so taken back by whats going on!!!! kids having kids SMH*

adriels_mommyadriels_mommy
edited May 2011 in Pregnant
I see these post about girls as young as 14ttc .. this just breaks my heart, I understand ladies would like to be moms but its horrible to have a child try and raise a child. I have no problem with teen moms but I think babies/ children deserve the best possible life and if you are able to give the child that then my congrats to you. ( not looking for drama) I think some ladies really need to think about there actions and take measures to prevent pregnancy. I am only 21 and 15w pregnant and I know its going to be tough for me and I work, have a car, a place to live and attend college. My prayers are with all the young moms who think its all fun and games to have children
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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  • sands3sands3
    Breaks my heart!!!
  • adriels_mommyadriels_mommy
    @angeliaandme neither can I, its tough as it is.. but to not drive, still in high school, not work Aah I can't imagine
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  • sands3sands3
    I'm 28 and its hard on me.
  • texasbeauty2787texasbeauty2787
    I'm with you. I had my 1st when I was a senior in high school had a car a supportive family married the father and it was still hard.
  • Supermom405Supermom405
    Most of these girls tht.are tht young usually are lacking a loving relationship.@ home so they thnk hving a baby will give thm something to love & will love thm back so sometimes as.parents we need to watch wat we.say to or how.we treat our children so they wnt hve to seek love & komfort in the.arms of.some lil boy or.hve.a baby of their own
  • adriels_mommyadriels_mommy
    Yes I do agree with that, soo very sad
  • onemoreonthewayonemoreontheway
    Those girls need some love, parents perhaps?
  • adriels_mommyadriels_mommy
    @supermom405 I def agree, but society isn't like the old days im sure every child over the age of 14 is aware and there are diff things they can do clubs .. community centers and they have friends. But I do agree that its an issue with parenting
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  • BabyMcBride8_27BabyMcBride8_27
    I'm not meaning to sound rude, or hateful, to the parents of these children, but they play a big role in it.

    For example, my step-sister is 28 with 3 kids. The oldest is 13. Do the math.. She was 15 when she had her daughter. Her mom didn't care what she was doing when she was younger. All her mom cared about what drinking and drugs. My step-sister never grew up. She still acts like a teenager, simply because everyone around her was enabling her by supporting her and her kids, and not making her work for herself. Now, her daughter is having sex at 13, but instead of taking her to be put on birth control, and discussing the risks of sex with her, she turns the other cheek, and doesn't want to accept it. In her eyes, if she puts her 13 year old daughter on birth control, she's basically telling her it's okay to have sex.

    I think the parents have to stand their ground, talk to their kids, and enforce things, and the kids need to make more educated decisions.
  • headersueheadersue
    I am not gonna lie...When I was 17 I had a boyfriend and all I thought about was sex....We were very careful, condoms and the pill....When I was 20 I had a pregnancy scare and decided that I was not going to have sex again until I met the man I was gonna marry....Lucky for me he came around about 18 months later. I DID NOT want to have a baby at 17, I was going out and having a good time I made sure to be careful. What I want to know is where are all of these girl's mothers? My hubby have already talked about it and if we ever have a daughter we are having the sex talk early and I want them to be able to come to me and tell me that they are having sex so that I can make sure that they are protected, not just from having a baby but from STD's too. It is really sad and I just don't get it....smh
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  • adriels_mommyadriels_mommy
    Most teens do not all do, teens don't understand how hard it is to raise a child. They still have lifes to live, finish high school, get a job. I mean alot of teens have kids and expect everyone else to raise there children. Im noone to judge my nana had her first at 13 same with a couple of my aunts, I come from a mexican family and many of my cousin and aunts had children at young ages. If your equipt to take care of a child by all means have one.
  • BabyMcBride8_27BabyMcBride8_27
    @ourlilmiracle; I agree 100%.
  • adriels_mommyadriels_mommy
    Im not bashing parents, but I think its a sorry excuse when I hear people say I had a hard life and this is how I grew up so its okay if I act like this or do this. I grew up with both parents on drugs, and alcoholics. I went thru a whole lot and mt lifes been no where easy but I turned my life around to make the most of it and not be like my parents. So people make the choices they do
  • headersueheadersue
    @BlessedMom_2x I agree some people have different situations....But I have 4 sister's 3 of which all got pregnant before they were out of high school. 1 of them is married and her husband is in the Air Force....They struggled for a LONG time but now they are finally ata point where they don't struggle. 1 of them had an abortion and it is still something that haunts her, she knew it was the right decision at the time, but she wishes the circumstances would have been different. My other sister has 4 kids, no job, no schooling and no money....Her BD is just as bad, and my parents whom are in their 50's and thought they were done raising babies are now raising her 4 kids.

    So I speak from experience when I say that girls should not be having babies when they are teenagers....It is hard when you are 29 like me, why would you want to do that to yourself?
  • BabyMcBride8_27BabyMcBride8_27
    @ourlilmiracle; The "I grew up in a bad family" excuse gets thrown around a lot. But, like you said.. If you want a better life, you make it for yourself. My mom and step-dad raised me in a loving, happy home. My biological dad was a huge drug head who beat & raped me, but did that hold me back from becoming the person I wanted to be? Nope. The bad family excuse is really no excuse at all.
  • Proudmama102011Proudmama102011
    Its true it starts at home. If these girls don't have a good strong foundation and safe place to go when their in trouble and need help, then their only option is to run to the arms of a high hormone little boy. My dad was never really around and my mom was always at work yeah she would say don't have sex blah blah blah but that wasmn't enough I needed her and him. My life was crazy growing up thats why I feel for the young girls these days. I find out what I'm having in 8 days and if its a little girl I pledge to always be there for her whenever she needs me because I don't want her to go through the things I've gone through. @sands3 and @AngeliaAndMe I apologize for the things I've said to you all but Iv'e been where these girls have been thats why it hurts me soo much.
  • headersueheadersue
    Also my husband's mother was 14 when she got pregnant with him, his Dad was 20. They ended up running to Kentucky and getting married and then divorced when my hubby was 2. his mom has another kid and she has been married 8 times is a druggie, and alcoholic and bi polar. She did a horrible job raising my husband, she beat him and sometimes he went without food for days and I have had to deal with the aftermath. I am not saying that is what happens with all teen mom's but it could happen. That is why some of us are saying to wait. What is the rush?
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    I so strongly agree!
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  • Nessa_MiasMommyNessa_MiasMommy
    19 on baby num 2 ive been married since i was 17 in my own place same father for both my children hubby has a very good job finishing up my first yr of college but and yea i was ttc at 17 but i also had jus lost my mother at 16 fathers passed wen i was 3 so i wanted to have my own family and i would like to add that im a damn good mother :) and wifee but for those kids who still living with their parents no job i agree with uladies HAPPY MOTHERS DAY LADIES WE R SUCH WONDERFUL PEOPLE
  • headersueheadersue
    @BlessedMom_2X who said that teen moms expect people to raise their children?
  • adriels_mommyadriels_mommy
    def in agreement with what you said not trying to be rude. But yes you do make the choices you want in life, sometimes I think wether you grow up in a bad home or a good home ultimately teens make there own decisions. This world is a horrible place and I think they do have alot more things to be influenced by.
  • mandac10mandac10
    I honestly think a lot of these ttc posts are people looking for drama. Look what's been going on here latly... I think its strange how it's all of a sudden really piping up. Also im blaming that stupid 16 n pregnant show. Its making these girls think try could b on an mtv show! I refuse to watch it n go as far as shutting it off if I c people watching it n explain my views
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  • mvelasquez1221mvelasquez1221
    Not bashing, but if kids are going to be a part of the picture, you have to think of what's best for them. I know being 24, married with 2 incomes one full time, one part time, I still won't be able to give my kids everything I want to. I can't imagine being able to support a baby with the income I was making at 16...
  • adriels_mommyadriels_mommy
    When it comes to the teen moms expecting there parents to take care of there children. Some ladies who have babies aren't even old enough to work, so who will help. I get there is programs out there to help mothers with there children. But some think that there parents will be there and if they are that's good. But some struggle and its sad. But like I said if your more than capable of raising a child then by all means..
    @nessa_miasmommy well congrats to you:) see I applaud mothers like you, by the way congrats

    AS STATED NOT HERE FOR DRAMA THIS IS JUST MY OPINION, IF YOU DONT AGREE THAT'S FINE BUT DON'T BE RUDE :)
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