ugh, having trouble ttc, and then find out my fiancee's sister is now pregnant...

mommyinwaitingmommyinwaiting
edited April 2011 in Trying to conceive
This sucks. We have been ttc for a few months now and had another bfn last month. We are both bummed. So then yesterday I get a text at work from my fiancee. His sister has now announced that she is 12 weeks pregnant. When I got my bad news 2 months ago that I had several false positive pregnancy tests, I would have been around 15-17 weeks pregnant. Why is it that some people don't even have to try. I cried myself to sleep lastnight...

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  • heatherlynnheatherlynn
    :( I know the feeling..before I got preggo..I remember feeling so jealous when someone told me that they were preggo...I found myself hating on them..I know its bad. But I wanted a baby so bad. Good luck on ttc though...it will come :)
  • tryforbaby2tryforbaby2
    I'm so sorry..it does suck but you have to remember that they shouldn't feel guilty for starting a family cause others have a hard time...it seems as tho when u want a child so badly everyone around u announces they are preggo and it makes it ten times harder. Your time will come promise! I've only been trying two mo. And it sucks but I can't imagine those who have been trying for yrs, I know my sis is one of them I just lost my neice at 25 weeks...she had to deliver. But never give up! The pain is allllll worth it in the end. GL
  • FirstTimeDaddyFirstTimeDaddy
    ): ur time will come. but ur sil didn't do it on purpose right. when we found out we were having a baby. my gf's closin who is our room mate got jealous. , not in a I hate u jealousy. but she is like trying to t pendant too. thats immature. n she is older than us too
  • mommyinwaitingmommyinwaiting
    No, she didn't do it on purpose. No one in his family knows we are trying. He is afraid to tell them, or something. I should make him tell them before we try any more, but I just want a baby so badly. Before my divorce, my exhusband and I tried for 2 years. And I have never quit wanting one, but I realized my exhusband wasn't a good husband, and was being terrible to my son. When I ended up dating one of my best friends, and falling in love with him, everything fell into place. I am so happy to have someone so loving for myself and my son. When I had those false positives two months ago, and I went to the doctor and found out we weren't really pregnant it was devastating...
  • LeviLuv8LeviLuv8
    Ive been trying since september... I have 4 coworkers & 3 friends that got pregnant after I started trying. 1 due june, 1 in july, 2 in august, and 3 in september. Of those 7 only 2 maybe 3 were actually trying. Talk about frustrating!
  • mommyinwaitingmommyinwaiting
    In all I have been ttc for about 3 years. I had been on the depo shot for five years, and the drs are saying that is what screwed up my hormones.
  • mommyinwaitingmommyinwaiting
    And now, my bestfriend is preggo too. Wtf!! What have I done to deserve this? And she knows we r trying and when I had gotten that positive test and told her she said she couldn't feel excited for me because it was still too close to the death of her 6 week old son, my godchild.
  • mrsrocketfield1221mrsrocketfield1221
    same thing has been happening with me, and it's tough. i haven't been ttc as long, but hearing about friends getting pregnant or watching their bellies grow is hard a lot of days. i just try to keep in mind my blessing is coming... i hope that yours comes soon too!! [-O< and remember that you haven't done anything wrong. there's a greater plan and you will certainly be ready when your mommy time comes!!! WE CAN DO THIS! keep your head up and a smile on your face... seems like you have the love part down!
  • mommyinwaitingmommyinwaiting
    @mrsrocmetfield1221 prayers and baby dust for you as well. I just get so frustrated. I wish I could just push a magic button. And the fact that she was bitchy to me when I got a positive test and now I'm sposed to be all excited for her, when mine was a false positive and I got my heart broken.
  • mommyinwaitingmommyinwaiting
    We have been ttc since about august. Before I left my exhusband, he and I ttc for 2 years. I am not sure, but I think he may be impotent because of his uncontrolled type 1 diabetes. But that's ok, he was a jackass to my son, so I am glad we didn't have a baby in a way. I have been doing some research online, and I am finding all sorts of reviews about pre-seed lubricant and this fertile CM supplement. Have any of you guys ever used that with any success?
  • kayleigh27kayleigh27
    We tried for over a yr and nothing happened. Both my SILs an three of my friends got pregnant all around the same time. Every month I was getting more and more jealous and angry with every announcement. Then they would be like "what about you?" And "when are we going to get an announcement?" I would of course try to laugh it off and say we were saving money for a baby or we were just having fun being married. When of course we were getting bfn every month and blaming each other for no reason. Finally my husband and I bought some pre seed lube and we started taking vitamins and charting my basal temps. We finally got pregnant after a couple of months of doing that. Sadly I had a mc a couple of months later but we tried again and this time it worked. So I know what you're going through and totally understand it. Good luck and lots of baby dust
  • mommyinwaitingmommyinwaiting
    Thank you so much for your understanding. I almost wanna just stand on my head after we have sex for a while so it all sinks in or something. of course nursing school says that there is no way that would help, but logic says, that the longer the semen is in there, the more likely it will work. I am thinking I am going to order some pre seed when I get paid on friday.
  • kayleigh27kayleigh27
    I used a pillow under my hips. My husband saw it in a movie and we were just joking when we did it but maybe thats what worked for us! I also took macca root due to reading that it helps with fertility I only would take it every once in awhile though so idk if that helped any. My husband took a multivitamin that had macca root and zinc and other stuff in it as well. We bought fertiliaid but it actually made my husbands 'load' less than what it usually was so I don't reccomend it but its up to you since there are success stories with it.
  • mommyinwaitingmommyinwaiting
    I actually was taking some macca root, and have some powder of it, that can be put in food, or smoothies or whatever, I have read that it not only boosts fertility and sex drive, but it also boosts immunity. I am not sure about all those fertiliaid pills or all that, just wondering about the pre-seed lubricant because of the ph thing. and that's funny that you bring up the pillow under the hips, that's what my fiancee's sister said too! LOL

    I just think this thing with my best friend pisses me off because she was so nasty to me when I got a positive test, telling me that it was too soon for her to be happy for me and acting all bitchy to me and then as soon as she finds out she rubs it in my face and acts like I am supposed to be all happy for her, when my BFP was defective pregnancy tests... GRR ok, I am glad I got that out.
  • kayleigh27kayleigh27
    Yeah the pre seed is pretty good. A bit pricey for such a little tube but I would only use a little at a time. I did try to us ovulation tests but I did better using basal temperature to track ovulation I used it with fertilityfriend.com to help pinpoint where I was ovulating. The.first month is free but then is like $40 for a year but it was worth the money!
  • mommyinwaitingmommyinwaiting
    I know about the temperature thing, that's why men have a scrotum, because sperm cannot survive at 98.6 degrees so depending on the surrounding temperature, they may hang down a bit, or shrivel up to be closer to the body. He is all excited for the baby thing to happen, but that is now. what happens when we do get pregnant? Will he still be excited or will it turn to scared shitless?
  • kayleigh27kayleigh27
    My husband was really excited but was really scared.just with being a dad
  • mommyinwaitingmommyinwaiting
    I think my fiancee will pass out if he hears the words I'm pregnant. I think he is starting to think I can't get prego. Cuz now he gets lazy, and doesn't want to do the baby dance as often.
  • tryinghard19tryinghard19
    Im 19. We have been ttc for over a year. We had done schedules and hormones and positions and temp taking. My period was late 4 days today. Was getting excited. And AF just started 20 Mins ago. Im done trying. This must be gods way of saying no to my prayers
  • etompa01etompa01
    I know how you feel! I have been trying since November, found out a couple weeks ago I have pcos, so I'm having problems. I have 5 friends that are pregnant now (since I started trying) and my brother called me the other day saying his wife is prego... but he didn't want anymore kids and she got prego on purpose! I am so upset that everyone else is getting what I want so badly!
  • SalasMommySalasMommy
    I had a miscarriage in 09 I was trying to conceive for more than a year I thought I couldn't have kids anymore..I had gained so much weight during my pregnancy it took me more than a yr to loose it and as soon as I did BINGO POSITIVE I conceived july 2010 and my son is 5wks old
  • mommyinwaitingmommyinwaiting
    Well, I've been trying for a long time. I was trying for 2 years with my exhusband before I saw the light that he was a giant asshole to both myself and my son. And then after my divorce I fell in love and we have been trying almost 6 months now. So almost 3 years. All this because of the stupid depo shot.
  • FaerdraFaerdra
    I tried to concieve with my ex husband for nearly 4 years... it was a bad relationship and when I finally left and found some one that made me truly happy... I conceived within 6 months. And this after being told I only had a slim chance of ever conceiving cause of my severe pcos. Don't let it get you down hon, it will happen when you least expect it.
  • mommyinwaitingmommyinwaiting
    And my best friend found out she is pregnant a couple weeks ago as well. Really? What is up with that? I have sex damn near every day and count days and take my temp almost every morning before I get up, and I get no where. Her husband (one of my ex boyfriends) looks at her sideways and she's knocked up. I am beginning to think that I am not meant to have another baby. I think I might just be done having kids.
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