Advice? So stressed (venting)

MsiDriveMsiDrive
edited April 2011 in Pregnancy and fathers
I don't know if It's just my hormones, but I kind of despise my bd right now. He has had the worst anger outbursts lately which are starting to scare me. The other night just looking to feel better, I asked him his reasons why he liked being with me. All he would say was that he loved me, but I wanted more examples. He took that as me saying his love wasn't enough for me, screamed in my face, and re-broke his hand punching a cement wall. All of this bc he said "saying those other things sound made up". Wtf?
Then he tells me that if I feel good enough to go get groceries and stop and talk to an old friend on my way home, then I don't deserve his sympathy for being sick and moody. Idk what to do. Sometimes I just feel like I would be better off emotion wise if I were doing this on my own.

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  • kritten_octoberbbykritten_octoberbby
    My husband isnt expressive but he also doesnt have those outbursts either. Is there something he is stressed about? I have asked my husband a similar question and he had a hard time answering. Idk if its because guys just know what they want or cant express the way the feel but they must feel something if they stay with us
  • MsiDriveMsiDrive
    I think some of his issue is having been in the military, having been trained to be 100% man. But somewhere its gotta give. Sometimes I think he gets really emotional, but refuses to show it. Makes me feel helpless.
  • SeptemberbubbySeptemberbubby
    Know how you feel , I've been having similar trouble. It's like they don't understand the changes that take place in our bodys ,mind and emotions during pregnancy and how much the need to feel loved, attractive (to them) and wanted is important . I've been feeling pretty insecure due to the fact I had an eating disorder and putting on weight is tripping me out , I feel like I constantly just need him to say I love you or make me feel special and what pisses me off is that I shouldn't have to ask , or be yelled at or made feel like shit for wanting that. They need to remember we are carrying there child and deserve respect. Let alone the fact the baby feels what we feel , feeling scared or upset is not good for them thank god the last week has been the closest me and my boy have been in ages and he's been making me feel pretty good. Hope it all works out for you , you'll know in your heart what is best thing for you to do. Do what makes you happy. And let him know that he will loose you if he can't appreciate you. I.m here if you ever need to talk take care xxx xxx
  • MsiDriveMsiDrive
    I know exactly what you mean. I've had eating disorders in the past, and its hard to think he finds me sexy anymore when he's always reminding me of the weight I have to gain.
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