feeling unwanted

lealovelealove
edited February 2011 in Pregnant
I have been feeling like my husband just isn't interested in me. He used to get me beautiful flowers every month... he hasn't got me any in three months. Finaly he came home from the store with CARNATIONS!!!! It isn't just the flowers... when he comes home from work...being gone for three days... I don't even get a big hug and kiss... he is always on the computer or on his phone instead of paying attention to me =(( I am heart broken.

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  • Babiphatt86Babiphatt86
    edited February 2011
    First question to ask is are you expecting?Is this his first time being a father? Maybe he is nervous about the pregnancy? Try to talk to him and see how he is feeling..buy flowers and surprise him when he comes home..just a suggestion..I hope all works out for the best..hugs
  • lealovelealove
    Thank u for the suggestions ... I do surprise him with gifts. I am 15 months pregnant and already feel ugly.. since I got pregnant we both have not been getting along. He is insensitive to my feelings and we both planned on getting pregnant.
  • mommysbabyboymommysbabyboy
    Well let me tell you that you are not by yourself....its like we don't seem attractive to them anymore....kinda like they pushing us away or they've falling out of love or something.....I guess they're bodies are changing with ours or something.....I try to make myself feel good getting myself little things or going shopping that helps me....I'm 28 weeks pregnant I hope it changes when it all over
  • mrs_americamrs_america
    If talking to him about doesn't work write a letter to him and leave it for him to read when your gone to work or to the store so he can read it and think about it when he's alone. U could what till he gets home run out the door telling him u be back in a sec and tapr it to his computer. Put ur feelings on paper helps both u and him. Put him in ur shoes so he understands as if u had done that to him how would he feel. See how it gose.
  • mommysbabyboymommysbabyboy
    Well when my bf leaves for work we always talk during the day and I always talk to him about it but it seems to not do.any good.....so besides Texting him and telling what else should we do
  • mrs_americamrs_america
    Write a letter.
  • mrs_americamrs_america
    On paper.
  • lealovelealove
    Writing is a good idea.. but no matter how I tell him my feelings he still puts up his dukes and fights me saying I always make him feel like shit and that he can never do anything right.
  • mommysbabyboymommysbabyboy
    K I guess I will try that an if it doesn't work then what cause I'm starting to he scared
  • tzetzetzetze
    I'm not dismissing how u are feeling because I know its legitimate...but from my own similar experience I've noticed how intense some of my feelings have become since we have become pregnant. Mostly because of the raging hormones but also because of it being scary! For me it helps to write my husband a weekly email of what my body is going throo and how the baby is growing weekly. This way he knows to take my feelings into consideration even if he thinks they aren't rational. U have intense emotions because this is a big change in ur lives and u want to feel like he is just as excited to start this as u. All men will jump on the defense when u tell them how u feel its just how they are programmed! :) it helps to let him kno that ur feelings come from being pregnant and that u love him all the same... Hope that helps...:)
  • ItsAGirl18ItsAGirl18
    My Husband is the same way, he says I make him feel like crap and he constantly talks about how he sorks and is tired and needs a breaks. I'm 5 months and a week. He works graveyard so he's always sleeping or playing gamez online with his buddiez and than gets mad when I wanna talk and he wants to sleep but honestly its like damn when is it ever time to talk to you ): I get pushed away a lotbwhen I try to make love to him or make out wifh him and he's always using the I'm tired or my breathe stinks excuse. I feel so rejected and ugly and the bigger I get the less attractive to him I feel. I write him letters and try to tell him how I feel but hearing I'm sorry all he time gets old. He even asked me to change last night because I'm the one that likes to talk when its time to sleep and he hatez it. If you wanna talk to me other than here cause I'm not on often my number is 702-482-3558. My name is Karizma.
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