Well i had alot of fun today got most of what i needed but its bittersweet bc the bd really decided that he wants nothing to do with this bby so im ending my night with tears soo goodnight you guys...
Just cuz bd is an ass. Doesn't mean soo many others don't love you. Looks like you had a great day w loved ones. That's great!!! Don't let one persons ignorance affect you.
My motto is if he cant help take care of baby, he is damn sho gonna pay for baby.. I went through it with my sons dad.. Get mad at him girl, dont be sad
Im so srry....and I agree you should get child support. Its not so much bc you need his help but he needs to learn that you can't just make babies and haver no consequences.
If you can take care of baby. Then don't worry bout taking that ass to court. It is a hassle. You are a good woman & mom so I know you'll find a good man who will be a great father figure to you beautiful lil boy!! But he don't need to sign any papers. If you go to court & say he's the dad they'll petition him for a dna test. That's better proof than a signature.
If the father doesn't sign it it just stays blank (at least in Georgia) but @ebbry you don't have to go to court unless he wants custody and visitation and all that. But otherwise you fill out the paperwork go take a paternity test then wait for them to send you a support order with how much you'll get. It took forever (almost 2 years) but the order was backdated from the day i filed and some states go back to day the kid is born. I say go for it don't let your pride cause you and your baby to struggle if you don't have to
In Arizons (not sure what laws are elsewhere) but if you're not legally married the father has to sign in front of a notary (which the hospital has notaries) saying to the best of his knowledge/he is accepting the role as father to the child. Then from there it is up to you as the mother to file against him for child support or if he wants visitation rights he has to file against you. If you're legally married the husband automatically goes on as the father. Which is he is NOT then it is up to him to speak up to say he isn't & he will have to sign in front of a notary he isn't the father. Very tedious, but helps in the long run. But having a name or not on the birth certificate doesn't automatically set up for visitation/rights/child support. That still has to be determined by a court. I hope this helps!
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Just be careful about your decision. I have a friend who later just tried to get him to give up his paternal rights and it was difficult.
More importantly - you got some great things for baby!! Yay! That's the focus now anyways!