Small house, 3 months till baby, friend wants to 'crash' for '2 months tops' ugh vent!!!

BabyMooreBabyMoore
edited April 2011 in Pregnant
My baby boy is on the way, have 2 stepsons, and a good friend got kicked out of her aunts place, wants to know if her n her bf can stay for a few months. Um, excuse me, are you serious? Love her to death but NO!!!!! Ugh I already said yes to her but no to her deadbeat bf, and now shes saying '2 months tops'. Ummm, my son is gonna be born in 3, id kinda like alone time w the hubby before hes here n things change. I have a small 2 bd 1 bath home, ugh, I wanna help her but NO!!!! Why would you put your prego friend in this position!? Im still havin morning sickness, very irritated all day, and shes unemployed, obviously hasnt looked for a job in the 3 years ive known her, ughhhhhh.

Anyone deal w this?

Comments

  • namelessnameless
    edited April 2011
    My mil lost her job and is going to stay w/us...which shes lived w/ us b4 and now again ..and have a tiny 2 bedroom 1 bathroom ...super small like 600 sq ft..well she'll be staying here and as soon as we gets a house she'll be living w/ for a year!!!! I dont like it but ..she has no help frm anyone.
  • jstnshrtjstnshrt
    Y r u letting her then tell her no its simple grow some balls u can't let people walk on u
  • jstnshrtjstnshrt
    Not meaning that mean
  • one5oneone5one
    2 months turns into 2 years. If they got jobs they can go to an extended stay hotel til they get their own place. If they don't got jobs do u really wanna feed & house 2 more people??
  • mrs_shumrs_shu
    I kinda agree with jstshrt. Even thougg you said "no" to her bf you know he's gonna be there all the time. There's a reason she got kicked out. With baby on the way and step kids it would have to be sorry but nope! She's not gonna contribute anything and will be eating all your food..shell probably want to come and go as she pleases and with kids imo that's a no no. Please call hrr and say no. What does your husband say? ?
  • Ellie3712Ellie3712
    I would say no. That's really inconsiderate of her to ask.
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  • MáthairMáthair
    Let her stay a week or two, just long enough to get out some job applications out and a call back for an interview or find a more permanent place to stay. But I wouldn't bend over backwards or at all to make her comfortable or feel at home and don't let her move stuff in a Duffel bag of clothes and toiletries.

    That way you are being a good friend and not going back on your word explain that two weeks is the most she can stay for exactly the reasons you gave us.
  • Spray85Spray85
    I'm sorta going through the same thing with my hubby's brother. He said 2-3 months, well he's been here a year!!! I'd say no! Spend all the time ya can w/ ur man and don't put any extra stresses in your life. We're desperately trying to find another place cuz we're currently living in my husband's gma's house, and of course she wont tell her other grandson to leave. Lots of privacy issues that are gonna drive me up the wall!! Anyhow, I agree w/ Mrs_shu. Groceries are going up and you'd be feeding two extra mouths u shouldn't have to. Say no ;)
  • MáthairMáthair
    * only a Duffel bag of clothes
  • BabyMooreBabyMoore
    Thanks mamas. @jstnshrt, I said yes on the premise of a week. Now its 2 months, im def gonna let her know whats up bout the 2 month thing. Not ok.
    @mrs_shu, my hubby is awesome n supports my decision, but were on the same page w how we feel. And bf is def restricted to no overnights, and lives +45 mins away, no car
    Btw she has food stamps, but shes still a burden in otherways.
  • BabyMooreBabyMoore
    @mommy_of_two thank you, I know ill end up blowing eventually. I wish she would answrr the phone!
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