has anyone felt the agony of losing s child and getting pregnant after

tashaloutashalou
edited May 2011 in Pregnant
Hello everyone I really could do with a friend who had been through the same as me, I lost my eighteenth month old son to cancer last year and im almost seven months pregnant with another son. Im feeling so confused and scared because I have int grieved properly yet and I just need understanding thanks x x

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  • mamiRaquelmamiRaquel
    I'm sorry for your loss...I lost my son 6 days old to a congenital heart defect in 11*2008 it was really hard I can only imagine loosing a older child. I knew I wanted another child but I was terrified so we held it off for a bit over 2 years. I'm still terrified that something could go wrong w this baby I am 14 weeks today and specialist said everything looks good. But in the back of my mind I'm still scared. I couldn't go thru what we went thru again. Good luck and I'm sure your angel in heaven watches over u n your bun in the oven day n night.
  • mandac10mandac10
    oh sweetie! i am so so sorry to hear this. it breaks my heart reading stories like urs. i cant imagin the pain and thoughts u must b feeling. to loose a child under such horrible conditions... its heartbreaking! i hope you find peace with everything and God has his reasons even though we often dont understand them. i think its wonderful that u are here and going to bring another child into this world! i hope things go good for both of you.
    i am going to keep you and ur family in my thoughts and i wish the best of luck to u.
  • sunsh1neonmesunsh1neonme
    I had my cousin who had a son and he passed away at 5 months due to a heart problem... she now has a little boy and a little girl.. but she still hasn't fully moved on from it... I would stay up with her and comfort her as she cried for her son... it puts tears in my eyes thinking of it now.. I know the feeling.. just know God needed his angel and now ur unborn will have a gaurdian angel to watch over ur son.. my heart and prayers go out to you.. I know its difficult being in your shoes as my cousin went thru the same thing
  • Jaime77Jaime77
    I'm sorry for your loss! 9 years ago, we lost our 2day old boy. My husband wanted another right away, it took me 5years to say I wanted another baby. By then he was all set with having anymore children. We are divorced, I never expected to become pregnant but now I'm having a healthy boy. Exciting but terrifying! I was scared up until week 21. Ultrasound showed he was perfect so far. Good luck n god bless!!
  • uh_Lyss_uhhuh_Lyss_uhh
    I'm on the same boat. I lost my son in June 2009 from suffocation on a pillow sleeping on his tummy. He was 4 months old. It never gets better nor easier. 2 years have passed & now I'm 5 months pregnant with a little girl & I'm scared. There's no proper way to grieve. & I'm so sorry for your loss because I know exactly how you feel. What I do is I always talk like he's still here. Maybe its not healthy but I do it all the time & not one day passes that I don't think of him. Everything scares me. I don't think ill ever let my baby out of my site. Now that I lost him I'm gonna be one of those crazy moms that's always by my child, lol. You can only get stronger never weaker. Congrats on the new bundle of joy & I'll always be here to talk.
  • Jaime77Jaime77
    Your soo right! u do get stronger and trust when I say Brandon is always talked about like he is with us. Especially my daughter who was a baby, she asks questions about him, heaven, would he like her better over her other brother lol..
  • momma_tiffaymomma_tiffay
    I lost my first son to sids when he was a day short of 7months, 3months later I found out I was pregnant... my second son was due exactly one year later on the day my first son died... luckily, he wasn't born on that day, but it was a rough pregnancy for sure!
  • uh_Lyss_uhhuh_Lyss_uhh
    That's cute. My little girl will know about her big brother & how special he was.
  • uh_Lyss_uhhuh_Lyss_uhh
    Because I lost John I want a ton of kids. I would NEVER wish this upon anyone. Its the most pain I've ever been through. But I will be strong for my new baby.
  • decbaby_87decbaby_87
    Im sorry for the losses you ladies have gone through. I lost my 2mnth old a little over 2yrs ago to SIDS, i loved being a mommy while i had him and have missed having him around, Im happy to be finally expecting after losing him but I am very scared that something will go wrong with my pregnancy or after my baby is born. I was finally able to go visit him yesterday and actually felt happiness while looking at his 5 pictures i had engraved on his headstone. He is precious and will always be my angel, i just asked him to watch over my little one growing in my belly.
  • tashaloutashalou
    Thanks ladies and in sorry for your losses too. I just want him back and to be a family together like it should be. I worshipped my son and I lost hun still and im scared to get too excited over this one because I will never be strong enough to to through with that again
  • Jaime77Jaime77
    I'm sorry, it's soo unfair to lose a child to cancer! I had a 9 week heads up that my boy wasn't going to make it. It was truly thr lowest point in my life, those first years without him. All the we should be's.. Grief counseling helped a little, talking helps alot!! I pray your little baby brings a new joy to your family!
  • tashaloutashalou
    Thats just it I find it so hard to talk and id I do its more like he is here and hes sleeping up stairs. I dont know if I should have counselling because im scared if I really have to face my feelings than im going ti go insane. I feel so lonely even when un surrounded by family and all I want is life to hurry up and pass by
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