havent had sex since i got pregnant

soon2b3soon2b3
edited April 2011 in Second Trimester
So I'm 18wks with no desire. Bd is going nuts but wont say anything.....thank goodness. I told him I know he has needs and that he can do whatever he feels is necessary to help his stress as long as he uses protection and I never know about it. He got really mad at me for telling him he xould get it somewhere else...i thought i was being considerate...GUESS NOT. OK I know it sounds crazy but it gets better.... I'm no longer attracted to him and do not know if its hormones or that I'm seriously no longer interested...am I the only one going through this??
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  • blackbarbie10blackbarbie10
    I had sex twice den had my cerclage n now dying for sex bcus I told mu bf to go else where even though I wouldn't want dat, he was mad cus he says I'm all his.
  • 1stTime_Mommy1stTime_Mommy
    Noo I have no need or want to do anything with mine, in da beginning it even repulsed me to try, I've done it to keep him sane and maybe a lil stress reliever but eehh dats maybe once a month mayyybeee..he hates it but funny I told him da same thing just dnt ever let me find out he got mad at me 2 but hey I know men r men and have dere needs...
  • z_mommy_2009z_mommy_2009
    My hubby and I have had sex since like Sept...maybe before then! First it was no sex drive/interest in him and now its that the thought makes me mire sore-35 wks along and pelvic pressure like u wouldn't believe. He sleeps in our bed and I'm on the couch cuz I CAN'T sleep in any bed w my back. I feel so bad cuz he is being really understanding. That and the fact that I've told him he has a hand!! This after I yelled at him for looking at porn when I was pregnant w our first! Poor guy putting up w psycho me lol. I would guess ur lack of interest has a lot to do w the hormones but that's a guess...Ive been wrong plenty of times before! Hope everything works out and know that ur not alone.
  • karelybabiekarelybabie
    I feel the same way, I'm trying to figure out if its the pregnancy or really me.. =((
  • soon2b3soon2b3
    @1sttime_mommy... I'll never understand men. But I'm too selfish to put his needs before my lack of desire. So I wish maybe he would find a sex friend sometimes BC I also feel like what if I'm still not attracted to him after the baby then what?
  • 1stTime_Mommy1stTime_Mommy
    Yea I know what yu mean but I wld be hurt if he actually did do it, I just dnt want to anymore so why shld I? But I dnt think itwld stay dat way after da baby I think its a mix of our horomones and not feeling sexy or like our bodys aren't our owns anymore dat make us feel dis way and if it does then idk I guess he's guna find something or someone to fulfill his needs cuz like yu said I'm not pushing my needs back cuz he needs to have sex
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  • soon2b3soon2b3
    At my age sweety...I'm not interested in the "piece" he gets im only interested in the "peace" I get. @firsttimemommytobe
  • soon2b3soon2b3
    @karelybabie let me know if u figure it out....LOL

    @1sttime_mommy what's sad is I don't think I would be hurt. I know yrs ago it would've killed me, now that we do not live together and such. I do not have the same thoughts on the topic
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  • soon2b3soon2b3
    :p
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    Fak that hahhaahha therea no way in the world id want him to get that somewere else...i was like that the first 16 weeks n now i cant get of off mine lol....n it feels even better then b4
  • babyjoshiesmombabyjoshiesmom
    I went through the same thing, I rejected my Bd from the very start. But he stood by Me and didn't complain. Finally just recently my hormones have made a complete 360 and all I want is him. Our sex life has become existent again and more then ever I want him with me all the time. Just give it time.
  • soon2b3soon2b3
    @babyjoshiesmom thanks so much
    I'm a lil older too so I fear its just downhill from here. I had no sex drive after the 2nd month with my 2nd baby and it didn't come BK til after she was born...but this was before I got with this ones dad. I hear how great it is and such and I cry BC I wish I knew what the hype was all about but there's no getting it started for me. I'm just not in the mood then I'm not attracted to him now. =((
  • adriens_mommyadriens_mommy
    the last time i had sex i got pregnant. and I'm now 31 weeks. not even kidding. its for two reasons tho. whn i found out i was pregnant me n my bd seperated and I've been in a depression and not wanted to be with anybody else, plus ive just had no sex drive, haven't even thought about it. but i feel so big and uncomfortable i don't even like seeing myself naked lol
  • soon2b3soon2b3
    I literally got pregnant the last time I had sex....so I'm there with u just not as long...YET @babyboyontheway
  • 08lilmomma1108lilmomma11
    I am the same way...I'm 22 weeks and haven't had sex since I conceived:) no desire, I know what got me here lol jk
  • adriens_mommyadriens_mommy
    well hope fully u do not have the zero sex drive like me every woman needs some i think lol ibe been a real crabass these last few months lol
  • soon2b3soon2b3
    LOL....me too!!!! But I truly have no want for it! :-S @babyboyontheway
  • soon2b3soon2b3
    @fetherolc super funny!!! :-))
  • babyjoshiesmombabyjoshiesmom
    Well now I never said the sex was great lol... just tolerable and the urge to have sex is least there. So for him its enough of an improvement
  • 08lilmomma1108lilmomma11
    @singlemomofsoontobe3 I'm just saying lol :D
  • mybabyunomybabyuno
    I haven't had much drive either n if I do its when my man is at work ugggh. But no way would I want him to go elsewhere, ur nuts lol! Ok n here is my 2 cents... try to spice it up a bit whether that's having a romantic nite or playing cops n robbers or watchn a flick together or letting him massage u or kinky stuff, watever is ur nitch. Sometimes all we need us a lil something to get us going! But no worries, ur def not alone!
  • jamiesandefurjamiesandefur
    Wow, Haha... I don't know if this is too much information or not but every since I've gotten pregnant it turned me into a sexoholic! Lol I want it every day! Which is crazy I think but oh well
  • 1stTime_Mommy1stTime_Mommy
    see for me i wldnt want to find out cuz it wld hurt me but i wld just move on yu know ive learned not to dwel on anything not wrth dweling anymore...and i feel maybe in yur case maybe its more then da pregnancy maybe its just made yu realize dats not what yu want nemore sex just isnt important and deres rlly no need to go out of yur way which i completely understand and like yu said man have dere needs so if yu rnt da one giving it to them then dere guna get it either way yu knowing, not knowing or giving them permission or not...
  • itsaGIRLitsaGIRL
    I didn't have sex my whole pregnancy with my son not a single time until he was 3 months old.
  • Diana_twinsDiana_twins
    Hi im 14 weeks prego with twins and I want sex 24/7 lol!!! We have sex almost everyday....its weird that u guys are saying that ur not really into it because I thought pregnancy makes u wanted more...lol... Well I learned something new...
  • jamiesandefurjamiesandefur
    @diana_twins I'm with you on that one! Lol me too girl! 24/7 lol
  • mums_the_wordmums_the_word
    edited April 2011
    With my son I went off my bd completely and started fancying him out of nickle back!! Was all back to normal though shortly after I had my baby boy. This time round I still fancy my bd but my sex drive has vanished but I do give in now and again, just ly back and think of what's on tv or something lol xx
  • simonesimone
    My sex drive is the same..there is never a difference in my pregnancies..the only thing that chages is that I'm always sleepy! My sex life is regular & I love it!
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