my boyfriend wants a son to carry on his name.... i dont.

missmommy28missmommy28
edited February 2011 in Pregnant
I'm only in my first trimester and alread my boyfriend just keeps saying ifi have a son he's going to have my name. First off its our son it should be our decision. I'm scared to bring it up because heis completely stubbor n. I have never been one to name kids after people personally. The name he wants to give him is not even his real first name its his middle and id be willing to give our son the name as a middle name but I do not want it as the first. I don't want to offend him but our kid I an individual nd should get own name

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  • ashesashes
    I hear you on this one! But slightly different.... me and my bf are not married and I want to give the child both our last names, Wilson-Rowley or Rowley-Wilson.
    He COMPLETELY refused. I'm just 6weeks so I'm hoping I can talk him into it. It just doesn't seem fair because since we are not married and I don't believe we will be for a while, I think s/he should take my familys name as well. It can always get changed later, can it not? Does anyone know anything about this??

    So OP idk what to tell you since I'm kinda in the same situation ...
  • michelyamichelya
    imo, if he wants a kid named after him, there better be a big fat diamond on your finger ;)
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  • sweetsurprisesweetsurprise
    I can understand him wanting his name to be carried on. My friends bd was the same way. They made a compromise. His name is william and they named their son Liam. Is it a name that you can do that with?
  • PregomariPregomari
    Iam 18 weeks and my bd fam doesnt even speak to me but they have the nerve to have names picked out....i say HELL NO... I will be picking my childs name wether its a girl or a boy!
  • missmommy28missmommy28
    Well he's half nigerian and so the kid will be a fourth and he wants to give him his nigerian name oladipo... so that brings up more of an issue because its not a name I'm even fond of. I don't wat to try takin culture away from our kid but at the same time I would rather have a more traditional type name. I have no problem giving our son oladipo as a middle name and my boyfriend can even call him that but id rather have the baby haveits own name. I think it can be a form of flattery but also it seems like id be making him live in the shadow of the person he's named after. Plus figuring out the names is so much fun. Shoot I'm not even sure if we are having a boy maybe ill just cross my fingers for a daughter haha
  • PregomariPregomari
    After all your the one thats going thru it all so id say its up to U
  • sweetsurprisesweetsurprise
    Hmm yea that's a difficult one. I understand not being fond of it. I will keep my fingers crossed for you too. :-D
  • lilpeapod913lilpeapod913
    My boyfriend is a jr.. we had never talked about baby names and on nye, my preg w a boy friend was talking about how her hubby wanted to name their son after him and she nixed it. So I say that my man is s jr and she asks him if he wants to carry it on. He said when he was married and his wife was preg he thought if it was a boy then yes he did but since he had a girl and his marriage didn't last, he doesn't really care anymore. I didn't know I was preg at the time but I had thought about that bc I don't like the naming after the father since the child will already have his last name. I'm so glad my friend brought it up that night since I found out I am preg just 10 days later!
  • irishbabyirishbaby
    When we first found out that I was pregnant and we were talking about names my bf was set on the fact that if it was a boy he wanted a jr. But after we found out it was a baby boy he was so thrilled to have a son that he backed off of the jr thing. We came up with another name that we both love. Now the only issue is that his mother won't let the whole jr thing go and keeps calling the baby Jacob and I have told her numerous times that isn't the babys name and she keeps saying. I'll change my mind about the name again before he is born. I just don't know how to make her understand that its not her child and therefore not her decision to make.
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