Forster parent tend to get a bad rap bcuz of the ones out there that r bad but they r not as common as people seem to think my parents were Foster parents & we know alot of other people who r & they r wonderful people. I know of a family who wants to b Foster parents bcuz they adore children & want to help them as much as possible. I think u r doing the right thing the deserve a better shot @ life.
I understand, thats a hard situation...maybe she doesnt even want the kids? So she might not ever get them back, thats sad but I see it happen. You know they might break the kids up too. I wish them n u the best
@summergirl22 ; I'm just praying there's other options. I'll find out tomorrow, I guess. If resorting to foster care is THE only option, I'll sit down with my mom & step-dad and discuss something getting done within the family.
@theswift4 I think the quality of foster patents depends on the location/area that they are placed....some are wonderful, as you have described but others are horrible horrible places where theres drugs and abuse and even rape that goes on...but I think it depends on the area....cps has a lot of improvements to make
I still think you should call CPS. Somebody needs to straighten those kids out and the mom. At least try and call anonymously to find out your options for what they will do. But this is ridiculous. Good luck hun. I know this can be a hard situation, but like i said something needs done.
Sounds like they could use a stay in my friends foster home they are known as the foster boot camp. They are so good with the kids and getting them turned around. Good luck with everything.
***5/13 This morning I anonymusly called CPS to find out what I can possibly do. The worker was VERY helpful, and she was sure to tell me my EVERY option. If CPS were called, and no family is willing to take the kids in, they will have to go into foster care. I told her we aren't too happy with that option. She suggested we sit her down as a family, give her a period of time to straighten up, and warn her that if she doesn't we WILL take the kids away from her. She reassured me that in doing this, we'd be giving her more than enough room to do what she has to do, and if she doesn't comply, what happens from there is ultimately her fault, not ours. So, this weekend we're gonna lay down the law, and see how it goes from there.
Im praying for your family! This is a hard decision to make and you are taking the right steps. I will keep you all in my prayers and those kids. They will get the help they need because you're being a great aunt! Good job and you'll be proud of yourself for getting them away from that life. They deserve better!
Oh my... I have nothing... ur step sister seems like the trailer trash poster child though.... id call cps on her ass n the cops. Tripping a 70 year old lady could've killed her! Poor kids have no future. I would report them
@gatorbob: I completely agree with that point. Kids do adjust fairly quickly when placed in new enviroments, especially ones where they're expected to behave and be respectful. I have no doubts that they wouldn't mold to fit my mom's household, or whoever else's. The problem we face with taking them in, is basically our availability. My mom is an RN and works 9-5 on a regularly scheduled day, and is on call at all times. My step-dad works 14/7 on an offshore rig, and those 7 days off are like heaven for him, being that he isn't getting any younger. My 17 year old sister is still in high school, and works afterward. There's no way they can afford to send the kids to a daycare, and getting them home from school would be a big problem, because they'd be nobody there to watch them, and the 3 year old isn't even in school yet. I would be more than willing to do so, but with my fiance working 6/1, and me trying to prepare for a baby, while juggling the odd jobs i do for extra money is near impossible. I can't see myself putting my life on hold at this point because of my daughter's birth getting closer and closer. Now, once she's born, and we kind of get back on our feet so-to-speak, I'd definatly be willing to explore that option. Right now is just very bad timing for all of this. I'm sure you understand.
Today is so my day! My step-sister's kid's dad took them, and they're now staying with his mom, who's a VERY strict, respectable older lady. They are getting custody of them as soon as possible, looking into pressing neglect charges, and the only visitation my step-sister will have is supervised visitation! This all came about when the kid's dad's mom heard about the cops being called on the 8 year old, and after asking a few questions, found out about EVERYTHING that my step-sister has been doing lately. I'm so happy that this all worked out for the best, thank you all for your support!
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This morning I anonymusly called CPS to find out what I can possibly do. The worker was VERY helpful, and she was sure to tell me my EVERY option. If CPS were called, and no family is willing to take the kids in, they will have to go into foster care. I told her we aren't too happy with that option. She suggested we sit her down as a family, give her a period of time to straighten up, and warn her that if she doesn't we WILL take the kids away from her. She reassured me that in doing this, we'd be giving her more than enough room to do what she has to do, and if she doesn't comply, what happens from there is ultimately her fault, not ours. So, this weekend we're gonna lay down the law, and see how it goes from there.
My step-sister's kid's dad took them, and they're now staying with his mom, who's a VERY strict, respectable older lady. They are getting custody of them as soon as possible, looking into pressing neglect charges, and the only visitation my step-sister will have is supervised visitation! This all came about when the kid's dad's mom heard about the cops being called on the 8 year old, and after asking a few questions, found out about EVERYTHING that my step-sister has been doing lately. I'm so happy that this all worked out for the best, thank you all for your support!