anyone have a loved one who is incarcerated???

InLoveeeInLoveee
edited April 2011 in Pregnant
I have, luckily not during my pregnancy though.

I pray everyday that I NEVER have to relive that experience again in my life.
It was mainly more stressful for me because I was so worried about my loved one with all the uproar in riots at the prisons and all the overcrowding here in California. It was a very stressful year :/

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  • 1_Bubbly_Mommy1_Bubbly_Mommy
    Not in prison but jail and it is stressful i hated it and couldn't stand it...i think the visits are the hardest.
  • InLoveeeInLoveee
    Yes they are damn hard, especially having to leave. Once he came home I had this overwhelming feeling of relief...Like remembering that I no longer have to stock the mailman everyday because he was finally there next to me. Songs play now that I would listen to when he was gone and it gives me such a sad feeling, i guess from it giving me deja vu of the way I felt when he was gone.
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    Yep, I do. My cousin has been in prison since I was about 11 years old. I saw him for the first time in years back in December at his mom (my aunt's) funeral. She died on Thanksgiving and we didn't even see it coming. It was soooo sad bc he was supposed to get out in October but he didn't. If he would've gotten out then he would've had at least a month to spend with his mom before she passed!
  • InLoveeeInLoveee
    edited April 2011
    @tootie08 I HATEEE THAT!!! They say they will be home ____ and then never come home on that date! They did it to my loved one like 3 damn times and it wasnt because he got in trouble or anything, pissed me the eff off!
  • 1_Bubbly_Mommy1_Bubbly_Mommy
    Yeah i wanted to cry when i would see them but be so happy at the same time i hated when they would be like time to go i would say i love you sooooo much...i remember one time they had a court date and came in the court room lol we sneaked a couple of kisses believe it or not ugh i felt like a little girl again at those times.
  • InLoveeeInLoveee
    Awlll trust me girl I FEEL what you are saying....And shoot I wish I could have gotten some kisses at the court dates, that was the most stressful time of it all, not knowing how long he would be gone. I will never forget that first court date I was a mess and didnt know what to expect. I was sitting next to this really sweet mexican lady who started talking to me. She told me she was there for her son. I panicked because he didnt come out with the first bach of guys and she told me the process since I was a newbie and calmed me down since I thought I was in the wrong room lol Then she turned to me and very sincerely told me, "you are a very beautiful person" and right then was when he came out but I didnt notice since she was talking to me so when I looked up he was just staring at me smiling so big, OMG talking about it makes me almost cry ahhh lol
  • izander4izander4
    Yes, my man/bd is locked up right now, and he's not getting out until next year sometime in the summer or autumn....it's really hard because i go to visit him and each time im more preggo....im due on may 5, so he will miss the birth of our son, and he has missed out on a lot of my pregnancy....i go for visits, and even though they're contact visits, we have to sit across from each other at a table, and only are allowed a brief hug in the beginning and end of the visit...he rubbed my belly once and the C.O. said it was 'inappropriate fondling'....how is it inappropriate if he is touching my belly, trying to feel our son move?? I don't get it....i cry all the time and i miss him so much, it hurts even if i get a letter from him....i hope he comes home sooner rather than later...idk how im going to do this without him....it's my first child, and i feel so lost because all of my family lives far away, and most of my friends are away in college or dont talk to me anymore :( it sucks, but the best thing is that i will have a beautiful little angel at the end of everything :)
  • InLoveeeInLoveee
    @izander4 :( I know that must be hard. I don't even know if I was in tur shoes if I could do it. I have much respect for you for being so strong. I am on mines day and night about never getting in trouble again because I am pregnant and I can't do this without him. Just know your not alone there are many woman out there that are struggling with this same situation and bond together during this time. I will be your buddy :) PM me anytime hun
  • Jess510Jess510
    I hated and loved visits at the same time. I would cry every time I left.
  • alvamommyalvamommy
    My two brothers are in prison. One will be there 47 years and the other 25. Havent seen them since I was 14, im 21 now.
  • izander4izander4
    @InLoveee thx mama....and same to you....pm me anytime :)
  • sara102011sara102011
    My brother is in a half way house but he is well on his way ti getting kicked out and going to prison.
  • HavingNumber4HavingNumber4
    my brother just recently came home but a love one no it was I who was incarcerated for 2,1/2 years in prison
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