Inconsiderate, Selfish, and Mean

Mommy_2_be_9_1_11Mommy_2_be_9_1_11
edited May 2011 in Pregnancy and fathers
My bd and I just got into our first real disagreement since I've been prego. He's been discussing with me taking this 6 week EMT course at the community college. Today I guess when he went to go apply he didnt get to register as fast as he thought and its guna take another week or two for everything to go through. So he comes and picks me up from work and automatically starts complaining about how he doesn't know what were guna do. Now I realize babies are by far cheap but heres a bit of background. I work 40 hours a week while he may work 15. Next month ill be starting school 12 hours a week and will still work 36 hours a week. Hes generally been pretty good about realizing that I am indeed pregnant and that im tired mostly all the time. But then today after he sat there and complained cuz things arent going exactly his way which they never do for anybody he had the nerve to sit there and tell me that hes working so hard and that I dont understand what working hard is. And blah blah blah. He has a two year old that I also come home and take care of as my own. He doesnt help around the house like I would like him too and I just cant believe he would sit there and say this to me! He really hurt my feelings and I almost broke down and cried but I dont even know what to say to him. He acts like hes the only one doing anything. Now hes talking about quitting his job to get this certification but he expects me to cover us financially until he gets it and another job. Plus ive been the only one buying anything for our soon to be here little girl. Im just so frustrated! This prolly all just sounds like a big complaint and it mainly is but what do you all think? I have been nothing but supportive of him going back to school but idk if I feel comfortable for the two of us plus his little boy for a couple months. The babies due in sept. What if he doesnt find a job right away? im guna be out of work myself for atleast 6 weeks. please help...am I just being an over hormonal pregnant women or do I have reason to be irritated and pretty hurt?

Comments

  • Mommyof4girlsMommyof4girls
    Tell him he has no reason to quit his little job and to either postpone his plans for school so you can save first for while he is there, or to man up like almost every other man w two kids and work for real. Im sorry I think you're doing your part and he's acting childish. He needs to get over it.
  • PrincessBPrincessB
    I would b mad too. Especially cus ur not jus sitting on ur ass doing nothing. But most guys blame us females when they can't accomplish wat they need too.. hopefully he apologizes. Cus he is in the wrong. Hope all is well! Goodluck!
  • bumpgirlbumpgirl
    Men always think work women do isn't work... wtf. He needs to get in gear cause when ur baby comes u need time off which means he needs to bring it all together...and get a full time gig. I worked 24/5 for nine months now I'm on unemployment and I deserve the break. I think it should be other way around, u working part time him full time... but what do I know lol
  • Bumby2011Bumby2011
    You have the right to be upset, as a mother. I would sit him down and tell him that he NEEDS to understand that you are BOTH having a child, and yes school is important but the child ALWAYS comes first, and if hes not going to help with finances YOU CAN and WILL do it alone since that is what hes pushing you to do. Any guy can make a baby but it takes a MAN to take care of one and taking care of one does NOT only mean that the guy is there to be called "dad". You have to play that role and if that means REALLY busting youre ass SO BE IT. its called life. Its not fair that hes throwing the majority on you.

    I would get equally pissy and let it be known that you also work and have double the responsibility, especially since youre holding his child while doing so! You have to train your man, yes train him because if not theyll walk all over you, to be appreciative.
    Good Luck MOM. %%-
  • pooh22pooh22
    U have the right to b mad NAW u have the right to b totally pissed acting like u dnt do anything wen ur working 40hrs n caring his child n taking care of another one I would've flipped him the bird n told him everything I do to help our family n also tell him if he quits ur gonna quit ur job cuz it ain't fair that he jus gonna put all the responsibility on u.
  • Mommy_2_be_9_1_11Mommy_2_be_9_1_11
    thank you everyone. I think the main reason im upset is that I dont complain...i dont havr.time to complain and I already knew this was guna be ruff but I feel like he should be on my side...we cant be on different sides. I understand hes stressed out but damn...how the hell does he think I feel ya know? Ill let you guys know if he apologizes when I cool down long enough to talk to his mean ass again.
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