needing a lil advice
I have been with my bf since dec...I got preg in jan...so he only knew me 1 month befor I got preg and well now I am 16w and the whole pregnancy I have not felt good sick moody...not my normal happy gi lucky self plus I am going threw a nasty divorce/custody battle with my abusive ex...my bf thinks I am taking all my anger out on his lil girl she's 5 and does not listen at all thinking she has ADHD but hr don't think so he thinks shes a normal 5yr old...I have a 8,4and 2 yr old boys and they don't act like her they listen and behave...example...we have a sand box and I told all the kids do not get in the sand box right before they went out to play and everyone said yes mama not sand box...she walks outside and goes stright for the sand box and I tell her get back inside and sit for 10 min well I let her up 10 mind later and said stay out of the sand box...I am sitting ob the pourch watching them plat and well she's bac in the sand box not even 5 mins later...so make her come in shower and go to her room the rest of the evenging....well he dad get off work and comes to pick her up...you can tell she been crying and she says I hate her and won't let her play outside with the boys...wtf...so I told him the story and he says she's just being a child...im sorry no she's not thats stright up not behaving...she's his I only child...I've raised 3 and there is something diff about her...she has trouble in school not on grade level and everytime I bring up taking her to the doc for a check up to make sure everythings ok he gets pisses saying why dont you take your boys...what do I do to make him realize she needs to go to the doc...I am not singeling her out I am concerned...and my parents are too they see what I see...what do I do ladys or am I just being hormonal lol
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I'm not saying spank her, because to each their own. I don't get involve with debates about that type of stuff but, does her biological mother have a court order? In the state of Texas most standard visitation orders(which are weekends and holidays) state she has the right to consent to medical or psychological treatment. Maybe, speak to her teacher at school or counselor. If you and her mother both see it, and are both concerned, and even an outsider see's it, maybe there is a chance that you could have an intervention (sorry, that sounds bad) with her father. If a professional can sit down and say that maybe something isn't right... he might open his eyes? What is the worse that can happen, that it couldn't work? ( I do not know the side effects of these types of drugs btw) This can either help her, or can't and if she doesn't need a drug for ADD, then maybe it's just a stage she'll outgrow. But you'll never know until you try it.