I'm not quite sure what to do, help.

MiracleM2BMiracleM2B
edited February 2011 in Pregnant
GUI'm from California, I moved to TX to be with my fiance a couple months ago. We are a young couple. He will soon be 21, and I, 20. I am 7 weeks pregnant. He goes to school and works various hours a week. We live with his family. I do love his family and know they adore me. They told me before I moved in that the agreement was as long as he is in school, rent would not have to be paid. Well, a few weeks ago they went on a family weekend and we didn't have the money to go so we stayed behind. Not that we didn't want to go, we did! The family began to think we don't want to do family things and we don't care about family. Now, knowing Im pregnant they want us to pay one bill and rent. Also, his little sister is bi-polar and flips out on me for no reason. She is 10, and she screams and crys. I had told her that she needed to wait for me to answer her rather then inturrupt me when I am having a conversation. I want to move out, but they seem to think if we move out we don't care about, nor want to be apart of the family....

Help?

Comments

  • baby4onthewaybaby4ontheway
    I would sit everyone down and have a calm talk and tell them how you feel without screaming and remind them of the agreement you guys had made before you moved in and explain that you do want to be with the family but when they make accusations about you guys not going on a trip because you don't want to be with them is wrong and hurtful.
  • breebree
    That's riff I used to live with my in-laws and it was hard but I was grateful. I would sit them down together and tell them how u feel u love them an would have loved to go with them but ur finances aren't there. An u two need to save for the baby that's what's most important right now. Pray about it first though it will all work out. An the bi polar sister Idk what to tell u bout her I would keep my distance from that lol
  • preggointxpreggointx
    This is a very stressful time for u don't let them stress you out. Explain your situation and if they live you they will understand. If they don't then that's really not an environment you and your baby want to be in anyways . The first trimester is very important...don't stress
  • MiracleM2BMiracleM2B
    But they're the type of people that blow everthing out of porportion. Plus if we have a disagreement with his mom. The whole family seems to ignore us. It's really ignorant and irritating. I'm in fear of loosing the baby.
  • baby4onthewaybaby4ontheway
    You could always have him talk to his mother and see if that helps.
  • MiracleM2BMiracleM2B
    They belittle him and I don't like that. They want what they want and only what they want. And like I said, if we leave its almost like we'll be disowned and I have nobody here but him and his family.
  • preggointxpreggointx
    Save up and move u don't need the stress
  • FatBarbieFatBarbie
    Just curios where did you move from/to? I moved from palm springs to houston.
  • MiracleM2BMiracleM2B
    I moved from California desert, to San Antonio Tx.
  • hupe23hupe23
    Wildomar to san marcos ur close to me
  • caroline8_rcaroline8_r
    Had a similar situation!! I was living at my moms, but so were other people I didn't care for. My bf and I met on an app on a different phone, he ended up moving here (to tx) from ny. My cousin kept asking and asking for us to move in with her and her fam. Then she offered me a job at the store she manages. We finally gave in and said yes. She told us no rent or bills til I was caught up with my car note. Well, working and living with her got stressful. She started saying my bf was disrespectful, then we both were " "... Then she wanted rent. I quit her job and after a month found another job, in time that my bf didnt have his anymore. Well after 4 months of basic hell and staying refined to our room. We decided to come back to my moms, where there are no damn jobs. Lol..
  • caroline8_rcaroline8_r
    Oh, then once we got to moms, we found out we were 5wks along. Now 11 weeks :)
  • Kmose77Kmose77
    Sounds like a hard situation. But I have to agree. You''ve got to sit down with the mom. Explain how you feel. Be as respectful and loving as possible. But taking it out is the only way ur going to solve anything. Other wise assumptions are going to be made. And feelings hurt. Living with people no matter how much you live or like them is always a stressful situation. Get your stuff together as quick as you can. Get your own place. It will be hard but it will save you're relationship with his fan if you can move on good terms. Good luck!
  • MiracleM2BMiracleM2B
    But as I said earlier, they believe if you don't live here youre not family. We now pay 100 for rent which I guess isn't bad. Better then 4 or 5 hundred. /: Been getting kinda better.
  • caroline8_rcaroline8_r
    I can't believe how similar our situations are/were. Good luck.
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