Fighting...
Video games! I hate them!! My hubby is army so he gets to come home on lunch.. He comes home and runs to his game room.. Doesn't even say hi, or hug me, or give me a kiss..
Its been this way for a while.. I feel so unloved and just want to run back home sometimes..
Sometimes I feel like he wants me to go back home.. It seems like he picks fights..
Like yest in a 5 min span we fought twice.
One went like this.
Him: Whats for dinner?
Me:Spaghetti
Him: ugh
Me:What?
Him: We had spaghetti last night. I hate eating the same thing two nights in a row.(Yet he can eat frozen pizza every F*ing lunch)
Me: Sorry we just have so much left overs. I figured we'd eat it again(We NEVER eat left overs)
Him: I figured the kids would eat it(My daycare kids. They had some)
few pauses later
Him:Did you take out any meat?
Me:No I figured we'd have spaghetti so I didn't plan to make anything else.
Him: ugh
Minute later we were talking about my suv. Its been making noises
Him: On Payday I want you to take your suv in for a diagnostic
Me: idk you just can't get your friend to look at it(I asked him to ask his friend, he said he would)
pause
Me:So my dad said to..(Got cut off)
Him:(in a mad tone) YA I know what your dad said to do
Me: NO you don't. You didn't even listen to me. You never listen to what I have to say.
Him: YOU never listen to me. I told you to go get a diagnostic done.
Me: There is a BIG difference on NOT listening to what someone is trying to say. and not going and doing what someone said to do.
Is my marriage doomed? I feel like it is.. We've only been married for a year. Before we got married he used to send sweet love texts. And he used to tell me EVERYDAY how amazing and great I was.. Now I just feel like a maid.. He can't even help with the dishes.. Sometimes I will see how many dishes pile up in the sink before he puts them in the dish washer.
:-((
Its been this way for a while.. I feel so unloved and just want to run back home sometimes..
Sometimes I feel like he wants me to go back home.. It seems like he picks fights..
Like yest in a 5 min span we fought twice.
One went like this.
Him: Whats for dinner?
Me:Spaghetti
Him: ugh
Me:What?
Him: We had spaghetti last night. I hate eating the same thing two nights in a row.(Yet he can eat frozen pizza every F*ing lunch)
Me: Sorry we just have so much left overs. I figured we'd eat it again(We NEVER eat left overs)
Him: I figured the kids would eat it(My daycare kids. They had some)
few pauses later
Him:Did you take out any meat?
Me:No I figured we'd have spaghetti so I didn't plan to make anything else.
Him: ugh
Minute later we were talking about my suv. Its been making noises
Him: On Payday I want you to take your suv in for a diagnostic
Me: idk you just can't get your friend to look at it(I asked him to ask his friend, he said he would)
pause
Me:So my dad said to..(Got cut off)
Him:(in a mad tone) YA I know what your dad said to do
Me: NO you don't. You didn't even listen to me. You never listen to what I have to say.
Him: YOU never listen to me. I told you to go get a diagnostic done.
Me: There is a BIG difference on NOT listening to what someone is trying to say. and not going and doing what someone said to do.
Is my marriage doomed? I feel like it is.. We've only been married for a year. Before we got married he used to send sweet love texts. And he used to tell me EVERYDAY how amazing and great I was.. Now I just feel like a maid.. He can't even help with the dishes.. Sometimes I will see how many dishes pile up in the sink before he puts them in the dish washer.
:-((
Comments
As for the 2nd part, is it ur 1st baby? If so maybe he's scared of being a daddy and wanting things done right. I've noticed at some points my hubbys "pregnancy hormones" r worse than mine. Now that I'm well into trimester 2 he's getting used to the idea more, and he's getting better with handling things.
It will get better hun just hang in there
Yes our first baby.
I almost always cook dinner and he doesn't help. He just sits there and plays video games. Then I tell him dinner is done.. I never get a thank you.. He never uses his manners. Though lately I haven't made much effort since I eat at weird hours and not real hungry. I have no appetite so I don't want to cook.
If we go out to eat I tell him thank you for dinner. Or if he makes dinner(He makes the taco's and sloppy joes) I thank him..
I just wish we had better communication. I'm not real good on saying how I feel. And if I text it to him I'm afraid he won't take it how I feel right.
but the advice given to me at the time was to continue to do my part as a wife..continue cooking, cleaning, and all the things that annoyed me (picking up after him)..and eventually he would change
And that's what happened, he changed..I think men go through something in the beginning..I don't know what it is girl..
But stick it out and cont. To try..continue to love him, its no over night change..but it will happen
He won't even change the cat litter box so I'm forved to do it. He's knows how mad I am about it. But he doesnt care. He knows its bad. I just make sure I wash my hands really good.
In his bathroom is a laundry hamper, and guess what's right beside it on the ground... his dirty laundry!! I got soooo fed up once I put it on fb. B.c. I know he checks what I post. He got mad.. idc. Its ridiculous.. I know I shouldn't have put it on fb. But owell..
And usually I'll cook and I won't even eat. And then he gets mad about it.. like damn who cares.. he hates eating anything with flavor, so he buys a lot of hamburger helper. It smells disgusting so I don't want it.
He kept bugging me over and over and over again for the damn game.. he's into the zombie game on black ops.
Like for instance, we had a 19 inch flat screen he wanted to mount. I didn't know he was doing it til I walked into the room. I just stood back silently and watched.. he got the mount on, put the tv and slightly took his hands off. Oops mount comes out of the wall. He looked at me and said 'you knew that was going to happen didn't you'. Ha yes. I didn't smerk. All I said was 'i wasn't sure if you had put it in the stud or not'. Like its common sense! Right? You can't screw into drywall and expect something that weighs like 25 lbs to stay there..
When we first got married he bought a cheap tv stand. He couldn't even put it together. The directions had pictures and words..
I don't know if he really doesn't know how to do stuff, or if he does and acts like he doesn't so that I do it.. he's either really uneducated about shop or really lazy...
He can't even grill!! Whether it be a hamburger, hotdogs, or a steak.. he thinks its best to turn up the heat and keep the lid open. Um no that just cooks the outside.. I tell him to turn down the heat and close the lid so that the heat stays in and cooks the inside.. I just wish he would listen to me!
He says he won't go to parenting classes with me. He better or i'll kick his ass! I know he knows how to change a diaper, but on a toddler. He's changed my daycare kids butt before. But he doesn't hold babies. He doesn't like them. Granted he will be gone the first year of our childs life. I still think he should go to support me. They may tell me something I don't know.
We started talking on myspace. Lol. He was in korea in the army. We went to the same high school. He got back to the states and we started dating. Exactly 5 months later we got married. Its been a year and a month since then. Things have changed in the past 6 months. I'm just going to try and listen to @supermomof3