BD doing drugs(crack) right now..help

clope18clope18
edited May 2011 in Second Trimester
I'm 23weeks pregnant w/a babyboy & I'm tired of him doing drugs. I'm really thinking about leaving. I have no job & the only place to go is my mom's house. I need some help. Should I stay & try to help BD..or is it time for me to pack up & leave?
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  • ebbry89ebbry89
    Its time for you to go...you and baby do not need to be around that
  • riveraloveriveralove
    Pack up and LEAVE! if u and your baby re that important to him, once he's clean he will find u!!
  • mommabee13mommabee13
    Crack is serious. Time to go
  • one5oneone5one
    Leave & get him help. Focus on you while he tries to quit. If he don't wanna quit stay away. Crack heads will kill they own mom for a hit.
  • Babygirl716Babygirl716
    Will he go to an outpatient rehab? Has he ever tried rehab?
  • BabyMcBride8_27BabyMcBride8_27
    It's time for you to roll! He obviously doesn't care enough to at least not do it around you. Ask yourself this; would you rather live with your mom, or risk getting your baby taken away forever?
  • BethybabyBethybaby
    I'd pack it up sweetie! Maybe when you leave it will give him a reality check. Not to mention do you really want your kid growing up around that shit? That's no good for anyone, if you really want to help leave and tell him that you two will work it out after he gets help. (just what I would do)
  • Karla_with_a_KKarla_with_a_K
    Leave!!! Then call the law. He needs some SERIOUS help
  • clope18clope18
    @BabyMcBride8_27 thanks I never thought of it like that. I definitely would rather be at my moms. Babyboy doesn't need to be around this.

    & I'm packing my things ladies. Thanks everyone for your advice. I just needed some motivation to finally put my foot down & show him I won't allow this. I asked him to please not do this for me & his unborn son..but crack is obviously more important to him. Thanks ladies for your advice
  • amipregnantamipregnant
    Sweety if it was me I would demand him to go to rehab or leave. Addiction to crack is very very serious and not to be taken lightly. Someone that's under the influance of crack is not in their right mind at all.
  • Mrs4cMrs4c
    Crack addiction is realy realy bad to one's bidy. I would leave but also try to get him help. I hope you and him can get through this and he gets help asap. Be strong. :)
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  • lucky7lucky7
    I've been in same situation I was 17 and pregnant and I left too. It was the best decision I ever made.my daughter is now 11 and she has only met her dad 2xs and the last time she was 2yrs old.he has been in and out of prison her whole life.he is in now again till 2015.she does not deserve him in her life and I will protect her for the rest of her life from him.its not about you and him anymore its about what's best for your son.good luck.stay strong.
  • ProudmommaProudmomma
    Leave. Once he is clean then work thongs out but don't stay till then cause if children services found out later the outcome could be bad
  • briffyg89briffyg89
    Pack up and leave...... but most of all pray huni I hope things get better
  • chellechelle
    So sorry to hear this but if it makes u feel better I kicked my bd out tday bc of crack he got out of rehab two days ago and I caught him tday so I have done all I can do wish I could do it for him bc I love him that much but we can't they have to do it for themselves. I was w him 6 years and now all that time is gone :( good luck hunny
  • chellechelle
    And just to save you the trouble I went through u can't get him help only he can he was a great daddy our four yo looks up to him so much he's not a bad guy I do truly belive that but he is not himself either he is lost I hope u dnt put yourself through what I have
  • mrsrocketfield1221mrsrocketfield1221
    Honestly if he was ready to grow up and change for you And the baby... he would. Its not Good for you This be around That and certainly not as your child grows up. Not to mention drug use brings unwanted issues along with bad people into your life. Going with mom until You get on your feet... if You are willing to... is a much better option than someone who choices drugs over You and your unborn baby...

    Good luck Hun. And know that you are so much stronger than You realize!!!
  • Mommyof4girlsMommyof4girls
    One more person to add to telling you to leave him. He won't get help unless he wants to. Your respinsibility is yourself and your precious baby boy. I wish you luck momma. You can do this.
  • mrsrocketfield1221mrsrocketfield1221
    Just saw your last post... Please Let us know how it goes & how you're doing!! :)
  • chellechelle
    @clope18 if you need someone to talk to send me a message I could use someone too. And DON'T worry I won't judge I'm going through the same thing
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  • mschopmschop
    Not all the way the same, but after my mom died my dad became relly depressed and got hooked on crack, it got so bad that at 17 I got out of there and stayed in my car for 3 months till I was able to find a place to stay. It wast to long after I left that he saw he was losing everything and got clean, and we got to be relly close for years before he passed in December
  • clope18clope18
    Thank you ladies. I packed a bag full of clothes & am staying with my best friend for now. I told him he needs to get help or decide to quit before he calls me. I didn't tell him where I was going to stay because I don't want him here or don't want to see him until he is clean & straightens his priorities out
  • mama_ukmama_uk
    edited May 2011
    Good for you. I hope it all works out for you.
  • janellesmommiejanellesmommie
    Im sorry for ur situation but I think its best you leave he really needs to go into rehab b4 ur bby arrives! Good luck!
  • kritten_octoberbbykritten_octoberbby
    Ima tell you something that someone told me because im having problems with husband and drugs too. You can choose to do it or not but it is the best thing for him..call the nonemergency police number. Tell them that your tired of him doing drugs and tried to stop him. Tell them this is your last option to help him and have no where to turn. Ask them if they can bust him to wherr you wont get in trouble. Make sure they know your pg too. Tell them your scared he could hurt himself and he needs help. Know that he will go to jail and may be put away a long time if he has a lot. But it really is for his own good. If he gets busted with you with him you will go to jail pg or not, knew about the drugs or not. Trust me he needs to stop before he ods or hurts someone..its yoir choice but you need to do whats best. He ismt being a father now or later. He wont stop unless he is stopped. He may be in jail now but when he gets out he can be a dad w/o the drugs
  • BayouMammaBayouMamma
    @clope18 i agree with these ladies,as long as hes using,who knows what caliber of people he will bring around you or the baby. Its just not safe. Straight up. People arent them selves when using hard drugs. They usually do things looking for the next fix and spend all day trying to get high.
    Remember,its your job to keep that baby out of harms way...
    It may be hard to leave, but trust me sweetie, it will be harder the longer you stay.
    Take care if yourself and that innocent baby. Best wishes.
  • expectingbabynumber3expectingbabynumber3
    Congratulations on ur baby
    Am glad u stood up for u n the baby. Hope things get better for u. Good luck
  • mrsrocketfield1221mrsrocketfield1221
    please let us know how things go... and i'm proud of you for being so strong!! :)
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