Am I wrong for this?(very long..sorry)

aidensmommy6911aidensmommy6911
edited March 2011 in Pregnant
I will not be inviting my M.I.L to my baby shower nor will i let her know when my son is born, now my reasoning behind it is that when we told her i was pregnant she said that we(me and my son) were an embarassment to this family, at first i thought it was because we werent married but my fiance has a 3 year old daughter that he had with his ex outta wedlock and they never got married, so it made me think is this was she thinks about my child and me? and eventually things calmed down(or so i thought) and she acted like she was excited to be a grandma again but this past month things have gotten worse then ever, my fiance's grandpa(m.i.l's father) ended up in the hospital and my M.I.L has two adopted children(WORST BRATS YOU'LL EVER MEET) and we decided she needed our help so we said yes to watching them while she went up to the hospital, we canceled all of our plans my appt's, fiance even called off work to help watch these kids..a few days turned into us watching them for 3 weeks straight! staying the night for days at a time and getting yelled at for eating food, or making desserts. and these kids told my M.I.L that we hated them and the craziest stories finally we'd had enough and told her to see if her other son and his wife could help watch the kids a few days, she got so pissed and told us we were making this all about us and trying to start drama in this time of need, and told me i was an "immature little bitch" and she knew i was "too good to be true" im 30 weeks and did not need the stress and she kept going on about how me and my fiance were not adults and we were going to be horrible parents and went back to how we were embarrassments. Am i wrong for not wanting her to be there if she thinks of me, my fiance and my child like this. of course her close friends and family are hating us for it but i think i have every right after the way i was was treated and talked too, to not want that around my child...please let me know what you think..

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  • HUPE23_1HUPE23_1
    Your baby your life i say screw her
  • aidensmommy6911aidensmommy6911
    that's how i feel, and she also told me that i wasnt worth having the family last name...i feel im right in this situation, just wanted to know if i am right in my reasoning.
  • LouisesfirstbabaLouisesfirstbaba
    Yes totally! Why would you want that witch spoiling yours and ur fiancee most special moment! How doea he feel about it all?
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  • fmcnealfmcneal
    That's tough. What does your fiance think? I agree with you. I wouldn't invite her either.
  • aidensmommy6911aidensmommy6911
    my fiance actually told me first not to invite her or say anything before i came to him about it, we also were going to put his step dads middle name in our sons middle name but my fiance decided not too because he also had a huge part in the way the situation was handled, she put it all over facebook that we were childish and karma would bit us in the ass and how selfish we were being(for not wanting to watch HER kids)
  • aidensmommy6911aidensmommy6911
    @gatorbob this happened about a month ago and we have not talked since! i really dont want to talk to her at all, and i know she knows when it is because i've invited a few of my fiances family that had nothing to do with the situation and thinks its stupid. so i know she's heard about it.
  • wowbigsurprisewowbigsurprise
    I don't blame you!!! My m.I.l. is head nurse at hospital I'll be delivering at and I'm seriously thinking of putting her on the not aloud in my room list. Plus her sister is a labor nurse there. I'm tired of her judgment! !!!
  • TishlamortTishlamort
    She's a bitch, get rid of her. You don't need toxic, poisonous people like that in your life.
  • jalemjalem
    Tell your fiance you don't want the family name... when you get married negotiate a name and I say don't tell her send her a card after the fact and if she tries to visit tell her you're busy.. and don't ask her for help with ur baby...
  • 1princess&princeontheway1princess&princeontheway
    Fu** that bi***
  • aidensmommy6911aidensmommy6911
    yeah my fiance's sister in law is right behind his mom on the bitch scale she thinks shes better then me and she thinks hates my fiance! i dont know why, but she started all the facebook drama, shes one of those snubby females who literally thinks its all about her
  • sam505sam505
    She sounds like a horrible person! Stay away from her. I'm am so sorry you are going through this!
  • aidensmommy6911aidensmommy6911
    i just cant believe the comments and things she had to say about me and my unborn son, me and my fiance have only been together a year on(4.19) and i'll have my son in june so this was unexpected but i feel very blessed with my son and fiance and i hate that his family is going to be this way, i dont need their stress!
  • kayleigh27kayleigh27
    Damn I thought my MIL was bad but sheesh im sorry hun. That's terrible. Maybe she's just stressed about the whole being in the hospital thing but that's still not right for her.to do that crap to you and her OWN son! Yeah forget her. She obviously doesn't want you in her life so why give her the.time of day. You need to take care of your family and husband
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  • aidensmommy6911aidensmommy6911
    @gatorbob yeah ive always been quiet and tried not to start anything of course i talk to my fiance about the things that happen but never brought them up in front of anyone, my fiance is up to his neck with her, he's been treated and downed like this his whole life by her..she'll never admit it but we know its because his real father abused her and my fiance when they were married so she takes her abuse out on my fiance because thats his real father. they both have told me the story but when she tells it you can feel the hate when she talks about when my fiance was young and it shows now!
  • bettybetty
    Wow... shes some crazy syco b****!!
    Dont even waste your saliva talkn to her... just enjoy your fiance and your pregnacy!!
    She ll be more mad if u ignore her...
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  • Mommy2BeAgainMommy2BeAgain
    She can jump off a bridge for that. She will regret all that crap and be up your butt as soon as your baby is born. It happened to me and my bd. Do what you feel is right.
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