my mom thinks we had this baby together

July2ndAustinJuly2ndAustin
edited May 2011 in Pregnant
I told her my bd would be in the delivery room. She said "for what?! what purpose does he serve?!" I'm thinking to myself the FATHER role, the creator. Then she wants to be in the room & I really want that moment to be personal btw me & the father. She doesn't like him & tries to overstep his father role all the time. He's 20 I'm 18 don't have kids young!! Anyway I actually planned on moving in with him because we had a kid and he needs to take care of him. My Mom said no he just needs to pay child support & stay in his lane but he actually wants to play an active role in his child's life which is actually quite rare.

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  • momof5momof5
    I would explain to your mom very nicely yet very clear that he is and wants to be the father like he is suppose to be and that this is yours and his baby. Not hers. You do what's best for you and baby and the dad. Let her know that she needs to play the grandma role not the parent role.
  • blueberrysmomblueberrysmom
    Fatherhood IS his lane! You really should sit down and have a conversation with her about appropriate ways to be supportive and respecting your boundaries. She needs to stay in HER lane! Anyway, please don't let her ruin your special moment as well as your opportunity to create a healthy future and relationship with this man. Just talk to her before she drives you crazy.
  • July2ndAustinJuly2ndAustin
    Its nothing but a endless cycle, my Grandma had 5 kids all men left her, it didn't happen to my Mom but they have the same thing in common thinking wise and they want me to be an independent single mother.
  • Mommyof4girlsMommyof4girls
    @july2ndaustin
    Take the advice of blueberrys mom, your mom though she wants whats best she will continue to overstep if you don't step up to her now. Non confrontationally. My other good advice is unless hes abusing you in any way do not talk bad about him to your mom. She doesn't need to have fuel for her fire.
  • Stack2Stack2
    Yea its good to be independent, but look at all the fathers out here that don't want to be in there child's, and you have a guy that wants to be there for there child to help raise he/she. Not to be mean but tell mom to kick rocks :-). Its not good for her to be acting to such sorts, that is unreasonable and unadultlike and she needs to be a caring, grown woman about the situation and keep her comments to a minimum.
  • July2ndAustinJuly2ndAustin
    I don't trust, but her husband & her niece don't like him yet they don't like me neither so what do you expect
  • July2ndAustinJuly2ndAustin
    It is, I knew what I was doing when I got pregnant. He wasn't any typical "see ya later" and I knew that a good 3 months into our relationship. I didn't mean to get pregnant but I let my guard down a lot.
  • CaptainMorgaineCaptainMorgaine
    In my opinion, if you want the hobo from the corner to be in the room with you, you can. Its your choice, not anybody elses.
  • July2ndAustinJuly2ndAustin
    Lol true enough I only want him cause when going thru pain she's the worst person to be in the room and my va jay jay is gonna be all out and that's too much I want that to be personal.
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