SCARED OUT OF MY MIND!!!!

nkrowenkrowe
edited April 2011 in Pregnant
I just recently found out I'm pregnant. I keep praying to God that I don't have to worry about it not being my bfs baby. See before I told my bf I was pregnant, I had been rapped. And now I'm not sure if this baby is his baby. I'm so scared cuz he already said if this baby wasn't his me and him were finished, hence why I never toldd him about what happened. Now I'm freaking out and have know idea what to do :-(

Comments

  • bummy87bummy87
    I think for your mentalhealth.its important to talj 2 him about that even if u go to a councellor together n tell him good luck xx
  • SalasMommySalasMommy
    Go to a counselor. Or just get a dna at the hospittal if he sticks by u I'm sure when they ask him do u want a paternity test he will say yeah
  • nkrowenkrowe
    just by talking to him about it, he will leave. He isnt one to stick by someone for long, especially if her feels like the baby won't be his. If the baby doesn't look like him when the baby comes, he won't even ask for a test. Both his other kids came out with blonde hair.
    As for getting him to go to a counselor, that's an impossible task that I tried once before just for our relationship.
  • mommy_of_adrianamommy_of_adriana
    Why hold on to someone who can just walk away easily how long have u guys been together?
  • jenzoe1jenzoe1
    @nkrowe Did you report the rape? Did you have sex with your boyfriend within the same week as your rape? Even if he doesn't want a paternity test, you can have one court ordered. Im with @mommy_of_adriana, why hold on to someone who can walk away so easy? If you love your boyfriend, then he deserves to know about the rape.. But, that is just my opinion.. That is a horrible pain that you shouldn't have go through all alone.. Good luck Hun!
  • nkrowenkrowe
    We have been together almost a year. Yes I did have sex with my Bf a few days after the raped occurred. I didnt report the rape, although the hospital figured it was what had happened. I want to tell him, but as I said, im afraid he will leave me.
  • natashalynnnatashalynn
    If someone won't accept you at your worst, they don't deserve you at your best.
  • mamamagzmamamagz
    @nkrowe please go to your local SARC that is what they are there for, to help people that have been sexutally asulted. I went through the exact same thing a little over 9 months ago. My now ex, was not happy about the pregnancy, but he was super super supportive of what ever decision I made. And I went from placing her with an adoptive family to keeping her. That last part was with in the last two months of my pregnancy. My ex and I are no longer together, but he still is a friend, and he wants to know things about my baby girl because there is a possable paternal link, we have decided to hold off on a paternity test because he is scared to actually be a father, and I want him to want her in his life, so I told him to take his time, and if he wants one he can have one when ever he wants. Sorry this went a bit off topic, but my point is, get help for yourself, report the rape, even though there isn't much the poliece can do, they can have increased patrols in the ariea and inform businesses, and residents as well to make sure that other ladies are aware of what is going on. And get help for yourself. What you have been through is tramatizing. And the longer you put off talking to someone, the more it is going to hurt you in the long run. Please please get some help.
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