (:
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