baby daddy gone

FirstTime_Mommy · February 2011

So my bf the babys dad just broke up wit me thru a text message wtf are u kidding me he told me he doesn't love me n hasn't been in love wit me for awhile wtf why would he lead me on so long wat cuz I was still sleeping wit him ugh am so upset n feel so alone idk wat to do wit myself

missLivi · February 2011

How long were yall together

FirstTime_Mommy · February 2011

A lil over a year

missLivi · February 2011

Sometimes men go thru hormone changes too, so it might be a phase he goin thru. Eventho that dont give him the right to dog u out but maybe he didnt mean it and he will change his mind.

angeliica25 · February 2011

You know what maybe he's not ready for all the baby stuff the same thing happen to me and comes to find out he still wants me after he doesn't love me the same and still throws shyt in my face. But ihe still comes finds me and other stuff after ihe left me its been 1 month sence he left and he still coming to find me at his moms house trying to touch me and stuff and I ignore him I show him I don't need him cuz after 1 month he wants to fine me for nothing and wants to talk so I do me with out him get all the help u can from the goverment like I did later on he will regret it like mine ex is staerting to but I'm moved on with my life slowly with the hard times its gonna be stressful.

missLivi · February 2011

Men go trough they phases of being immature. Me and my bd have 1 kid and another on the way. When we had our first everything was cool but as time passed i could sense something wasnt rite (womans intuition) and i was rite he had been talking to his ex and once i comfornted him and her about it he got his shit together and cut all that dumb shit out. As time passed we worked thru our problems and i was able to forgive him and now we're happier than ever 3 years strong. So hopefull he will see that he hurting u and yall child for not biing there when u need him most but if he dont leave his ass alone and find somebody who worth yo time.

angeliica25 · February 2011

My ex still talks to his ex as friends but the only things that bothers me is that he doesn't let her go like if he still wants to be with her I've have asked him are u over her he says yes but the ways I feel and c I think not and the way he ascts with me makes me think he still seeing her I've asked god for signs and I've gotton 4 signs in the past time we have arrgued like I'm right . So I don't even try to waste my time with his ass he comes looking for me now.

angeliica25 · February 2011

I wanna confront her but my mother in law talks to her for as friends but I really wanna tell her off and to leave him alone but either way if I do she will probly still come find them both and it bothers me to here her name every now and den so I just don't even bother with it cuz I've moved on . And now his ass coming to look for me like a dog

missLivi · February 2011

I think you right because sort of how it was for me i would have dreams about different thing that he would be doing something behind my back. So god will send you signs of dishonesty especially when u being honest and faithful in yo relationship. i also did a little snooping and i found out he had been lying to me. He was talking to his ex behind my back so i called her and i asked her woman to woman what the deal was and how far they went. Once i knew what all happened i confronted him about it all he could do was say he was sorry but i didnt want that i wanted him to admit to me all the wrong he had done. I just wanted to hear him say it but he just couldnt. But there is no such thing as being friends with an ex at ALL! I dont care what anyone says its just not gon happen 9 times out of 10 something shady going on.

johnkaye · February 2011

Yes men are crazy ! They say things they don't really mean ! ! ! My hubby once told me before "I'm not in love with you anymore" ...."I don't wanna see you anymore" and yet he's always the one looking for me and coming back to me !

missLivi · February 2011

Personally i would confont the ex just to see whats going and then confrot him to see if they stories match up. i think that will give you some kind of closure to the situation and put your mind at ease.

missLivi · February 2011

At some point in time everybody say stuff they dont mean ive done my fair share of it but you forgive and forget. Especially if yall both want to make it work.

johnkaye · February 2011

I totally agree with missLivi ! Like right now ...I totally want to tell my hubby that I don't like seeing his face freshly shaved .....I don't know if this is a pregnancy thing but he shaved earlier today and I felt like its totally gayish ! Eeewwww! I used to loved him freshly shaved !

[Deleted User] · February 2011

Sadly, this is the reality that some men cant accept the responsibility of their actions. But keep your head up for your baby, and trust if he doesn't want to act right there are plenty men who will love you and your child. You can't make him be with you or a relationship with the child but you can make him be there financially....slap his butt on child support!

missLivi · February 2011

I put my bd on child support and i really regret doing it because it has been a financial stran on the both of us. However to each is own, some people benefit form it but i definately did not

[Deleted User] · February 2011

Yah I feel if a man is willing to do all he can then Yah you should deff work with them, but if he wants to run the mother shouldnt be the only one responsible for a child it took two to make.....but I see what you sayin It's probably easier for me to say that since I've never been through it.

missLivi · February 2011

Men definately should be held accountable for theyre children because it does take two to tango. But for me its more of a negative for child support because we are still together and the money that he does pay goes to the state and not me so that money is talking away from our household instead of adding to it.