Really Depressed about gender

robinlinlee83robinlinlee83
edited February 2011 in Pregnant
Okay, so I went for my ultrasound yesterday at 15weeks 4days, and the baby had it's legs crossed so we couldn't really tell with certainty what the sex was.. the ultrasound lady said she was 80% positive it was a girl, but said that if it was a girl that the labia was EXTREMELY swollen, so it could very well be a penis. Anyways, we have to go back monday to be sure. I honestly am okay either way with what it is, and I thought my husband felt the same way, but as we are leaving the place in the parking lot he said "you know I never realized how much I wanted a boy until we were in that room and she said she thought it was a girl" This upset me GREATLY. I somehow feel like I have dissapointed my husband if it really is a girl. I guess because we really feel like it is a boy, it was just a shock for her to say she thought a girl. It is more upsetting because we also both agreed that regardless of the sex that we would NOT have anymore children (I already have a girl 15 months) Anyone go through anything similar on this? or have any advice? It is still a chance it's a boy, but she said by the "nub theory" that it looked like a girl.

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  • dreamxvidreamxvi
    I have a 3 year old girl. & I'm pregnant with babygirl #2. I was really sad when I found out it was girl cuz I really wanted a boy I had the name already for him. But u get over it as time goes by, I feel happy now cuz my little girl will have a sister I never had one. Give ur husband sometime his gonna have to looovvveee her if its a girl!!
  • robinlinlee83robinlinlee83
    I hope so.. He is so close with my daughter. He has raised her, because her real father isn't in the picture. He plans on adopting her next year. I just hope with me having another girl it doesn't change there relationship either. I just want everyone to be treated equally... And besides we may not know if it's a girl or not until monday.
  • mariericamarierica
    i really really want a girl this time i have two boys. I have a feeling its a girl but wont know for sure till march 10th....but i think i will be really upset at first too if its a boy but in the end i will be happy!
  • HeatherHeather
    We didn't know what the second and third babies were going to be (i have three boys). When I had my second baby the nurse yelled "it's a girl!" And the doc was like "Uhhh... It's a boy". I still really don't know what to think about that. Lol! Hopin' for a girl I guess:)
  • michelyamichelya
    its funny, id do anything for a girl :) on my second boy now, I know id love to have a girl but I can't imagine how upset id be with a third boy, even my husband wants a girl!
  • jcmommyjcmommy
    My husband and I wanted a girl to but we're having our second boy. I thought I would be disappointed but as soon as I saw him in the ultrasound waving and sucking his thumb, I fell in love all over again. It's good because you don't have to spend money on any more girl stuff. Once he sees her, he will be so much in love.
  • Rissalee7Rissalee7
    I keep changing my mind
  • melinda326melinda326
    @robinlinlee83 I just had my u/s yesterday and every gender test I did from store bought to home made to internet test to even your test all said girl. I have 3 boys and 3 girls, and my last 3 are girls, so I just knew I was having another girl I was very focused on girl names and had the carseat I wanted to order for the baby if we were to have another girl. My hubby said boy and I said girl. All my symptoms were the same with my last 2 baby girls who are 2 and a half and 18 months. But low and behold after 20 mintues of the u/s tech searching for our baby's gender she finally got a peak and said "there it is"... its a BOY!. I will admit I was surprised, not at all disappointed, just surprised, but after knowing for sure, I can say I love the idea of having another boy even though the last time I was preggo with a boy was almost 15 years ago. I've been little girl mode for sometime now, lol. But I already order our baby boys carseat and stroller since all I have is pink stuff. BUt what I had to really focus on was since my hubby and I lost a baby almost a year ago for the 1st time, which I've never had a problem getting pregnant or having healthy pregnancies or babies, going through that very emotional and difficult time made me really appreciate everything I have whether its a boy or a girl, all I really wanted was a heathly baby, the rest is just icing on the cake. So yes I was very surprised that I was wrong in thinking I was having another girl, I am at the same time so in love with this baby and so excited to meet him in a few more months. MAke sure to have a very full bladder for u/s appt so they can see that baby very clearly and hopefully his or her legs will be spread wide open. ALso my tech off and on kept thinking both boy and girl cuz different images looked like one then the other and than finally we had a very clear shot and we saw our little guy. So maybe that might be your situation too. You never know. BUt no matter what ya'll will love this baby as much as all your others. Its a part of you and hubby and your other children. Keep us posted on your news next week. :)
  • tzetzetzetze
    I don't think you should feel like u let him Down...after all it is HIS sperm that determines gender :) good luck I feel whatever happens u will be happy!
  • NeekNeek
    Yea women do nit determine the sex and I think that yaw will have a boy >:D< And even though u say u won't have any u prolly will .....
  • mamaOf2mamaOf2
    I have 2 girls n just found out am having a boy my bf was holding his breath till the lady.said its a boy he was so happy ..i was scared she was gna say boy....but if ur babys legs was crossed it could be a girl cuz when there legs r push together it makes it puffy they said a girl to n in the it was.a girl that was my.1st pg
  • BbysMommaBbysMomma
    I feel the same way thats y I dnt wana find out the gender cuz,my hubby wats a boy sooooo bad n I have a feeling its a girl I even have girl names n I have a feeling that wen the u/s tech says its a girl his gona get all disapointed...i wana wait til birth but idk if thats gonaa make it worst so idk wat to do :/....i kno ur hubby will get over the fact its a girl n love her no matter wat good luck :)
  • kristenmaekristenmae
    Once you have that baby, nothing will matter. My dad had all girls (4!) and although I'm sure there was a time he'd hoped for a boy, I know he wouldn't want anything different to have happened. He has 4 daddy's girls and is so full of love for all of us. So whatever ends up happening, it's going to be wonderful in the end. Keep us posted on the results!
  • baby_girlsbaby_girls
    I have a one year old daughter and we wanted a boy but wouldn't change it for nothing now we are 30 weeks pregnant with our twins and they are identical girls and the boyfriend couldn't be happier he was a lil upset they were girls but he loves the fact they are identical so guys change when they see their lil girl fir the first time mine broke down crying with our first daughter and he will do again with our twins
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