who does he think hes talking to?

momamarmomamar
edited May 2011 in Pregnancy and fathers
i wasn't sure where to put this one its completely not pregnancy related...
The other day i posted about my husband texting a girl a whole bunch of times one day. and this morning i looked on the phones website ( i've never been this crazy before... but i can't help myself! ) And there hasn't been any more texting but now HE is calling HER. I know that they can't be doing anything nasty right now because he is working in ND and I (and this nasty girl) live in Colorado. When i asked him about texting this girl yesterday, even though i said i wouldn't, he gave a legit reason as to their texting, and it was only one day. I asked if she ever called him and he said sometimes but i try to ignore her. and now i find out hes full of shit. HOW CAN YOU IGNORE SOMEONE YOU ARE CALLING?
im so pissed right now. and it sucks i have to sit here all day stewing because he doesn't get done working til 6 or 7 tonight...
I want to call this bitch.
im really confused and hurt. i know hes not screwing her. he's never met her really, and she lives 3 hours away from where we live (shes his friends roommate) but why is he calling her?
sorry i have to unload this on a pregnancy forum but i don't have any friends i feel like i can talk about this with...
i need some advice...

Comments

  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    Emotional cheating is still cheating, whether or not they've had sex.
  • baileygoosebaileygoose
    Ummm yikes, this is not good. What would he possibly have to talk to her about? That is soooo bad. He is up to something....no good! If I was you, I WOULD call this girl. Maybe if she has a heart, she will be honest with you and tell you what's going on. I would just be nice to her, don't be a bitch, then she won't tell you anything. Just tell her that you're his wife and he keeps lying about it and you were just wondering what's going on.
    That's weird, if he barely knows her then why would he be talking to her? Has he visited his friend (the one this chick lives with) lately? Has he recently seen her & this sparked something?? Obviously something started them talking?? Keep me posted! I will be thinking of you! This is sickening!
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    Hun honestly, you should call her. You deserve the truth!
  • mscheylamscheyla
    I would call and see what it is she wants. Control your emotions before calling, you simply got your phone bill and didn't recognise this repeating number and how does she know your man ...go from there. If she's got some dignity she will talk, if not she will hang up.
  • momamarmomamar
    @baileygoose
    He's never been to his house! and they have only met once and i was with him. We met them in the middle of no where to pick up my laptop that my husband left in his friends truck when they drove home from work. She didn't even get out of the truck. i have no idea how they ended up with each others numbers. I want to talk to him about it but idk if i should wait til he gets home next week or do it tonight on the phone when he is done working... And i really want to call or txt her but im afraid if he finds out it will make the situation worse... what would you do?
  • soon2b3soon2b3
    I would get my words right and call her. Find out the scoop and state the disapproval of her speaking to your husband and ensure her if she has anything to speak to your husband about to go ahead and save your number and feel free to call anytime!
  • Beautiful_AltarBeautiful_Altar
    Who cares what he thinks. There is no reason for him to call another woman. I would call her.
  • Mommyof4girlsMommyof4girls
    @Momamar
    I'd call her. You are his wife, not that chick. You have every right to know whats going on. Play stupid and just say the number was showing up a lot on your bill. If she's a good person she won't lie. I'll say a prayer for courage and the right words for you.
  • momamarmomamar
    thanks ladies. i have to work up the courage.
    i hope i don't cry lol... my emotions are all over the place. i feel bad for my kids today they both just sitting there staring at me like im crazy haha.
  • 5tolove5tolove
    Honestly I would light that chicas phone up til she spilled the beans but that's me
  • baileygoosebaileygoose
    I would call her! Who cares if your husband gets mad...he's your husband, he'll get over it! Especially if he's not doing anything wrong!
    You can do it! Just be nice and be honest with her!
  • starrxoxo9starrxoxo9
    Call her!! Be calm about it, but from my own experience, she'll have no problem telling u the truth...
  • junebug86junebug86
    It sounds a little weird if they haven't seen each other but once then why all of a sudden r they talking r u sure he is at work and not lying to u and going out there to see her no woman deserves to be treated like he is treating u I went through this with my husband. Some years ago and he would lie and say he was at work but really he was with his bitches I hope you work up the courage to call her and I hope u find out the truth and u and ur husband can find the stregnth to work through this goodluck sweetie
  • junebug86junebug86
    It sounds a little weird if they haven't seen each other but once then why all of a sudden r they talking r u sure he is at work and not lying to u and going out there to see her no woman deserves to be treated like he is treating u I went through this with my husband. Some years ago and he would lie and say he was at work but really he was with his bitches I hope you work up the courage to call her and I hope u find out the truth and u and ur husband can find the stregnth to work through this goodluck sweetie
  • momamarmomamar
    @5tolove @baileygoose @Mommyof4girls
    ok i called her. thats the craziest thing i've ever done. She was super nice though, and said that her roommate carl (my hubs friends/co worker) has been having to use my husbands phone because he broke his the other day, (she even had the day right when all the calls/txts started) I found out that she is 6 months pregnant and just got out of prison. She said Carl calls her several times a day to check on her. Idk if im being dumb but i believe her.
    and @junebug86 He works in ND and she lives in colorado... its a 16+ hour drive so i really doubt that he is coming all the way back... he doesn't even drive up there, he car pools with 2 other guys.
  • marie0907marie0907
    I'm glad you called her, that was brave of you! So, does his story add up to what she told you? I mean, did he say that his friend was using the phone to text her or did he say something else?
  • Mommie_McAteeMommie_McAtee
    Smh what the hell is he checking on her for, is that his baby? I don't trust women. Especially sad pityfull women like her who don't have the descentcy to stay outta jail, especially while pregnant. And you husband already told you she calls him, did he mention a friend using his phone. .....think, that would have been the ideal excuse
  • SurpriseBabySurpriseBaby
    @momamar Woohoo! I'm glad you called before I read the awhile story or I would have been worried for you! :) I'm glad that's all it was.
  • 5tolove5tolove
    Well at least she was up front with u. I had a chica that text me saying my man was in new york sleeping with her when he was home with Me. Every night and I think I would notice my milage messed up in my van. He I guess talked to her once online she was a friend of a friend and he never met her in person. It was messed up. Good every thing is okay chica just take it easy
  • keylanieqkeylanieq
    OMG idk but i was calling that bitch and tell her even when im pregnant i dare to drive 3 hours and kick her ass!!! im a jelous women and i cant help it. you ask him and he doesnt stop so you are on ur right to hear the true.
  • Mommyof4girlsMommyof4girls
    I'm so glad you called. Ask him straight up when calls you tonight. Try not to lead him with any info you have already from her.

    You go girl and I hope it's all as simple as it seems.
  • junebug86junebug86
    I'm glad u got the truth hopefully this will give u peace of mind
  • cinnaboncinnabon
    @mommie_mcatee mmhmm my thoughts exactly
  • baileygoosebaileygoose
    I'm so glad you called her! That actually makes a lot of sense to me to. I can see his buddy using his phone to call & check on his pregnant girlfriend or whatever she is to him. The only question that I have is why didn't he just tell you that his buddy has been using his phone? Guys are just kinda weird like that though. He may not of told you if he thought you'd be mad for whatever reason....he probably never thought you'd find out about the phone calls, and if it really was his buddy making the calls he probably didn't even think much of, not a big deal in his mind. Make sense? I'd say you don't have to worry :)

    Keep us posted though! I hope this was really the case! Good luck!
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