Any stay at home wifey's feel the pressure??

1stimemomma1stimemomma
edited April 2011 in Pregnant
OMG! I swear my work never ends. I am a full time student at Cal State Fullerton and my husband has two obs. This means I get to take care ofanything house-related. He doesn't hve much time for anything but working. I take care of the finances, laundry, cooking, and cleaning. I feel like it never ends. By the end of the day I'm exhausted, but when my hubby comes home he always needs something. It's kinda stressful lately and I still have to fit in schoolwork/midterms/etc. into all of it. I have always been crazy busy. Before this pregnancy I was working full time, going to school, and taking care of the majority of the housework. Lately I've been having issues keeping it all together...can't imagine my life when my baby boy gets here...any tips? Anyone in a similar situatiuon?

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  • BayouMammaBayouMamma
    Girl i was in your shoes but decided it was best to take a few semesters off. It gives me time to rest before the baby comes and not have to stress out about assignments and such for now.
    I will return a semester or 2 after the baby is born. Im finishing up my MBA and will have night classes. Daddy can watch the baby after work when I have classes those nights. I kno it will be hard but itll be worth it...
    Im also grateful I got this far in my education...
  • grnfish73grnfish73
    Well I have 2 boys 5 and 6. And I do the same (except school). Pace yourself. Its not easy. I set certain days to do certain tasks. Now that im preggers somethings don't get done like before but its not the end of the world. We are not superwomen. (Well we are but you know) Give it some time after the baby is born to get into a grove. You are gonna be very tired so I suggest nap when the baby naps. Then strap him on when you have to do chores (except when you are using chemicals) That what I did while vacuuming and doing laundry. GOOD LUCK!!!!! You are not alone!
  • 1stimemomma1stimemomma
    @BayouMamma Thanks for the advice. I wish I could take time off, but I'm almost done. I've got three semesters left and my entire family wants to see me finish. I'm so glad I'm having the baby during the summer. I get to spend a month with him before I go back to school. Good Luck finishing up with school. It is really worth it.
  • 1stimemomma1stimemomma
    @grnfish73 Thank you so much for the advice. I've been trying to get into a routine, but then somebody needs me for something else...I think I'll get it soon. This is my first time not working and I think a routine would help me organize my schedule. I'm glad to know I'm not alone. Those are some really good tips. Thank you!
  • z_mommy_2009z_mommy_2009
    I made myself a weekly schedule (was great when I followed it!) And then if I finished I would "reward" myself. I set it up so I was doing 1 load of laundry/day at a minimum...that way we never had an overabundance. From there I figured out what chores needed to be done once a week vs a couple days. I tried to make it so that I had little that needed to b done on Friday and nothing over the weekend. Having a schedule/goal for each day helped me find motivation/force myself to do it. I would look and say "all I need to do is...and then I can relax and play w the kids". I did really well when pregnant w my 2nd...then he came and is a total mamas boy! I have gotten back into a real good routine yet. Planning to after this one is born-28 days!
  • hurstk28hurstk28
    I have 2 boys and 2 girls and pregnant. I am a stay at home mom and also do pretty much everything around the house. Husband works a full time job from 8am to 430pm. Then he is on call at all times with that job and with his firefighting job. I feel stressed all the time. Definitely we're out a schedule. We also have a monthly budget wrote out that we sat down and did together.
  • 1stimemomma1stimemomma
    @z_mommy_2009 that sounds like something I will do. I'm big on lists. I've always made lists about everything. I think when I was working I did better wityh those things, because I knew
    I only had a certain amount of time or it was not getting done. I think I will go back to my lists =) Thanks for the advice!
  • 1stimemomma1stimemomma
    @hurstk28 Thats really nice that he has time for you and the family. My husband is looking for a beter job so he will have more time with our son. He works to jobs and as it is I only see him when he's sleeping or maybe one night a week and in the morning on the weekends. You're such a trooper! Taking care of a home and 4 children sounds insane!
  • momma_tiffaymomma_tiffay
    OMG yes the pressure is ridiculous espcially when you're pregnant! I'm a stay at home mom/wife, that was my husbands choice... but I have two sons, I do all of the house work, cooking & cleaning. My husband only has one job though, & he's light duty because his backs messed up so he hardly ever does anything at work. He doesn't do anything at home, when he absolutely could help out once in a while but instead he prefers to complain about every little thing I miss. He doesn't understand at all, not very helpful. One of these days I'm going to lose my mind!
  • 1stimemomma1stimemomma
    @momma_tiffay OMG! I don't know if I could take it if he complained about anything! My hubby is really laid back. I would snap if he comlained. I'm almost hysterical somedays all on my own. If he did that I would go crazy too! Good Luck with everthing!
  • momma_tiffaymomma_tiffay
    Yeah, I don't handle it too well. I usually keep my mouth shut because I really just want him to shut up but one of these days I'm not going to be able to hold my tounge. No offense, I love my husband with my whole heart, but I absolutely hate how he has the nerve to come home & complain when he doesn't lift a finger himself. He must think it's easy managing the house & two kids, it's a task! He forgets that whenever I go out, he makes me take atleast one of the kids & he doesn't clean while I'm gone. Nor am I gone for 12hrs of the day like he is for work. He really lucks out, but he doesn't see it... I wish I could make him understand.
  • ammasmamaammasmama
    I know where your coming from. I stay at home and take care of our 1 and 2 yr old and am 35 weeks pregnant. I also run our business and when he's home he thinks he has to work outside. He doesn't take a lunch if I don't make it!

    But 1 1/2 weeks ago I was put on strict bedrest, so ladies from the church have been helping me. He had today off so I told them I didn't need anyone. He had barely got the girls pajamas off and was yelling at me that he can't do everything.....funny just 2 weeks ago all I did was sit on my butt and watch tv and the girls!!!
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