do any men really understand

edited February 2011 in Pregnant
Does anyone out there feel like their husband fiance bf whatever totally get what we as mothers go thru? My personal opinion is no...my hubby acts like it is so easy to b a mom...just wanna see what other women r experiencing
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  • I know what ur going through.... my husband has more mood swings than me... he's so inconsiderate sometimes... idk how to deal with it
  • My husband is great usually but I feel like the moment I complain a lil bit bout bein tired or needing some me time he acts like I'm crazy. He says I shun be enjoying that I can stay home with our boys and appreciate that more
  • NOOOOOO!!!!!! I want to tie rocks to the bottom omines half the time and throw em into a river, grrrr.....
  • I THINK MY BF HAS MORE MOOD SWINGS THAN ME. ALWAYS THINK I HAVE AN ATTITUDE.. UGH! HE MAKES ME SICK SOMETIMES. OPINION: THEY WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND.
  • I'm lucky to have a husband who truly understands how difficult pregnancy is. If he sees me having trouble sleeping he can't sleep. If I'm feeling aches and pain he talks to my belly and tells our son to ease up on the pain to mommy!:-) He's just overall amazing and supportive! Good luck to you all and best wishes!
  • I think its really hard for someone to understand what they can never experience first hand. & most men are "hands on learners"
    My man is more & more supportive because I take the time to explain what hormones I now have and how they affect my body. He's starting to see how crazy pregnancy is, & therefore less likely to drive me nuts!!
  • Nooooooooooooo... he makes me crazy most of the time. Inconsiderate Bastard :-"
  • Nooo! My boyfriend has been driving me nuts! He doesnt understand anything I swear!
  • My husband tries. He really does, but I agree, men are more have to do it to understand kinda people. He is really moody too, and sometimes I feel like he's the hormonal one!! Im pretty chill for a worn down prego mom!! lol Im glad he tries though. Makes up a bit for the times I wanna bury him in the back yard! lol
  • My bf doesn't understand and doesn't want to, he only cares about himself and his video games, cementing his feet and dropping him in the ocean sounds like a great idea to me
  • Sometimes I think my husband is personally trying to drive me crazy. Granted, he is more often supportive than not but its the times where he comes home, claims he's tired and goes to bed that drives me nuts. He wakes at 6 every morning and leaves by 7 which wakes my son. I will be up all day dealing with him, doing housework, laundry, and meal prep during naptime..then have to do dinner, feed my son, bathe him and play even when I'm about to fall on my face. And that's all before homework and studying! HE'S TIRED?! Psh. Lol. I get up at six and go to be at 3am.
  • I definately don't think men understand at all lately all my husband wants to do is sleep I mean he will fall asleep at midnight sleep til 3 in the evening the next day fall back asleep at 6 and sleep til 9 10 o'clock and wonders why I get bored or why I get mad about it. He constantly says babe I'm having sympathy that's why I sleep so much and then asks me why I don't sleep as much as he does! Sometimes I would like to rip my eyed out of my head! And when I try and talk to him about getting out of the house more he acts like I'm asking him to jump off the ledge of the grand canyon! Anyone else have this problem
  • @Mrs.Lazorick29 yes! Getting him out is like pulling teeth. Its just silly.
  • I'm not with my babys father but I live with my brother and a guy friend of mine and they are driving me nuts!!! Especially my friend he has worse mood swings than I do. I have yet to have really crazy moods but these guys have a bug up their butts.sometimes I wish I can just push them into traffic
  • @MrsLazorick29 my bf works a very unique schedule and he will get several days off at a time but no matter what he will stay up til 3, 4, 5am playing video games and sleep til 2 or 3pm. We have a 2 year old that I have to get up with and take care of everyday, no matter what, and he just gets up and gets on his games again, hardly pays attention to me or her. The only time he acknowledges me is when I am in the kitchen and he wants something. And when I ask him if we can get out of the house, even just to go grocery shopping, he acts like I just asked him to do the impossible. I've asked him to move out on many occasions, he's still here, I don't know what to do...
  • @kkmommy my husband doesn't play video games he just sleeps I swear that man would sleep his life away if id let him I'm constantly waking him up asking him if he's going to sleep all dang day or if he is actually going to wake up and talk to his wife...I mean sometimes its like he doesn't even care
  • @outlaw_sphinx I know its worse than like pulling teeth like I have no clue what he expects me to do all day its ridiculous a human being should not sleep that much...it irritates me so much sometimes that I wantto pull my hair out...any advice on what I should try with him next
  • @MrsLazorick29 yeah I purposely make as much noise as possible and tell him to get up, its not like he works everyday and is super tired, when he does work 14 days in a row with 6-16 hour shifts I don't mind the sleeping cause he's worn out but when he has a week off he could let me sleep and take care of our daughter for one freakin morning.
  • @kkmommy I purposely make noise also, this is our first child together he has a 10 yr old daughter from a previous marriage though, and my husband starts a new job next week so he hasn't been doing anything at all! If he works a lot and is tired I really don't mind him sleeping either but when he absolutely does nothina dn still sleeps all day its ridiculous, as for his ex wife ya that's getting really hard to swallow anymore I would like to stab her in the eye with a fork!
  • @MrsLazorick lmao, that's too funny. As for your man, I feel ya, I'm sorry
  • Ya his ex-wife is a total b***h and I really can't stand her at all but I have to bite my tounge because of his daughter but it just sucks because my husband kisses his ex-wifes butt all the time and I have to invite her into my house it just gets a little unbareable sometimes
  • Omg I know how you all feel.. My boyfriend is driving me insane! He leaves me by myself when I need him then wont leave me alone when I want 10 mins to myself to watch a TV show claiming its to "sort out our problems". My hormones are driving me insane and I wish he'd understand! Like right now he's leaving me alone to go out drinking.. Ugh I don't know what to do!
  • And he came in an read this and just yelled at me and left for "bad mouthing" him. :/
  • At least your men are there with you... mine just left for afghanistan, and I just found out I'm pregnant with our first... I would give anything for him to be here...
  • my heart goes out to you @jenziebee <3
  • Thanks celestee : )
  • I would have to say no.....my husband is very supportive but he compares me being pregnant to his stress of being a nuc in the navy.


    Says I'm causing a scene when my emotions get out of wack, he claims my hormones has nothing to do with mood swings. FYI, its very hard to prove to a egghead that he is wrong.
  • Definitely not alone. I'm not a mother yet but with my bf I'm almost dreading being a mother...he claims he's going to do exactly 50/50 of parenting but I just don't see how it's possible.

    And I just got yelled at for turning on the light to go to the bathroom and eating a granola bar at 4am...Go figure
  • edited February 2011
    Same! Lol my husband claims he is gonna get up at night and help. But when I first have the baby I'm gonna stop working so I know his excuse for not getting up is bc he has a job and I'm at home. Which I understand but just starting to feel overwhelmed with emotions.

    But who knows, his actions during this pregnancy has been amazingly off the charts! Hopefully, he will continue to amaze me.
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