MIL wants my baby baptized, and it scares me.
Im agnostic, leaning toward athiest first of all and so is my boyfriend. His mom is very catholic, my mom is very jewish. So i honestly want to raise this child with an open and educated mind about all forms of religion and the lack thereof. However these two moms want their grandchild to be raised with a religious background perferably theirs. Although they have both settled with one thing each at least that i know of unless theyre waiting for a chance to sneek in other religious practices on the child.
Well my mom says she just wants him circumcised. His mom says she just wants him baptized. Then i feel like whats the big deal really, both practices are basically harmless. The circumcision might cause physical or emotional problems, but chances are low. Then baptism on the otherhand hits a more personal note. I dont want to feel judged by some man who is nothing more than just a man in my eyes. I dont want there to be some rule that i have to watch from the outside because im neither catholic nor married to my boyfriend. I will seriously be pissed off but to be honest every church is different with different rules and i just dont want to be caught off gaurd. Then of course his mom is actually very nice but she doesnt exactly know how to keep silent at a appropriate time. Im afraid she will upset me and as shes said a few very insuting things to me, pertaining to my lack of virginity (which i lost as a child in a horrible way), to whether my bf was really the father, and then when i went to her mothers mass my bf wasnt allowed to eat that bread thing because he was living a life of sin.
I just dont know whether to just give them this thing they want that is meaningless and unnessicary. Will they stop there? Will they want more? The fact is they should have no say in my opinion but i just dont want to piss them of.
Well my mom says she just wants him circumcised. His mom says she just wants him baptized. Then i feel like whats the big deal really, both practices are basically harmless. The circumcision might cause physical or emotional problems, but chances are low. Then baptism on the otherhand hits a more personal note. I dont want to feel judged by some man who is nothing more than just a man in my eyes. I dont want there to be some rule that i have to watch from the outside because im neither catholic nor married to my boyfriend. I will seriously be pissed off but to be honest every church is different with different rules and i just dont want to be caught off gaurd. Then of course his mom is actually very nice but she doesnt exactly know how to keep silent at a appropriate time. Im afraid she will upset me and as shes said a few very insuting things to me, pertaining to my lack of virginity (which i lost as a child in a horrible way), to whether my bf was really the father, and then when i went to her mothers mass my bf wasnt allowed to eat that bread thing because he was living a life of sin.
I just dont know whether to just give them this thing they want that is meaningless and unnessicary. Will they stop there? Will they want more? The fact is they should have no say in my opinion but i just dont want to piss them of.
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