Fairytale families

edited May 2011 in Pregnant
I highly believe th reason I have yet to be excited for my baby (due july 4) is because im not in a relationship w th bd. Even though its not my fault it breaks my heart because I always dreamed of having my husband tht would be my bestriend and havin a big happy family together and now I feel lik all my dreams are crushed. I dont want to get married at all anymore and I only want one child and when I think about it, im lik damn.. What happened to my dream? :(
I wish things were different but my bd is an immature guy tht I honestly despice & I blame him for ruinin my dream even tho I know I shouldnt.

Ughhh pregnancy hormones. :l


Anybody else feel lik this?
Also, I wanna know/read some stories of your love life. Did your dreamman come true?

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  • I had that hope with my first husband until I found out he was a pedophile and was touching my younger sister. I went through my depressed stage and wanted nothing to do with men. But I learned a lot through that experience and found my dream guy. Don't rush things and don't give up hope. You can still have your happily ever after!!
  • I'm sorry hun. You will still find the right guy. My cousin had a asshole bd and then 2 years later she met Mike, and had Layton her 2nd and he is an awesome guy who treats Kaylee her 1st so well. He is kinda immature but at 19 he it is expected.
  • Don't give up hope. My aunt was pregnant at 22. She was a single mom for awhile. But after finding success and getting her life together she married her dream man and had a second child. She is now happily married n successful. I'm sure you will find happiness. Just take care of yourself n your baby. Your prince charming will come when you least expect it!
  • And I never thought I would find "the one" and never have kids. I was looking for a fling with another guy. When Adam stumbled into my life. It sounds so cheesy, but I am so happy right now. Believe me when I say I wasn't looking for love but it found me. Now I have a beautiful baby girl and an amazing bd. It will find you someday when you least expect it. As cheesy and disney esqe as that sounds.
  • I'm sorry :(

    My boyfriend and I met 1500 miles away, on our phones. We had the same exact phone (Palm Pre) and there was this 'chat' app called Global Shoutbox Beta. I had the app from day 1 (end of March '10) he got it in April sometime. There weren't a lot of us, so in the first week we decided we would be 'Beta's'. And if people wanted to be in our group they had to follow the rules of being nice and such. On april there was an official version of the app, but it turned ghetto real fast and we vowed not to tell them of our peaceful beta app. Well someone became a troll and spammed there was a 'better' version and how to get it. My boyfriend ended up coming to the beta app (he actually didn't know if I were a boy or girl til someone else asked) and he was cool, we clicked. THEN a photo app came out a few days after he found the beta.. and we all added pictures of ourselves, then there was that physical attraction. It also had private messaging. We traded numbers on May 3 last year, we declared that to be our anniversary. A few months later, after literally 1000s of text and over 100 minutes of talk time, he flew to tx from ny to visit me for 2 entire weeks. June 18 - July 5.. it was AMAZING! we didn't do a lot of going oit, but we got to experiance each other. We were so compatible in everything. We slept together the first night (never have I done that before, they had to wait atleast 5 mo). We cried when he had to leave, it was sad. Then he decided to move in with me!! He flew back July 20. We got pregnant in nov/dec. Moved here to ny April 4. And I couldn't be happier with anybody else.

    Yes, its gone fast, but everything is very open and made clear.

    He says I'm his Gemini twin. My bday is June 8 , his June 20. I'm just 12 days older.
  • And all of our Beta friends are still our friends. We had a support group the whole time. We've met a couple of the people also. And there is another couple, but their story is still happening. None of us use the app anymore cause we mostly all have a different phone now.
  • Neither my husband or me was looking for a relationship when we first met, I was 17, and had a miscarriage about 6 months before my husband and I got together....I was 17, and a senior in high school, I just moved in with my biological father. About 9 months before I started dating my husband....I was very involved in FFA in high school, and my senior year, I was raising 2 hogs, a heifer, a steer, and a lamb, so I was constantly going into the feed store where my husband at the time was working....I tried not to make it look so obviously that I wanted him so bad it was unreal...but going in there practically every other day, I guess gave it away....a girl I went to school with, her dad was the owner of the feed store, so she knew my husband pretty good....she told me he was asking about me, but she wouldn't give him my phone number (mind you, even though I was there so much, him and I hardly ever talked, I knew my father wouldn't allow me to date anyway, so I didn't want to lead him on...oh, and he was 23 years old at this time)...after my friend from school said he was asking about me, I talked to my father to see if I can give him my nmber....surprisingly he said yes....so I made an excuse to go to the feed store after school on a Friday, and wrote him a cute little note, and left my number on it.....he called me that night, and he was even allowed to come over to my house, way out in the woods, and hang out for a little bit....at that time, I never would have thought he would be the one that I would truly want to spend the rest of my life with, but, we been together almost 5 years now, and married a year and a half, and have a very beautiful little girl, and a little man on the way....he is my best friend, my true love, my soul mate, and I couldn't ask for a better man to be the father of my kids. He is truly amazing.....the funny thing is, in the beginning, neither of us wanted a relationship....I believe TRUE LOVE HAPPENS WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT!
  • @CAMOMOMMY2 Tht's a cute story :) surprising your dad let you date haha

    @caroline8_p wow I never thought those internet services ever had happy couples. You're one of th lucky ones (:

    Thank you ladies for th advice. I guess I just have to be really patient and play th waiting game /:-)
  • It wasn't an internet service. Just a plain ol app on a silly cell phone. But I love my unique story :)
  • I'M NOT WITH MINE EITHER BUT WE ALL MAKE CHOICES WE MAKE AND I AM EXCITED ABOUT MY BABY BECAUSE EVEN THOUGH I WISH I HAD A FAIRY TALE LIFE MY SON NEEDS ME AND I DIDN'T HAVE HIM FOR A MAN SO I FIND JOY IN THE LITTLE THINGS LIKE KICKS
  • you shouldn't give up...plenty of good men out there.

    My husband and I are childhood bff...long story short, we put our friendship on the line to try dating and we are now married and expecting our very first child.
  • @caroline8_p tht's unique im sure your kids will love to hear how mom & dad met. :)

    @preggointx I didn't have my baby for a guy either.. As a matter of fact this baby was a surprise lol but what I ment was I wanted my child to have both bio parents by her side & I hate th thought of her sleepin over durin weekends & me not knowing what shes doing. :/ but I guess everythin happens for a reason.
  • WELL MY SON CAN'T GO TO HIS DAD'SHOUSE WITHOUT ME....HE CAN GO TO HIS SISTERS HOUSE BUT HE IS NOT THE BEST PERSON IN THE WORLD HIS HOUSE IS DIRTY AND HE HANGS WITH THE WRONG CROWD I FOUND OUT AFTER I GOT PREGNANT SOME REALLY MESSED UP STUFF ABOUT HIM...IT'S SAD I WANTED A DUAL FAMILY TOO BUT LIKE U SAID EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON
  • @NewMommy_NavyWife I always wanted tht. its a cute feeling knowing you have known each other since little kids and now happily married. You don't see tht so much now. /:-)
  • I was with a man who went to prison and had ME on a choke chain so tight I lost all my friends and most of my family. Severely depressed is an understatement. Then I finally got away from him, and met the wonderful man who is now my husband, and we have two perfect babies coming soon! My husband really is my best friend :)
  • @preggointx same w my bd I dnt trust him even driving w my daughter. What part of texas are you from? Im from san antonio.
  • @i_anaya its not too late...one of my girlfriends has a set of twins and is getting married I'm july to a great guy.

    Just keep your heart and mind open to th possibilities.
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