Should I tell him or no?

edited April 2011 in Pregnant
Well I was married before the marriage I'm in now to the father of my 2 daughters. We divorced 4 years ago because he was a poor money manager, gambler, and kept things about money from me. I met my (now) husband during that rough period and later we married...Well my ex constantly asks if we are married and I haven't told him yet because I feel it's really not his business and he needs to move on. On a recent visit home to Ga, one of my daughters slipped up and told him I was pregnant, when he asked, I denied it because he was crying and I didn't want to hurt his feelings. I don't know what to do....he's supposed to come down in June for my daughters birthday and I know he's gonna be able to tell I'm pregnant. Should I tell him the truth or should he just mind his business?
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  • tell him the truth. u shouldnt feel like u have to hide stuff from ur ex. he needs to move on
  • Help him move on by telling him the truth. Its really none of his buisiness but I don't see any reason 2 lie. He'll get over it.
  • tell him n tell him to grow some balls n move on
  • @Ittybitty...we still have a good relationship because of the kids and he really didn't want the divorce so he really gets emotional and sometimes crazy when I bring up things abt my relationship now....thats kinda why I try to keep him out of my business
  • buttttttttt by not telling him is sortof a backward way of saying to ur now husband I care more for my ex's feelngs than urs
  • yea I understand, but at the same time he needs to move on, ur already married and having a baby with ur husband now. he will fine out sooner r later and waiting til he sees u will probably make him very uncomfortable
  • @bummy87
    @Ittybitty
    I agree....I just need to build up enough nerve to do it!! Thanks ladies #:-s
  • goodluck xx
  • best of luck..
  • Thank you
  • I agree tell him the truth so he can let it settle.its obvious he has feelings still after this I'm sure he will move on. Good luck
  • Its sweet you dont want to hurt his feelings! But I agree...tell him. Youll feel better afterwards. Good luck and congrats on your new baby :-)
  • edited April 2011
    @bjsmommy
    @DueMay10
    Thanks. Its been a really nerve wrecking experience. I can't even sleep. Just trying to figure out how I'm going to tell him :-< ...I just don't want to mess up the friendship and I definately don't want to mess up the bond he has with the girls
  • Tell him the truth. It is what it is. He will eventually.except it. But he may be more hurt that you been lyin to him
  • I'm in same situation my ex doesn't no anything and I am scared to tell him he was abusive and he is not stable and he keeps asking me to come back and I won't tell him cuz I Dnt want the drama
  • @jstnshrt ....mine wasnt abusive but whn he's mad he has a tendency to stop talkin to the kids....he has gotten a little crazy b4 by poppin up at my house at like 2-3 am....i really feel like he should have closure by now and he needs to stay out of my business
  • Tell him calmly and firmly that you didn't want him hurt but.yes you are married abd pregnant. Do it soon so he has time to deal with it by June which is practically around the corner. He may stop tslking to the kids for awhile but it wont be forever. Good luck.
  • Tell him the truth.
  • Out of respect for your current husband, you should tell him.. good luck. I have an ex husband who is the father if my 2 boys, so I go through the same thing..
  • @armywife3 that's how I feel too its like move on I have... but I don't want to cause unnecessary pain either
  • Good luck! I for sure think telling him is the right thing to do! He deserves to know so he can move on.
  • @jstnshrt.... I tried to tell him and now he's pissed and won't talk to me. I'm just not going to worry about it anymore. I can't even have a civil conversation with him sometimes. He always tries to send me on this "guilt trip" because I guess he feels I didn't work hard enough on the marriage and I just let him go... I mean how many damn warnings did you need?! I guess he'll just have to see when he comes up, if he decides to. I'm not going to stress myself over it...
  • @jstnshrt ... Besides I just received some very devastating news from my hubby so he's really just gonna have to get over it!!

    @baileygoose
    @jenzoe1
    @expectingbabynumber3
    @Karla_with_a_K
    ....Thanks ladies ;;)
  • I wouldnt worry about hurting his feelings now.. he is not in your life and he missed his chance being with a great woman. He needs to get over it and move on. And yes it isnt his business but the fact your married and pg is kinda a give in..no need to hide the truth he is gonna know so let him figure it out. You owe him nothing.
  • @armywife do u fear he will go crazy wen he see ur pregnant?
  • @lexi34... I'm not sure...You never know what people will do in situations like that....when he found out I had met someone else while we were going through our divorce, he would do really off the wall stuff. Like I said he has popped up at my house in the middle of the night. Luckily my hubby was here then, but I'm on my own now soooo idk...I always tell my mom or my friends when we're gonna be around each other so they can check up on me randomly.
  • I would say restraining order but he has to come see his kids..or if u dnt want him to see u preggo have someone else dere wen he come to pick them up ..and u just go some where for the day @armywife3
  • everything ok with u and hubby? I seen where u said u got some not so good news. hope everything is ok andur not stressing
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