accident and not in love

skaska
edited February 2011 in Pregnant
I only knew the father for a month and became pregnant. Im not in love. I have absolutely no idea what to do. I think he wants to live together and raise the baby. I just wana be friends and see if any feelings develope along the way. Anyone else in a crazy situation like this?

Comments

  • bummy87bummy87
    do it ur way things happen, no need to ru$hh my sister got married , worst thing she ever did, well maybe but thats a long story, follow your heart
  • Mrssmith89Mrssmith89
    I agree ^^^ do it ur way follow your heart
  • eaparker83eaparker83
    Just take time and work together for the baby. You don't have to be together just have to agree and get along
  • joyjoy
    Wow thought I was the only one. I seperated from my husband and filing for divorce..... started hanging out with my best guy friend, like getting to know each other to possibly date in the future. Then one month after we started to get to know each other I found out im pregnant. Its deffinately his just don't really know what im going to do.
  • celesteecelestee
    Maybe get a place with him but don't share a room? It will help you get to know him and he can feel like he's a part of your pregnancy too. It's probably as scary for him as it is for you. Take it at your own pace and communicate as often as possible. There is no rule book on how families are meant to be.
  • skaska
    Another problem is we live 5 hours away from one another. We were both working in california when I got pregnant. He lives in south Louisiana and I live in north louisiana.
  • cherry7upcherry7up
    I'm 4 months pregnant not in love and living with him. Thought my feelings would grow for him as time went on. But still feel the same and stuck.
  • skaska
    See that's what im scared of. I have told him how I feel and that I want to work on our friendship for now. He is starting to shut down on me. Never calls or txts me anymore. I have to initiate everything.
  • MythicaMythica
    Look, girl, if you're not in love, and the idea of him being a father doesn't incite some pretty strong feelings, its best to just go your own way. I, myself, am not with my baby's daddy. Its not an easy thing to do alone, but your happiness is worth more than trying to keep something alive that just isn't there. I tried staying with him for a while before I got pregnant, I was absolutely sure id get feelings for him eventually and I would be happy. But it just didn't happen. You don't want to put yourself into a situation where you're not happy to begin with. We fought and fought and then we broke up. Then I found out I was pregnant the day after he got a new girlfriend (talk about timing, huh? >_>). Now they're engaged (less than a month together) and I'm still single. Dating is weird when you're pregnant, and difficult to do a lot of the time, but its not impossible. Don't stay where you're not happy if all you're afraid of is being alone... there are plenty of men out there who find ready-made families perfect. =)
  • 1TiaNVelly1TiaNVelly
    You gotta be careful now adays, guys are knocking ladies up purposely for their own f"d up reasons, I'd hold off on the living with you thing!
  • MiracleM2BMiracleM2B
    Remember, living with him doesn't mean you HAVE to have a relationship. He could help alot. You'll become very tired and could use the help.
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