Does anyone have a not so caring or supportive boyfriend?

averymom2011averymom2011
edited January 2011 in Pregnancy and fathers
My boyfriend is driving to the point where I wanna leave him until our baby is born. He doesn't wanna help me do anything. He doesn't respect anything that I ask of him or nothing! What should I do? Someone please HELP

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  • mommy2b11mommy2b11
    I feel the same way you do I try to hang n there for the child but its hard so I think I wait til after da lil one!
  • averymom2011averymom2011
    Omg! That's the same way I feel. I'm trying very hard to just hold on an stay with him, but I don't want it to be the same when the baby gets here
  • adriens_mommyadriens_mommy
    edited January 2011
    Ok let me tell u how bad it could be. When I found out I was pregnant my boyfriend of 5 years took off, and I mean the very same day I found out. We had an apt together and he abandoned the lease which I had to care of financially, then a month later I got served to court he sued me for all of OUR furniture and belongings and the cranky old judge awrded him EVERYTHING because technicalky he was the only one worki.g at the time of the move-in. He wont help pay for dr visits. He wont even answer phone calls. He doesnt care about the gender (hes having a son). He doesnt care about the name or anything at all that has to do with me or our baby due in june. And this is the person who bought me a ring proposed we were together from sophomore yr in hs to now and this us why he left and took everything from me. Count your blessings at least your man is still by your side. He might be acting the way he is because hes nervous as hell which is soo understandable hes still with u and that shows his true intentions
  • averymom2011averymom2011
    Trust me its not all peaches an cream. We fight a lot. He isn't really caring about the baby at all. We go to the doctor an he just sits on his phone. He doesn't ever wanna go or take me to the doctor. So its not all sweet an good just because were together
  • adriens_mommyadriens_mommy
    Yeah I can understand what u are feeling. U have to do whats best for u and your baby if u feel like u are not getting the support u deserve tell him he is totally replaceable. Dont let your stress run your body what u feel your baby feels and trust me I know its easier said than done I dont always practice what I preach but I try to do whats best and as women thats all we can do. You will get thru this be strong and focus on your goals; having a healthy baby and being the best mom!
  • averymom2011averymom2011
    Thanks:)
  • adriens_mommyadriens_mommy
    Anytime ;) if u need to talk or vent my email is vbroughton321@gmail.com take it easy remember baby feels what u feel
  • averymom2011averymom2011
    Thanks. You 2:) here is my email mom2be2011@gmail.com
  • dakotasmadakotasma
    The baby's dad don't believe the baby is his, when I was only with him. And went and got a new girl. And his sister won't leave me alone they think I'm after his money when I could care less, I wish he would man up and help out I'm going thru my first pregnancy with my family and I. Honestly he is the one missing out..
  • ohmeohmyohmeohmy
    My boyfriend and I were almost over he was checking out and I had come to terms with it then I found out I was pregnant I told him and at first he was all I want the baby and you but now he is mis and to tell you the truth im not even looking for him this would have been his first child and if he does not want to participate then his loss.
  • qabbytkmqabbytkm
    Girls life sometimes can be harsh but be strong we can do it with or with out them its their loss they will one day regret it.
  • chanel22chanel22
    Omg I jus almost. Cried reading some of ur comments I to jus found out I was having my first baby and boyfriend of 8 yrs jus switched up on me whn I told him he wanted to have it now he changed and I jus dnt kno wht to do I dnt wanna go thruthisonly..
  • averymom2011averymom2011
    I cry all the time. I cry because my bf will never change. An the only one that is gonna suffer is my baby. I think about the fact that my baby may not ever have is dad around
  • TwinBoys25TwinBoys25
    I am pregnant with twin boys, my bf and I stayed together but after a few months he left. I moved. All we do is fight. It used to qet slightly physical. Not any more I'm 7 months. I miss him so much. He comes over maybe once or twice a week, I feel like I've been alone the whole pregnacy I love this man. I want to be held n loved right now, instead I am home alone alllll day counting down till the day is over. Can't sleep all day then I wwont sleep at night. All I do is stay home and watch tv, waiting for text from him, argue with him. I'm ready for these boys and pray things get better with us for the sake of these boys or I just get over him. Either way its very stressful and all I do is cry. I feel exactly where yur coming from ladies.
  • averymom2011averymom2011
    Its very hard feeling like your alone when your pregnant
  • TwinBoys25TwinBoys25
    Yea I know. The hardest part is knowing you can really do nothinq. I hate it but appreciate it, because i know it will inturn make me very strong!!! And patient..but Damnit its really hard right now. Everyone else can live especially the father, why we are home doinq pretty much nothing but talking to our bellies!! Smh lol
  • averymom2011averymom2011
    that's so true. But one thing is for sure my baby will never have worry about anything.
  • islandgirlislandgirl
    I almost cried readin all this comments I wish I could help but all I could do is pray for all of u. Juz stay strong and be happy for the precious gift from God. Don't stress too much cuz its not good for your baby. Good luck and God bless u all! :)
  • averymom2011averymom2011
    Last night we got into an arguement. An it was really bad, while we were fussing normally I would start crying. I couldn't even cry anymore! I reached a point where my tears aren't gonna help me or baby avery! I realized that he needs me to stay healthy for him! I wouldn't never do anything to harm my baby but its about time for me an my baby to move on to a more stable life
  • 412mommy412mommy
    I wish all of you the best of luck. My situation is very different, but also puts tons of stress on my shoulders. My boyfriend was so dead set on getting engaged & moving in together. He currently lives with his mom & is "waiting for her to get her work bonus to move out". Well she was supposed to get it in october & again at christmas, but now its supposed to be march. Me & him make enough financially to get our own place. He has a son from a previous relationship, who I'm very close with. We would need 3 bedrooms, which is no problem at all.. except for with my boyfriend. It seems that excuses are his answer for every little thing. I don't doubt his love for me or our baby, but I'm due in march. I grew up in two separate houses because my parents got a divorce when I was young & I don't want the same for my child. But he doesn't see it as an issue, because his son has two houses. I think he's just very stubborn & I'm really not sure I can deal with this behavior when the baby is born. We've gone thru issues because of the low self esteem I have from being pregnant & the trust issues. (I swear pregnancy makes you crazy!) I suspect he cheating because he never sets aside time for me & baby. When we are together, he hardly ever mentions the baby at all. I know he's tough to get emotions out of, but this is the hardest experience I've ever gone thru & a little support would be great. I hope this isn't too confusing to understand.. but I really needed to get it out of my system.
  • averymom2011averymom2011
    Its not. I understand completely. I think my
    bf is cheating also, its hard because they think pregnancy is easy an sweet an its the total opposite its an very trying at times.
  • 412mommy412mommy
    its crazy because I don't know if its hormones making me crazy or if all the clues I put together are real. Ya know? Its just really hard right now because I'm so brutally honest with him in every aspect of our relationship.
  • katlillykatlilly
    Crazy people don't know they're crazy, so the fact that you girls realize your emotions make you smart ladies ;) good luck!
  • Jonesmommyof4Jonesmommyof4
    Men don't become fathers until the baby is born. Women become mothers when the test stick turns blue.
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